I am a highly introverted person and, just like any other introvert, I've never been fond of big crowds. In fact, I've never been fond of small groups of people if there's at least one person I'm not overly familiar with. I don't particularly like going out, meeting new people, make public performances or any other activities which involve people I don't know and me. I would much rather spend a Saturday night watching movies or reading than out in a club. Every day I go to school earlier hoping that I wouldn't meet anyone from school on the tram and be forced to talk to them. I rather search for things around store for half an hour than ask an employee. I text people when I'm outside their house so I wouldn't have to go inside and talk to their family. I even got lost a few times because that seemed more normal to me than asking a passenger for directions. …show more content…
Small talk about the weather while I'm waiting for the bus with just one person on the station? Not my thing. Asking for a book in a library when I can't find it myself? I'd rather search for it for hours. Calling a taxi? No, feeling anonymous in crowded buses is just fine. Seeing a famous person and asking for an autograph? No, watching them from the bushes is better. Making a phonecall to order a pizza? I'd rather be hungry. Despite everything I've just said, I am not a necessarily shy person. I have no problems with raising my hand and talking in class, participating in friends' conversations, attending small birthday parties, texting people I know... While I am mostly quiet, it's not a rule. If the topic of discussion is interesting enough, I'll be the loudest and most opinionated person in the group (small and familiar group,
"I'm antisocial, they say. I don't mix. It's so strange. I'm very social indeed. It all depends on what you mean by social, doesn't it?
Society believes that those who choose to stay away from others are mentally unstable, when in reality, they’re just introverted. People who avoid big crowds and strangers are often seen as weird or cynical, instead of scared or
Being a freshman in college is already hard enough, but joining a club is more of a push if you do not know many people at all . Lexcie Lewis was very anti social , had fews friends, and didn’t really care too much about joining clubs, because she felt she did not have the time to do so. In high school, Lexcie was always the quiet one that no one really new. She wasn’t so quiet, she just did not socialize with many. At home, she never went out and she was of a family person, she enjoyed staying home.
I was struggling to find out why I was losing sight of my favorite trait: being a social butterfly. When I first entered college, I was so energetic and spontaneous with all the people I met. But, after my sophomore year, I realized something changed within me. I stopped trying to keep friendships alive and barely surrounded myself with others, besides those who are close to me. Through this course and backpacking trip, I was able to gain insights on why I was like this.
"I'm antisocial, they say. I don't mix. It's so strange. I'm very social indeed. It all depends on what you mean by social, doesn't it?
I am more than just a shy, introvert. I am not quiet when I am expressing my ingenious opinions on Shakespeare's, Macbeth. I am not mute while my siblings are in my care. I am not impassive when I am galloping about my room with the radio blasting singing Pharrell’s “Happy” at the top of my lungs. Many have stated that I am a fluent speaker, outgoing, and confident.
In school I wasn’t exactly a loner, but I didn’t exactly fit in either. I had people to talk to but they wouldn’t stay for a long time, at least not long enough to be considered friends. Instead of having plenty of friends and getting in trouble for being too rowdy in the lunchroom, I was the Asian girl who fit the stereotype of being smart. The people who would come up to me usually only came to ask for help on classwork and I was too shy to approach other people due to being insecure. So to say my social and communication skills were bad was an understatement.
Every individual goes through different experiences that mold them into who they are. The combination of their genetic makeup, the environment in which an individual is exposed to, peers, culture, and many other factors determine who they are as an individual (Twenge & Campbell, 2016). This is also what is considered to be an individual’s personality. It is the greatest influence on how an individual will react in any given situation; not everyone will react the same in any situation. Personality is the recurring patterns of thoughts, behaviors, and feelings that can be seen across all situations and time (Twenge & Campbell, 2016, p. 6).
In Susan Cain’s book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking she proves that introverts are vital to the world and everything typically thought of “the quiet ones” is wrong. She starts the book by introducing the idea of the introvert. This term is derived from psychologist Carl Jung who basically invented the personality test. When deciding on a name for different types of individuals, he called the more reserved people who gain their energy from being alone and are typically not very open introverts.
Have you ever felt alone or isolated from the world? Well from being in middle school, I’ve learned that some people feel as if the world revolved around them. They do things they never would’ve done. Yet, they still do it just to try to fit in the crowd. From many experiences, I have learned that it’s ok to not be with the crowd since the crowd isn’t always the best option.
In Judith Guest’s, Ordinary People, the relationship between Beth and Calvin disintegrates as the story went on. In the beginning of the book, things for the most part seem fine. Even though they occasionally argue, it is evident that they both love each other and that they wouldn’t want to be with anyone else. Then something changes. As Conrad progressively and steadily improves, it seems that relations between Calvin and Beth grow worse.
I am extremely shy and try not to talk to people I do not know, but if I become comfortable around someone then I will talk a lot more. I believe that true friends are one of the most important things to have in life. As a result, I would rather have a small group of well known friends as opposed to a large group of somewhat known friends. When speaking, I feel that the smaller the group I am trying to talk to, the harder it is. For example, talking to new people at school causes me to feel stressed mainly because the people I am talking to will probably know somewhat about me, but public speaking comes easy to me because I know that the majority of the people I speak to will not speak to me ever
Epilogue If I could live my life over again I would probably just, try to be more of a social person. When I am put in with a group of people it takes me a while to get used to them feel comfortable around them. I feel like this has caused me to miss out on a lot of opportunities and friendships. When I go to events where I must socialize with new people I tend to find one of my friends and follow them around like a lost puppy, and just stand behind the playing with my hands and standing quietly rarely making any comments to the conversation.
I have always been a rather outgoing person when I am around my peers, but it used to be a different story for me outside of school. I never went out of my way to talk to adults because I had this
A person with social anxiety disorder finds it hard to interact in social situations, more commonly in unfamiliar situations, and thus has a very limited social circle. It becomes hard for a person to cope with social encounters, often causing distress and other negative emotional and physiological reactions (Nardi, 2003). There are various explanations of how one develops this disorder (Melinda Smith, 2014). Shyness plays