Interpersonal Communication Research Paper

An example of how communication is personal in my life is when I had a crush on a girl when we were both in the eighth grade. After a while we found out that we both liked each other, but I was told not to date until I was sixteen so I told her that we should wait. She understood at first but then became skeptical that we would still like each other for that long, let alone even be friends. She kept asking me and pressuring me into being in a relationship so much, that we completely stopped even being friends. I didn’t talk to her after that and we went our own ways. The specific communication part of my example is the topic of love from lecture. We talked face to face every single day and then continued to text when we left school. And with every relationship there were conflicting tensions that we ignored. We continued to ignore them until it ruined our relationship

It was my personal feelings and our failure to work things that ruined the relationship. Like in the article by Alexandra Schwartz where she writes about the therapist Esther Perel. In the article Schwartz writes about one couple where the husband cheated on the wife and they continued to argue without trying to compromise or see the other person’s point of view. “The husband tells his wife that sleeping with her was like having sex with a corpse. “Come in five minutes then leave me—that is my sex life!” the woman retorts.” (Schwartz). This is similar to my example of communication. Clearly not the part where one of us cheated, but the fact that we both wanted something different and that we never tried to see the other person’s perspective or try to work it out. The couple was married so they had a little more commitment than an eighth grade crush, but it was still some kind of relationship that completely failed due to poor communication and unresolved conflicting