Life after adoption can be very strenuous for adoptive parents. In many cases, new adoptive parents are not made aware of their newly adopted child's medical past. This includes parents being unaware of the child's mental deficits and disorders, which can lead to dangerous situations. In one instance, a family adopted a nine-year-old girl from a Russian orphanage and were not made aware of the young girl’s mental disabilities or her violent tendencies. They were only discovered by the parents when the girl attempted to kill their four-year-old biological son.
The earlier on in childhood the abuse or neglect was, the more repetitive and severe the self harm is (109). The stereotypes that people have against self harm are not necessarily true. The reason behind why some people who experienced chronic child abuse self harm is because they want to release the feeling of emotional pain that they cannot bear because they see it as “a form of self-preservation” ironically, the people who do self harm are not pleased with their behavior and are often “ashamed and disgusted” by it
In the memoir The Glass Castle, by Jeannette Walls, her parent’s values are different from hers and her siblings. Specifically, Walls remembers a time where her and her brother found a ring and their mother took it from them: “She was keeping it… to replace the wedding ring her mother had given her, the one Dad had pawned shortly after they got married. “But Mom,” I said, “that ring could get us a lot of food.” “That’s true,” Mom said, “but it could also improve my self-esteem. And at times like these, self-esteem is even more vital than food.”” (186). Obviously, Walls’ mother would rather do things for herself than provide for her children’s needs.
After recalling a broken childhood, Sedaris looks back and realizes that there were many things he did not understand as a child. The treatment and attitude of his mother have helped Sedaris to understand that some things are just too complicated, and that the solution to those issues is not a single step. Being able to realize this helped to justify his mother’s attitude towards him and his siblings, confirming that a family is still a family despite the challenges along the way. In order to connect and understand the people around us, a person must first look past the appearance of someone and dig deeper, as there is more to a person than just what they choose to
Things like “ your own parents didn’t even love you”, “no one wants you,” those hit hard and never leave. After hearing someone say something so cruel, for them to even begin to understand a whole story would need to be told. Adopted children try everything they can to forget about what they’ve been through and to find ways to grow from it, but going to school, walking the streets or even just being in public will constantly remind them of all the feelings they try to hide, those memories suddenly flood right back in. Comments as harsh as that can impact the future of those children potentially holding them back from all they are capable of. This is considered a form of bullying, or in some cases harassing.
Each child has the picture mounted in their house. “We have this very nice picture of a very happy moment” Lorrie says, “but every time I look at it, I remember the families that weren’t reunited, and the ones that aren’t being reunited today—many, many families—and I think, I’m one of the lucky
This is shown in The Bone Sparrow, an award-winning novel which highlights the circumstances in australian refugee camps. The Bone Sparrow utilises many points of view - first point of view is demonstrated by not one, but two characters.
When I was in the third grade, my parents sat my brother and I down and announced that they were getting a divorce. Most children would have been shocked or devastated by the news, but I wasn 't; I was actually excited. Sadly, I was unaware of the trials and tribulations a divorce entails, especially one that last 8 years. When I was growing up, I never truly witnessed a “functional” marriage like that of one you might see in movie. I never saw my parents hug, kiss, hold hands, or say “I love you” to one another.
God not only created us but also loves us unconditionally and we need to channel that love towards our neighbors and children. Jesus was very sensitive towards children and spoke harsh words to anyone who misguided little children “But if anyone causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a large millstone hung around his neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.” The Bible talks about how parents should treat their children with love and care (Ephesians 6:4, Colossians 3:21). Even though we do not see the bible addressing child abuse directly, we do see that God loves children and they are very close to his