It is typical tendency of the Indian man that he does not understand the emotional needs of his wife. Instead, he blames her that she is more demanding and expecting from him. It is also important to note that there should be mutual understanding between any relationships to keep it long-lived and meaningful. Hemant and Astha, both fail to understand each other. Though she has all in life, she feels something is missing which makes her restless and distressed. When she tries to share her feelings with her husband, he neglects her and feels alienated and lonely in her life. She finds no room of her own in her own house. Joya Chakaravarty’s observation in “A Study of Difficult Daughters and A Married Woman” is important in this context, she observes: …show more content…
The author explores the changing mentality and failure to adjust the surroundings. Hemant too changed from liberal America returned man to typical Indian man. At the time of the first baby, he told his wife and other family members that he never differentiates between a girl and boy-baby but for the next time he adheres to have a boy-baby. Kapur has described the typical mentality of a man who says, “I want to have my son soon,” declared Hemant, looking emotional and manly at the same time. “I want to be as much a part of his life as Papaji is of mine” (Kapur 61). He becomes typical orthodox Indian man who thinks only son as his heir. He declares to Astha that he wants his son soon, but when she asked if not son then what he would do. It is very noteworthy to state a typical mentality of an Indian man. Hemant says, “Of course we will have a son, and we don’t need to stop at two” (Kapur 51). Joya Chakravarty comments in “A study of Difficult Daughters and A Married Woman” about the typical orthodox views of a man:
Hemant’s desire to have a son and his insistence that he would not stop until he has one, makes Astha dissatisfied and uneasy, she cannot fathom her man” (Chakravarty 202).
Astha dreamed of an ideal husband who valued her, respects her views but all her dreams became shattered. His views towards her changed. He became typical Indian husband after birth of the first baby. Astha becomes distressed due to the changed attitude of her husband. She feels alienated and finds no room of her own in her married life. However, Astha continues her search of happy life. Then Astha’s life changes by the entry of Aijaz Akhtar Khan, a theater artist in her
He will stand tall and proud and be forever free. I shall teach him my native language and tell him of the beauties of my homeland. If it is a girl, I shall name her Afi, after the one who loved me and helped me find my destiny. I will tell this child of her ancestors and her grandparents and tell her the stories my father told me. My child shall never be enslaved, Amari vowed fiercely” (Draper 262).
Adnan’s and Hae’s relationship in high school was a story of love where both loved each other. At first, they had all love for each other and both went to prom together. As the relationship aged, it started going downhill for both of them, both Adnan and Hae started to see the struggles in their
In colonial North America, the lives of women were distinct and described in the roles exhibited in their inscriptions. In this book, Good Wives the roles of woman were neither simple nor insignificant. Ulrich proves in her writing that these women did it all. They were considered housewives, deputy husbands, mistresses, consorts, mothers, friendly neighbors, and last but not least, heroines. These characteristics played an important role in defining what the reality of women’s lives consisted of.
He has such pride in himself and, he has accomplished that after he has already betrayed his brother, he allows one of his sons to grow up poor and steals the truth of their identity from both of them. All the while alienating the son he barely acknowledged and making him resent the other. Baba’s refusal of cultural norms could have benefited him and how he built up his son’s self esteem and self security but instead it made him “perfect” in some ways and vain, arrogant and self absorbed in others. And in the end he was too proud to ask for help and too ashamed to admit his life's
(Hosseini, page no.18) .Amir takes his Baba’s affection toward Hassan-Baba’s servants’ son-in the wrong way for Hassan always showed a lot more similar qualities to Baba than Amir ever did. In an attempt to win his Baba’s
Summary “Arranging a Marriage” by Serena Nanda is a true story that occurred in India. The narrator tells us how marriage is arranged in India. The author tried to help her Indian friend to find a wife for her son. Throughout helping Nanda found that was not so easy to find a good match for her friend’s son. Nanda illustrates the importance of compatibility an arranged Indian weddings.
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Rahim acts as a physical link between the characters and themes of the story, a middleman that deepens the context of the plot. The role of a father-figure, shared by Baba and Rahim Khan is a complex relationship that heavily impacts Amir’s actions and emotions. Whilst Baba is the biological father and role model of Amir, it is Rahim Khan who is the one to provide emotional support, and stability. Amir’s selfish tendencies are a result of the lack of affection that is given to him by Baba, a man who wants to, but struggles to find similarities between himself and Amir.
To begin the novel, Hosseini leads the reader to believe that all Amir wants is love and approval from his father. Amir is not exactly the son that Baba dreamed of having and because of
Amir strived to satisfy his father and earn his approval, yet Baba was often unimpressed with his accomplishments; this resulted in Amir longing
Portrayed as the strong, dedicated, stereotypical, maternal type, Ama attempts to protect her little girl at all costs. Whenever Lakshmi wants go to the city to work, Ama refuses by saying, “‘Lakshmi, my child,’ she says. ‘You must stay in schools, no matter what your stepfather says.’” (McCormick, 1). She breaks the gender boundaries early on the first page of the book by defying the man of the households wishes and undermining his needs.
In “I Want a Wife,” an essay by Judy Brady, the author argues that the roles of a wife are unfair and more demanding than a husband 's, thereby they are treated as lesser than a man. Brady supports her claim by, first, introducing herself as a wife, showing her empirical knowledge; secondly, cataloging the unreasonable expectations of a wife; finally ending the essay with an emotional and thought-provoking statement, “My God, who wouldn’t want a wife?” Brady’s purpose is to expose the inequality between the roles of a husband and of a wife in order to show that women do not belong to men and to persuade women to take action and spread feminism. Based on the sarcastic tone in “I Want a Wife,” Brady was writing to feminists in the 1960s in order to rally them to create change.
However, this can pose as a challenge because Asmina originally fled from her country because of ‘war’ and the lack of help she and Filmon received from the ‘corrupted police force’. If an intervention order becomes necessary, it may be a challenge because of her preconceptions from her experiences (Lee Hong-Jae, & Youngan Lee,
Buvanasvari A/P Palakrisnan AEK140003 ACEA 1116 Elements of English Literature Dr. Nicholas Pagan Paper #3 From “Marriage” By Marianne Moore This institution, perhaps one should say enterprise out of respect for which one says one need not change one’s mind about a thing one has believed in, requiring public promises of one’s intention to fulfill a private obligation: I wonder what Adam and Eve think of it by this time, this firegilt steel alive with goldenness; how bright it shows— “of circular traditions and impostures, committing many spoils,” requiring all one’s criminal ingenuity to avoid!
Kate Chopin is the author of the most popular short story "The Story of an Hour". Chopin paints a bleak picture of marriage in this story. It is a short story focusing on a young married woman of the late nineteenth century as she reacts to the news that her husband has died in a train accident. The story was written in a time period when women did not really have right to express their feeling and desire. Women were supposed to stay home and take care of the family whereas the husbands went out to work.