The issue Khazan discusses in “No Spanking, No Time-Out, No Problems”, parents need to change their own behavior, before wanting to change their child’s behavior. Khazan confronts the issue of punishment along with behavior using a persuasive writing style to share her thoughts on punishment: “Punishment might make you feel better, but it won’t change the kid’s behavior” (Khazan 25). Khazan presents a child psychologist, Alan Kazdin’s to speak on parenting interventions. Along with parenting intervention, Khazan utilizes her interview with Kazdin, presenting a more of an understanding towards the issue of punishment. Utilizing Kazdin’s parenting interventions, he uses examples to prove that; punishment should not be used to fix negative behavior. “The way a parent utilizes parenting skills is a critical factor in a child's emotional growth” (“Lifespan Development.”). The author uses an example of using a game called the “tantrum game.” Kazdin applies this “tantrum game” to show parents that with just “tone,” a child can change their behavior without
The parenting style that is widely recognized as the “most effective and beneficial parenting style for normal children” is authoritative. This parenting style is demanding and responsive. The authoritative parenting style hold high expectations for their children while providing an understanding support (Hughes, 2013). An authoritative parent is one that remains in control and is both demanding and responsive with their children. They expect their children to hold a certain level of maturity. In this type of parenting style, the relationship between the parent and the child is very structured. The communication is very open between the two. The open communication allows the parent to provide a more understanding support. This way the child knows and understands, not only what their parents expect from them, but also the world around them. As
In the book The Glass Castle Jeannette Walls, the narrator displays her parent's parenting skills as authoritative. According to Cherry, Kendra. “Psychology: What They Are and Why They Matter.” The Four Styles of Parenting. she defines authoritative parents as being “... more nurturing and forgiving rather than punishment”.When Rex got upset about the Erma incident with the children “ I don't want to hear another word of this. Do you hear me” Walls 148. During this confrontation between the characters the dad ended up forgiving the children rather than punishing them. Since the parents are so forgiving, the article also states that “authoritative parents are responsive to their children and willing to listen to questions”Psychology: What They Are and Why They Matter.” The Four Styles of Parenting.
Ineffective parenting has so many impact on so many different levels; according to (Erikson, n.d.), “Theory of psychosocial development has eight distinct stages,’ ‘According to the theory, successful completion of each stage results in a healthy personality and the acquisition of basic virtues. Basic virtues are characteristic strengths which the ego can use to resolve subsequent crises. Failure to successfully complete a stage can result in a reduced ability to complete further stages and therefore a more unhealthy personality and sense of self.” Hence, the need for effective parental presence for guidance of proper development. As the popular saying goes, “A child learn what they live.”
The positively demonstrated authoritarian parent is strict. They have a set a rules and they demand their rules be followed. They don’t leave room for mistake and expect the very best for their children. An example of this type of parenting could be if a teenager arrives a few minutes late home from curfew. An Authoritarian parent would punish their teenager immediately and not find out why they were late. They simply see situations as black and white. A authoritative parent would be upset and worried and ask questions about why their child was late. Then they would come to a rational decision on whether it is punishment worthy. It could have been a flat tire, traffic, and miscommunication.
There are many factors that influence a child’s development but what role does a parent play in the development of a child? What defines a parent? Are parents important in a child’s life or at least the figure of one? A parent is a person that is or acts as a mother or father to someone. Parents play a big role in a child’s life and contribute largely to the development of the children. How so? Each parent has his or her own methodology as to how they would raise their child, this is called parenting style. A developmental psychologist Diana Baurmrind studied parenting styles during the early 1960s. The four parenting styles she developed was based on the actions and behaviors of parents and how they affect child development, paying close attention to four important areas involving a parents ' warmth or nurturance, discipline strategy, communication skills, and expectations of maturity. However, there are many different theories and opinions on the best way to raise a child as well as the amount of investments of time and effort a parent is willing to give to their child or children. This concept is broken up into four categories known as the four types of Parenting Styles; they are the Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive and Uninvolved Parenting.
