Commercials, television shows, movies, and music all extenuate the failures of men when it comes to emphasizing family life. The issue is seen as a two-way road, prioritize a career or put family first, which is not a fair circumstance. What kind of man puts a replaceable job before his loved ones? Clearly, it is really not a decision after all. For example, in the hit television show, This Is Us, one of the main characters is a father with a heavily demanding job while his three daughters grow into adolescence.
The author makes it clear that there is not really a way for men to shrug their responsibilities of being the breadwinner in a marriage and to still retain their status of being masculine, or their manhood. This harsh reality prompts the actions of men and makes it clear as to why men may even enter loveless marriages in order to keep their social images
In every country and in every city there is a broken home, whether it is between the parents and children, or it’s just between the parents. Can a broken family be unaware of the misery in the house? And can there still be loved, regardless the misery? These questions are dealt with in the short story “Vernissage” by Clare Anderson-Wheeler, in which a boy named Alex is thinking about things he thinks is childish, meanwhile watching his mother and father getting ready to a Vernissage. He sees his mother struggle to impress her husband without even knowing, because he does not understand why they act the way they do.
She cannot separate Tom from his father’s memory and is so paralyzed by a fear of being left again that she talks him out of any future dreams he has. By comparing the two, Amanda takes away Tom’s individuality. Because she sees Tom as another version of her husband, he is not given a fair chance to accomplish the things he wants. He is forced to pay for what his father did, which makes it almost impossible for him to move on from the past. Amanda inflicts her pain on her son, forcing the whole family to stay in the past.
Big Walter was seen as “a man who loved his children”(PAGE) according to Mama. Even though he was financially unstable, he “” QUOTE. Walter was introduced as a man who cared about nothing other than his business. He had sacrificed his sister’s dream of becoming a doctor, and held the power to wipe out Mama’s dream for a better home. Walter sees the gender roles as boundaries keeping him from loosening up to his family.
Benjamin struggles with issues, such as how he was supposed to assert his manliness in a society that is no longer the “man goes to work, woman serves man” theory. But his parents were still living in a more traditional world and did not understand that the world is changing. As a result, he was mostly confused and was constantly pulled in two directions. A side towards the understanding of his father theory of manhood and on the other hand the need to seek his true identity in a world that his parents would never understand. This film successfully addresses this dissatisfaction of gender relating issues and the youthful alienation that was happening at the point of time in America.
Frank McCourt is held back by an alcoholic father and a depressed, helpless mother. When he is old enough, Frank is finally able to acknowledge his parents problems: “I know when Dad does the bad thing. I know when he drinks the dole money and Mam is desperate and has to beg at the St.Vincent de Paul Society” (McCourt 208). On the rare occasions when money is present in the McCourt household, Malachy thinks of himself before his family and is not responsible in regards to putting the money to good use. As opposed to buying food, upgrading their house, or saving the money for later, it goes to waste at the bar and gives Angela no other option but to resort to asking charity organizations for assistance.
Since where he lives isn’t a wealthy place to live and doesn’t have a decent life like he would wish to have. Guy is the father of Little Guy and husband of Lili. Guy works cleaning bathrooms at a plantation to support his family. However, Guy is ashamed of the menial work he does, although he truly loves his wife and son, he dreams of starting all over again. Guy is tired of living the life he’s currently living because his father was once struggling, “ How is a man remembered after he’s going?
Fatherhood means “the state or responsibility of being a father”. This definition refers to (Collins: English Dictionary, 1819). Fatherhood means so much more than just giving life to a life unlived. It means dreaming of things yet undreamed and sustaining hope in a hopeless world. It means being there for his children through thick and thin, and not walking out of family when things get tough.
This has caused hostility bringing fourth the crisis of masculinity of which suggests that men can not be what they are duly to women’s succession in the work place as there has been somewhat of a role reversal as women are becoming bread winners and looking after their families which was the man’s job and sole purpose to provide for his family. Where as now some men are taking on motherly roles such as staying home and looking after the home and children. This is seen as a emasculating predicament as men feel as though they are not able to be men, which is the hugest issue, as it is so valued to them, and provides a sense of validation even though position within society. However it is a bit ironic that men of today feel that they are in crisis when they still hold the top positions within organization