At first glance, both Jesus and Aristotle seem to imply that we should learn to love ourselves first, then can we love the others in a similar manner. Nevertheless, the love promoted by Jesus is essentially different from that of Aristotle. First, Aristotle suggested that a man “ought to love himself best” (IX 8, 1168b11), whilst Jesus did not emphasize on the importance of self-love. He did not suggest that “you should love your neighbors after you love yourself”. Rather, he said we ought to love our God and our neighbors more.
These feelings make up warmth in a relationship. In a relationship, passion refers to motivations and other sources of arousal which turn into attraction, romance, and sexual intimacy. Decision and commitment includes components that are short-term and long-term, where decision is the choice for one to love another in the short-term and commitment is the long-term maintenance of that love. Included in this are cognitive elements that are part of decision making regarding the choice to commit to a relationship. While love can be separated into components, Sternberg suggests that it is important to not forget about love as a whole when delving deeper into interpretation of each of the
Both Plato and his student, Aristotle, wrote about friendship and love around two thousand and three hundred years ago. Both “The Symposium” by Plato and “Nicomachean Ethics” by Aristotle are great classics about love and friendship. Plato believes that love is a necessity in everyone’s life as it helps us gain happiness and courage in life, or even in death; while Aristotle considers friendship as the most important thing in mankind. Although Plato’s and Aristotle’s ideology is slightly different, both of their works bring out the importance of “eudaimonia” – the final aim which we all should achieve: to do something that can bring us happiness. Aristotle classifies friendship into three different types according to different kinds of affection:
In the book, Groundwork for the Metaphysics of Morals, Immanuel Kant argues that the general concept of morality is divided into two rules of reason. The first rule of reason for morality is the hypothetical imperative. These imperatives include characteristics such as customs, fashion, happiness, prudence, taste, art, i.e. As Kant reasons in his work, “The hypothetical imperative that represents practical necessity of the action as a means to furthering happiness is assertotic. One may expound it as necessary not merely to an uncertain, merely possible aim, but to an aim, that one can presuppose safely and a priori with every human being, because it belongs to his essence.
The pinnacle of Scheler’s development of a Christianity philosophy comes in his explanation in the origins and enactment of the philosophy of Christian love. Scheler describes this love as “a love which makes it seem frightful that only some should be ‘good’, while the others are ‘bad’ and reprobate”. By saying this, Scheler means that the love of a Christian not only values goodness and virtue within oneself, but that the love extends so far onto the other person that it desires that he or she be good and virtuous, also. Scheler describes this as a “sense of solidarity” with the other person, and says that “in this affection for the sinners I find no ressentiment”. This is a consequence of the new Christian philosophy that love transcends the material value of the person and instead treasures their inherent worth.
The Ladder of Love is a highly complex, abstract treatise about beauty, which bring up the idea that love is about pursuing philosophy and the beautiful things, not sexual intercourse. But Plato must have known the Ladder of Love alone is not enough to deliver this idea. It will be scorned and rejected by everyone.He opt, instead, to make the idea more digestible by setting up a contrast between Socrates and Alcibiades, Plato hold up Socrates as the perfect ideal of beauty, as the true lover, the one who loves the truly beautiful and good, and want to own them forever(Symposium, 206E, 207A). Alcibiades´s speeches and ideals, on the other hand, completely contradict those of Socrates. He is portrayed as a honor loving man, who seek knowledge, and by extension, Socrates, not because it will bring him toward the true beauty, but because of the power and the prestige it could bring him.
According to Saint Augustine, man inevitably loves because he is limited. Within man, there is a need which only love can fill. And this love cannot be found within oneself, which is why it is necessary for us to go beyond ourselves when we love. The act of love entails fastening one’s affections to an object of love, which are usually objects, other persons, oneself, or God. While all objects may become legitimate objects of love, we must recognise that each object of our love can only provide us with so much happiness and satisfaction.
He advocates for selflessness and sharing the love with others so that it is not wasted. In Sonnet 4 he writes, “.. Why doust thou abuse/ The bounteous largess given thee to give?/ Profitless usurer, why dost thou use/ So great a sum of sums yet canst not live?/For having traffic with thyself alone,/ Thou of thyself thy sweet self dost deceive” (5-10). Shakespeare is saying that it would be a shame to not share the gifts that you have been given with others and to just use them to support and preserve yourself. He goes on to say in sonnet 2, “Then being asked where all thy beauty lies,/.. To say within thine own deep-sunken eyes/ Were an all-eating shame and thriftless praise./ How much more praise deserved thy beauty’s use/ If thou couldst answer, ‘This fair child of mine..’” (5-10). He reiterates his point through these lines by expressing the idea that because beauty will inevitably fade, it might as well fade while doing something honorable for someone else, like raising a
Douglas Cooper in From Eros to Agape (2013) asserts we should move from the Eros to Agape. You know from that passionate human longing (lustful love) to a deep inner heartfelt, soul seeking love; His love. Agape is genuine, unconditional love, a generosity of spirit which gives and expects nothing in return. It is the love that God has for us. It is love at the highest level.
Memories with your love one is very important so as long as you can, you express your feelings, love and dedication to them. I therefore that “Love is blind”. Love is you love your person with no reasons and you can’t explain it. I’m very touched and emotional to the part on how they become happy, by loving their weaknesses and trust to each other. In a relationship, no matter what happen you will do your best just to protect your love one.