1. My baby started walking and talking earlier than other babies. I know he will grow up to be a smart adolescent.
Based on the work of Diana Baumrind (1991), a developmental psychologist, Parenting Styles are commonly used in psychology today. Baumrind identified three initial parts of parenting styles: authoritative parenting, authoritarian parenting and permissive parenting style. Parenting Styles have a two-dimensional framework expanded by Maccoby and Martin (1983). The two dimensional parenting behavior are demandingness and responsiveness. Parenting styles are important, as it determines largely the kind of environment a child is raised in. And psychologist categorized parenting styles in four major groups: Authoritative, Authoritarian, Permissive, and Neglectful. And many have observed and found out that Authoritative parenting
Authoritative parenting often hold high expectations for their child, but manage their expectations with understanding and support for their child. They tend to encourage independence upon their child, and teach with nurturing and reason. Parents who use this type of parenting also rely on open communication with their child, which then implies a deeper understands. Results of having an authoritative figure is a child may develop self-responsibility, and high communication skills. Children also develop a sense of identity, and
The point of this research paper is to determine how different ways of discipling your child can impact their behavior. How a child is disciplined has a large impact on how they behave in different settings. First to learn about discipline it is important to define what discipline is. Discipline is the process of teaching your child what type of behavior is not acceptable and what type of behavior is acceptable. Discipline and how it is perceived can be impacted by societal views and the culture in which the child is raised; so, it is important to consider them when looking into how the child is behaving.
Nil’s neglected son experienced a very brief period of an innocent and blithe lifestyle; however, the baby in Carver Raymond’s “Popular Mechanics” is robbed of its adolescence almost immediately. This short story hyperbolizes the effects that a broken relationship has on a child. The couple fights over possession of the child, the woman thinking, "She would have it, this baby" (Carver 1). Throughout the story, the infant is referred to as an “it”, which implies that the baby’s parent’s view him or her as an object rather than a precious life. In the parents’ vain desire to prevail over one other, concern for the child’s safety completely vacates the their minds. As they continue their struggle, the child’s wails grow louder and louder. They
Authoritative parenting is the parenting style that my parents used when I was growing up. Growing up with this parenting style I have become independent and self reliant. Some characteristics of authoritative parents include: listening to their child, letting their child express their opinion, encouraging their children, giving them fair and reasonable consequences, giving their child the opportunity to express their reasoning, having expectations for their children, and most of all showing warmth and nurture to their child.
According to Cherlin, “The authoritative parent combines high levels of emotional support with consistent, moderate control of their children” (p. 275). This style is different than the authoritarian or helicopter style as it does not involve control, but instead explained discipline. Leslie Kendall Dye exhibits this style when she defends herself after being scolded for being a permissive parent “I have no tolerance for rudeness, for whining, for unwarranted aggression. I talk to my child frequently about empathy and manners. She has chores each morning and evening, and I ferociously police the number of toys in our house” (par. 9). The fact that she permits natural consequences and views setbacks as learning opportunities instead of controlled and unexplained discipline is the key difference between authoritative and authoritarian
Parenting is one of the most complicated, time-consuming full-time jobs in the world. According to Martin Davies, “Parenting or child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, financial, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood,” and although it is complicated and time consuming, there are only a few ways that parenting can be classified. Two of these parenting techniques are the authoritarian and permissive parenting styles. Both styles can be slightly effective, but neither are a better way to raise a child.
Discipline varies within cultures as well as from generation to generation. The article “Perspectives on Discipline” by Bonnie Neugebauer, expressed the common link between parents was the desire for their children to be confident, to be outspoken and in control so they are not taken advantage of. The parents wanted their children to be self-regulated, independent thinkers and responsible individuals. The parents wanted them to give respect to others as well as demand respect for themselves. The certain that if the children possessed these characteristics this would create a successful individual who is able to face life and any difficulties they may face.