Introduction
Love is able to express in different way towards our daily life. For example, we have parents’ love, friends’ love, brothers’ love and romantic love etc. According to Erich Fromm, love is an important way for us to overcome the separateness between oneself and the world and the corresponding loneliness. However, how can we achieve it with a mature love instead of immature love? If it becomes immature love, what are the effects among parents and their child? Therefore, I am going to discuss and analyze the love between the parents and their child. Furthermore, I would like to talk about the phenomenon of helicopter parents in the following essay.
Definition of related concepts
Before discussing and expressing my own opinions and the illustration in the following essay, I would like to give you a brief definition about the related concepts.
According to Erich Fromm, love as an activity and is more about giving than receiving to view other part as a giver. Also, he stated the difference between the immature love and mature love, and there is an existence of transformation in them.
Immature love can be defined that “I love you because I need you.” It really relies on someone to support such as the emotionally and psychologically even financially. However, if someone cannot fulfill their needs and wants, they will look
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Up to our understanding, parental love toward their child is very common and acceptable. Most of the helicopter parents will over-protect or over getting involved in their child’s life such as the education, extra-curricular activities, and life etc. All of us clearly know that the reasons of their action are care about and hope their child have a better life in the future. This is one way of love expression from the parents. However, this new type of parental love seems to be unacceptable and immature in our society. Reasons as the
Showing authority and love can be portrayed by parents in various
In pages 232-281 of Freakonomics, Stephen Dubner and Steven Levitt cover the rights and wrongs of many parents’ thinking styles. The pros and cons of being a helicopter parent are discussed in the first half of the chapter. Eventually, the authors unanimously agree that it is better to let one’s child develop without constant supervision and influence from parents or guardians. Conversely, they also warn of becoming too distant from one’s child. They authors amplified the importance of striking a balance between giving a child space and still monitoring their lives.
The findings of the study by Lori N. Scott demonstrated the creation of a pattern showing that adolescent girls perceived quality of affection decreased at the start of adolescence, but stabilized towards the end. Such findings can be applied to My Virtual Life simulation because they support how children going through puberty tend to separate from their parents and strive for more independence in order to develop their own self. In my MVL I had a male son which also showed similar patterns of behavior .Between the ages of 12 to 17 Kade had a greater tendency to go against the parental decisions. However, as he turned 18 he seemed to appreciate more the parental advice which proves that a parental method of high affection mingled with a clear set of rules creates an environment where the child can create a good quality of attachment to the parents.
Love tends to effect each character’s action differently. For example, love is what motivated the plot of the story “The Valley of Girls” by Kelly Link. For instance, the Olds observed society and performed actions to make sure their children are aligned with success. Love and social status is what makes these people relate, or correlate with each other; it reminds me of a government politically develop by love and society. In “The Valley of Girls” by Kelly Link, from Teenagers and Old are motivated by two specific motives, which are love and social status.
Through a dissection of the play, an argument can be made proving that teenagers are capable of being in love; whether it be risking their lives and their family’s beliefs, disregarding social status, or literally killing themselves to be with one another. In Romeo and Juliet, Romeo is told by the nurse that Juliet is a Capulet: (Nurse to Romeo) “...her (Juliet’s) mother is the lady of the house” (Act I,
Analysis Joan Didion essay: On Going Home In ‘On Going Home’, the motivation of Joan Didion is her frustration with the city life of Los Angeles and its comparison with the ‘home life’ she had in Central Valley of California. The particular occurrence which intrigued her to write her thoughts is her visit to ‘home’ and ‘family’ at her daughters’ first birthday. The motivation to write the essay resides in her personal conflict as she observes her strong sense of belonging to her family values and the meaninglessness of these values in her current life with her husband.
Helicopter Parenting Helicopter Parents, Curling Parents, Lawnmower Parents, Blackhawk Parents; No matter the name you prefer, they all share the same meaning, extremely over-protective parenting. (“Helicopter Parents” 2) Helicopter Parenting is the act of over parenting in which the parents restrict the child’s actions and do for the child what him or her should be doing for themselves. Although Helicopter Parents’ intentions may be pure, the effects of such a thing are most definitely the opposite. Because Helicopter Parenting causes detrimental psychological and physical effects on adolescents and makes it challenging for them to transition into adulthood, parents need to be more aware of the damaging effects of their parenting style.
A parent’s love and care is a major key to makes their children feel special .For example, in the novel To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee, the Ewell family don't care what their children do or if they attend school. This represents not being an ideal parent and a parent who does not care about their children. Parents should show their love by using warm words, hugs and facial expressions. As a matter of fact, they should always explain something to their child calmly and out of love.
Often, parents can be overprotective of their children because they fear failure or because they want to protect them from potential harm. Despite their good intentions, children of overprotective parents are affected in their development and maturation and generally have a difficult time trusting in anyone other than their parents. This parenting method is known as helicopter parenting, like helicopters, they hover overhead, overseeing their child's life. The term helicopter parenting was first used in 1969 by Dr. Haim Ginott, the author of "Parents and Teenagers. " The term was in fact, composed by teenagers describing the behavior of their parents.
Helicopter parenting 1. Outline Parenting is a very controversial subject. Everybody has an opinion as to what is the ideal way of raising your child, and many prefer for people not to interfere in this decision, but what if you’re doing it the wrong way and in reality causing more harm than good? The term “helicopter parents” is known for it’s negative reputation as it typically describes a parenting style that is focused around patterns of being “overcontrolling, overprotecting and overperfecting.”
Our parents have always been supportive and made sure that we have had everything needed to be successful in school, but they did not necessarily have the opportunity to become helicopter parents. I do not consider this a negative thing because my younger siblings and I all appreciate the value of working hard to achieve our goals. My conclusion is that helicopter parenting done in moderation can be beneficial to children. It is when their parents start to value their grade point average more than happiness and the occasional failure that I believe that it is inly hurting the child’s ability to be successful
Researchers have defined “helicopter parenting” as parents who are too involved in their children’s life. This includes solving problems that children could solve on their own and making important decisions on their children’s behalf. This causes many problems in children. Helicopter parenting is wrong because it is invading a child’s privacy. A parent hovering is harmful to the child because it can cause a feeling of being overwhelmed by always having someone over their shoulder (“Here’s Why You Need to Stop Helicopter Parenting”).
The major shift in parenting styles started in the 1970’s pg81. Parents went from being the approvers to the ones vying for their children’s approval. It is also a growing trend amongst parents to accommodate their children’s wants into grownup
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Some of us define love by having a romantic date, the intimate feeling, having a caring, gorgeous and handsome partner, financially supportive partner, or a spoiler. These things are the definition of a “not really mature” definition of love. Love is sacrifice.