Guiding Your Child Behavior Assignment

Guiding your child behavior assignment

Jalisa A Braswell

CHS 111.92 ECE

December 13, 2015

When children become defiant, the child is not trying to disrespect, frustrate or annoy us. The goal is to feel important. But the child defiance threatens our own needs. We (the child and adult) try to feel important, easily getting entangled in a power struggle. The question to ask is, how do we know we are in a power struggle? You know when you get frustrate and irritated. You want to be the dominate person. Margaret Wilson stated, “But teachers never win power struggles. Once you’re in one, you lost. And so has the child: No one wins a power struggle.” (Margaret Wilson, 2013) One of the best way to avoid power struggle

Work with him or her in ways that honor his or her needs of feeling important. First build a positive teacher-student relationship. Even though the child is misbehaving let the child feel you still care about them, include them in activities, and recognize their success. Secondly, reinforce progress and effort. Let the child hear when they are doing good and improving. Don’t let them hear all the negative he or she has done. Make a point of observing the success of the child if big or small while following directions, doing things that might invites resistance. Supporting the behavior by letting the child know you have seen the behavior, but do it in private so other children want hear it. Thirdly, teach the child how to disagree respectfully. Let the child now the necessity of following rules, direction and later can discuss what is unfair and what changes is needed. Teach the child to use respectful words while expressing themselves like “I feel like,” or

They need to examine and resolve social problems, understanding what other thinks and feel, standing up for themselves in a respectful and fair way. Young children learn social skills eagerly when they understand the importance, and given examples they understand.

Reducing bullying in a Preschool and Kindergarten setting tips

Feeling management. Teach the child how to control emotion from preventing outburst and acting out against kids. Also offer relaxation technique for child to keep cool when getting mad.

Encouraging problem solving skills. Teach the child to learn how to work through disagreement by validating feelings, reaffirming problems, seeking for solutions. When learning how to resolve encounters your child will be more supportive and positive.

Provide positivity. Get a play date, let the children have a chance to practice listening, cooperating, listening and taking turn. Do group game.

Celebrate diversity. Interacting with peers, children can understand better, appreciate and respect, others.

Help build friendship. Invite children over for playdates, go to age-appropriate