Child support exists for a reason. Yet most parents who leave a child’s life do not pay this, causing problems for the rest of the family. While divorce affects everyone, studies show that it affects preschoolers/younger children more. Lesley Foulkes studied the effects, coming to the conclusion that, “Preschoolers tend to be "emotionally needy," have fears related to abandonment, and may display acting-out behaviors following their parents' divorce or separation. Preschooler are likely to become very distressed during visit exchanges.
The findings obtained from parents and teachers do have some conflicts with each other. Teachers agree that there is a relationship between time lapse and internal problems while parent’s response is totally opposite to it. Teacher’s findings shows that children have more problems at age 12 when they experience the divorce more recently as opposed to less recently. From my point of view, I agree to this statement because, period of adjustment to the problem could play a big role here. For those children who experience parental divorce recently might not have enough time to adjust to the new situation where he or she have to live with any one of his or her parents instead living with both of them.
Children from separated families are more likely to suffer psychological symptoms such as dependency, low self- esteem, anxiety and depression (Di Stefano & Cyr, 2014). Children often experience ineffective or diminished parenting following divorce (Hetherington, 1999). The loss of important relationships, particularly for children of divorce can be an emotionally upsetting consequence, and Braver and O’Connell suggest that two to three years after divorce, 18-25% of children have no contact with their fathers (Braver & O’Connell, 1999). These children not only experience the breakup of their families but also the eventual loss of one parent. Avoidance of contact may however be healthy for children of violent fathers (Kelly & Johnston, 2001).
Why do people take vows if they do not intend to live up to the vow? Divorce has adverse effects both on the parents and their children in the future. Most children from divorce families have problems in the future, for instance lack of parental guidance, which might lead to behavioral, psychological, and academic problems. In addition, parents can develop health risks after divorce. People get divorce because they have their own problems, it can be anything, and if they have children it gets even worse.
Other behaviors that are common are refusal to spend time with one parent, becoming overburdened with responsibilities and other behaviors likely serve to meet the child’s needs, and feeling guilty. Children associated specifically with parental divorce have been seen
These risks include depression and a tendency to have relationship and social problems with one or both parents. The effects of having divorced parents may still be apparent when the child becomes an adult, and can create problems in their own marriage. A study conducted on college students found that having a more positive family experience, is more likely to result in a more positive attitude and the certainty that they were in control of their own lives (Goldsmith, 2000). Thus, media is not the only influence responsible for shaping who we
Live-in relationship also affects their children. In general, children’s emotional development is poorer if a parent is cohabiting than if a parent is married. This poor development is partly due to the high risk that the couple will break up. If the couple does separate, the children pay an economic price, since they have no right to child support from a partner who is not their biological parent. They also pay an emotional price when they lose a caring adult who may have taken a parental role but will do so no longer.
Divorce is a word that can be define as a disconnected relationship between a mother and father or separation of parents due to some problems happened in the family that cannot be solved. Divorce can affected the family relationship especially the children. “Divorce and separation can breed bad blood between parents and children when one partner uses the children to target the other partner.” (Amy,2008). Divorce can give some problems to the young children and teen that make them respond differently and can be solved by the parents need to take some actions that can save the children in the family. As mentioned by Carl (2011), divorce introduces a massive change into the life of a child no matter what the age.
One of the main problems from divorce is the impact on children. Children will always be under pressure, especially when they see their parents always fight in front of their own eyes. Divorce also causes children to lose the love of their parents. They will look for an outsider to share the love. If mistakenly choosing friends, they would get stuck with social problems.
The life course perspective helps one to better conceptualize the links between experiences in later life to those from earlier life stages and of older family members to younger ones (Connidis, 2010). Historically, if a married couple were unhappy in their marriage, divorce was not the solution due to the social stigma attached to it. However, as society progressed and revolutionized, divorce has become quite common, the divorce process, not only affects the couple, but the families and children involved as well. Research shows that children who have experienced parental divorce are more likely to expect to divorce, compared to children of intact families (Churchill & Fagan, 2012). This shows the interconnectedness of one’s childhood impacting adulthood in one stage of life.