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Reflective Essay On Living Alone

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In my room I have a little “shrine” on the inside of my closet door. I have clothespins that pin pictures around a mirror in the center of the door. Each picture, surrounding the door have positive messages attempting to make me reframe my conversations with myself and recognize that my value is equal to everyone else. The picture that resonates with me the most says “her life changed the day she realized she was as important as everyone else”. I am motivated by a need for validation. In school, with friends, in debate, on dates, and with my body image, I strive to be accepted and validated. While this makes me work hard, it also can tend to make me put aside my needs, desires and sometimes my safety. It is imperative for me to recognize that it is okay to stand up for myself, my needs, and desires. When I first began thinking about this paper, I thought that there was a separation of my most frequent conflict …show more content…

Thus, in this relationship I did almost anything to keep the peace. We never fought because I would accommodate or avoid things that were a source of conflict. Because of this I feel like some of the needs that I have were never addressed. Despite the stagnation I felt in the relationship, I tried to fill my desires of being successful by doing things that propelled me forward. I did 3 internships, traveled to multiple countries, and continued with activities like speech and debate. This stems into the second thing I have realized. I was comfortable with the relationship ending because I felt that we were going in separate directions. He was established in a good job and could see himself living in the same small town for the rest of his life. He was ready to get married and have children, something I do not perceive myself to be near ready to do. The perceived differences and divides were so large that neither of us attempted to even address the needs, goals and desires of the other

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