Stephanie Ericsson, someone intrigued by the subject of lying, targets middle-aged adults with families in "The Ways We Lie. " She wants them to realize the different ways that everyone can lie in order to see when they are being deceived and not allow it. By putting herself on the same level as her audience, she allows the audience to know that they can empathize with each other. She appeals to the audience 's values about how lying has a bad connotation to it so they feel confused.
People often find themselves in circumstances or situations that they have to lie. Individuals deceive each other for several reasons such as because the truth may cause pain or deceive another into believing a false statement or even lie simply because what they do best is deception. Indeed, deception can occur in several ways. An obvious choice of deception is telling an outright lie, it can also be by circumventing the truth, or disguise the truth, overstate the truth, or even casting doubt at the truth (Hippel and Trivers, 2015). It appears that deception is a way of individuals avoiding unpleasant truths about themselves or in people’s interpersonal relationships.
The Skin That We Speak The way a person speaks is a direct link to a person’s culture and the environment which he or she was raised in. A person’s language, skin color as well as economic status influences the way he or she is perceived by others. Lisa Delpit and eleven other educators provide different viewpoints on how language from students of different cultures, ethnicity, and even economic status can be misinterpreted due to slang and dialect or nonstandard English by the teachers as well as his or her own peers. The Skin That We Speak: Thoughts on Language and Culture in the Classroom by Lisa Delpit and Joanne Kilgour Dowdy, who collected essays from a diverse group of educators and scholars to reflect on the issue of language
Rhetorical Analysis Most people tend to believe that lying is a way of life, that without it the whole world could crumble and fall. While some tend to believe that any form of lying is a sin and there should be consequences. One author, Stephanie Ericsson, wrote “The Ways We Lie” published in 1993 she talks about how we all lie, it has become an everyday chore to make life easier. She begins by trying to strengthen the bond between the reader and writer showing how they are one of the same. She does this by referencing past experiences, adding informed opinions, and using quotes from other well acknowledged authors, her argument is strong throughout the whole article that lying isn’t just evil, it can be used for good when used the right way.
Stephanie Ericsson begins her explorative essay, “The Ways We Lie,” with a personal anecdote of all the lies she fabricated in one day. She told her bank that a deposit was in the mail when it was not, told a client that the traffic had been bad when she was late for other reasons, told her partner that her day was fine when it was really exhausting, and told her friend she was too busy for lunch when she just was not hungry, all in the course of a day. She shifts from talking about herself to talking about everyone, claiming that all people lie, exaggerate, minimize, keep secrets, and tell other lies. But, like herself, most still consider themselves honest people. She describes a week in which she tried to never tell a lie; it was debilitating, she claims.
In “Teens Do Their Share of Lying”, an article written by Loretta Ragsdell reports why, when, and how teenagagers lie, as well as how we learned to lie so well. Ragsdell expresses her discoveries by gather many teens and questioning them on the situations they have told lies in, how they tell their lies and why they believe it is okay to lie in these situations. In conclusion, Ragsdell believes all teens do their share of lying, however, she now knows when, where, why, what, and how teens do their own share of lies.
In “The Way We Lie”, author Stephanie Ericsson gives her readers a list of ten lie we sometime use it for a purpose and sometime we did not realize we did it. She starts out her story with four lie she used in the same morning as she is starting out her day. She explains these lie are intentionally use to minimize the complications and make the day goes much smoother. However, she questions whether these lie can actually make an impact on the person who carry out and the person who receive the lie.
Lying is the most committed sin. Everyday people lie whether small or big. Every human knows that lying should not be exercised, but sometimes, in certain situations, lying is necessary due to the consequences of telling the truth. In the Bible, James 3:8, quoted is “But no human being can tame the tongue, it is a relentless evil, full of deadly poison.”
Deception is a powerful tool in seeking a certain motive; therefore,
The stereotypes have brought negative recognition to these ethnic groups. According to an article by Simply Psychology, stereotypes can interfere when an introduction to another race occurs. An individual might sum up the person characteristic based on the stereotypes of the person’s ethnicity. An individual can assume that all Asian Americans are Chinese, and therefore can speak the Chinese’s language as well. This is a negative stereotype of an Asian American that they encounter in their own country.
Sex, Lies and Conversation There are many differences between a man and woman, communication is just one difference. Deborah Tannen, a University of California graduate, got her PhD in linguistics at Georgetown University; there she studied the communication between men and women. Tannen has published over one hundred articles and wrote over twenty books, including You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation (1990), which spent almost four years on the New York Times best seller list and was translated into twenty-nine languages. The article Sex, Lies and Conversation appeared in the Washington Post in 1990 and gives insight to how opposite sexes communicate with each other. From an early age we are programed to play and be friends with the same gender as our own.
Taking acceptable lies outside the court room, one can see how deception affects and closes off entire groups of people. In Eunhye Cho’s essay, “My Synonyms and Antonyms,” she tells the hardships she faced growing up. Cho described growing up as an Asian-American she has to face my synonyms—or stereotypes—about being Asian. These stereotypes “tethered and suffocated [her] throughout [her] childhood” (Cho 13). Not only did her parents automatically place certain expectations onto her, her peers also assumed Cho to possess certain attributes because she was Asian; the treated her accordingly.
In addition, many people don’t expect Asians to be able to understand English at all; simply because they are Asian, they are viewed as foreigners who don’t understand the language. When an Asian worker met a customer he conversed with over the phone, the customer will exclaim, “‘I didn't realize you were Asian.’... and on the other side when I met them what I really want to say was, ‘Oh, I couldn't tell you were black over the phone either’” (Tuan 113). Many people in America wrongfully make assumptions about people just by the way they speak.
In her book ‘Minority invisibility’, Wei Sun demonstrates the struggle of the minority groups of the United States in adapting and engaging in the society. She elucidates how the Asians in America feel more relaxed talking to others from their group, and vice versa, further indicating the effect of nationality and ethnicity on social activities. Furthermore, if one is from country “A”, he probably feels more comfortable talking to others from country “A”. Similarly, an Emirati feels more relaxed socializing with another Emirati Psychology theories demonstrate how a person fears what he does not comprehend; furthermore, in most cases, the two individuals communicating do not apprehend one