Connie and her mother have a relationship filled with tension. Her mother seems to favor June who is Connie’s older sister. The story kicks off with Connie and her friends going to a restaurant where mainly older kids hang out. She meets a guy named Eddie, they start to talk and she breaks apart from her friends. While Connie and Eddie were talking an odd man pulled up aside Connie, his name was Arnold Friend.
Where are you going where have you been written by Joyce Carol Oates. Depicts a girl named Connie who spends time with her friends at night at a plaza. Instead of shopping Connie and her friends decide to go across the highway towards a restaurant where older kids would gather. While at the restaurant Connie meets a boy and decides to stay at the restaurant to eat with him while her friends go to the movies. While Connie is returning back to the plaza to meet her friends she glances to the side to see a guy with black shaggy hair.
Everywhere she goes, including her front lawn, she dresses and acts in ways expected of teenage girls. Now it can be argued that being able to act like a teenage girl is a freedom, but in this story, it almost seems as if Connie has to act like a teenage girl. For example, when Connie is in the drive-in restaurant and decides to leave with Eddie, but is unsure of leaving her friend alone, Eddie assures her that her friend will not be left alone for long (insinuating another male will pick her up), and when Connie and Eddie leave together, Connie looks around to make sure that others are aware of her triumph, “…the boy said that she wouldn’t be alone for long. So they went out to his car, and on the way Connie couldn’t help but let her eyes wander over the windshields and faces all around her…” (2). What Oates might be trying to sound out by Eddie being confident that Connie’s friend will find a guy shortly after Eddie found her, is that girls live a life full of expectations.
She does this by developing a protagonist, Equality-72521, who seeks to have the privilege of exploring and taking risks. Equality-72521 lives in a society that shames him for being curious and having an imagination different from the others around him by telling him that he should not be different from others. By placing him into this situation, Rand proves to her readers that the only way to success is through trust in oneself, even through failures and the doubt of others. Rand depicts the theme that self-reliance on one’s own thoughts, actions, and curiosity is the key to success in her novel, Anthem, by showing her readers that taking risks is necessary to learn new things.
.sure her own [looks were] all right” (988), wanted to become independent and do things that not every girl her age does, faces a male who wants her, but she does not want him, she begins to become afraid. The story shows that Connie was not prepared for Arnold Friend’s despite her actions beforehand. Connie is the opposite of her sister, June. June is a goodie-to-shoes while Connie wants to be her own person. Her mother always nags on Connie saying that she should be like June who follows the rules and is a good role model.
Joyce Carol Oates’ “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?” leads the reader to believe both Connie and Arnold Friend battle with their identity. As Oates begins the story, she introduces Connie as “shallow and vapid” (Slimp); more obsessed with herself to notice the real world around her. Connie had a tendency to look “one way when she was at home and another way when she was away from home” (Oates 1), showing the reader she was two sided. Connie’s need to change her identity based on her location can very much stem from a lack of self-confidence. This can also be seen with Arnold Friend.
Her tragedy is that she realises knowledge too late for her to have the agency to change anything. While Helga loses her agency, The Bloody Chamber shows the narrator to escape repression through the help of her mother. Knowledge is portrayed to be an end goal by both female protagonists and both give in when they come to difficult realisations. One interpretation is that the women are punished for seeking knowledge. Another is that they are faced with the result of not pushing themselves further once they arrive at the truths that sit uncomfortably with them.
In Joyce Carol Oate’s “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?”, the coming of age message is to avoid living in your childhood fantasies so much that you can’t face the realities of adulthood. Connie is a fifteen years old girl who wants to act mature but constantly living in her childhood fantasies. When it comes to her craving of acting like a grown up, she goes to the Big Boy restaurant with her friends but left them behind when a boy is asking her to go out for dinner. When she gets home, she dreams that ‘the boy’ she met last night whose ‘sweet, gentle’ and just like ‘in the movies and promised in songs’(52). Sweet and gentle are being expressed as imagery to describe the boy that Connie met the night before.
It is not the protagonist fault of her decisions made during the incident, but the mothers. Summary In “Where are you going, where have you been? Introduces Connie a teenager who is fifteen years old. While out with her friends at night at the plaza she runs across the highway to a restaurant. She enjoys the attention she receives from guys leading to one being the antagonist.
The short story “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?” by Joyce Carol Oates can be interpreted in a multitude of ways due to its ambiguity. A psychological lens, however, provides the most accurate viewpoint for analyzing the story as it clarifies certain obscure scenes and actions of Connie. One psychological issue of Connie that is easily inferred from the beginning of the story is her insecurity about her looks. Connie constantly worries about the way that she looks and takes any opportunity to do so, “craning her neck to glance into mirrors or checking other people's faces to make sure her own was all right” (1). Connie does this because she needs to be reassured that she is in fact pretty.
My Senior year was supposed to be a a time to remember but it was not. I got into my first accident. My friend and I wanted to go eat after school. We all meet up in the parking lot. We decided to go to Chick fil a. Chick-fil-A was a long way from our school so we car pooled.
She feels bad leaving her friend at the restaurant, but that doesn’t stop her from leaving with a stranger. That’s when she meets another creepy stranger in the parking lot in his car a few feet from her “it was a boy with shaggy black hair; In a convertible jalopy painted gold” (Oates, 389). Who turns out to later be her