Human Behavior: The Ideal Self And Real Self

Human behavior is a subject of much contemplation and controversy. There have been many theories throughout history to explain the inner workings of the human mind and the development of different traits and characteristics that make us each unique. Many of these theories have as many similarities as they do differences, but they all have at least some merit and can be utilized to better understand various behaviors in others and in ourselves. Whether we utilize Roger’s ideas concerning the struggle between real self and ideal self, study Freud’s stages of development and defense mechanisms, contemplate Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, or discuss Erikson’s psychosocial crises and the strengths to be gained in each stage, there is wisdom and insight to be gleaned from each theory. It is for this reason that we will discuss all four of these theorists separately and give our interpretations of the case of Destiny Hill, a woman who has faced incredible challenges throughout her life, from infancy to adulthood, and is struggling to overcome these traumatic experiences to improve her life and relationships. After learning about Carl Rogers and his self theory, it was clear that Destiny struggled with her ideal self and real self. A person 's real self, “has directly an effect on how a person feels, thinks, and acts in the world” (Aham & Tekke, 2015, p. 144). While a person’s ideal self,” briefly represents their strivings to achieve in their goals or ideals” (Aham & Tekke,