Marriage is a sacred institution which has lost its meaning in this day and age. People nowadays have the forgotten the true meaning of getting married and they have lost touch with what really matters, we are witnessing soaring divorce rates and an increase in Mariticide. This essay will shed some light on one of the leading causes of divorce, the reason why people commit it and also why there should be a law enacted against adultery.
Adultery, also known as Infidelity, is the act of having sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his/her spouse. In every person’s mind, they know that adultery is wrong and yet it still isn’t considered a criminal offense in Fiji. Leviticus 20:10 from the bible states that “'If
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This essay will now highlight the reason people give as to why they would and have cheated on their spouses. People cheat on their spouses for various reasons and some have no problem doing it again. Reasons for committing adultery can be: Having an unrealistic view and expectations about marriage; romance novels and romantic movies and TV shows often give people a false perspective of marriage, they often portray it as a “walk in the park” so to speak, what they do not show is that marriage requires constant nurturing and sacrifices from both sides, just because your wife is taking your name, it doesn’t mean that you are her boss, marriage is a constant state of negotiations, sacrifice and knowing what your partner wants and needs. If you go into a marriage carrying views of being in the honeymoon phase forever then you are sadly mistaken, you will end up either being deeply disappointed or you will start to resent your partner which then leads you to committing adultery. Another reason could be the lost sense of fun and excitement in the marriage it’s easy to remember the fun, the joy, the excitement, the romance and thrills of first meeting, courtship, engagement, and early months and years of a relationship(this is known as the honeymoon phase); maintaining those wonderful experiences is altogether another matter. The responsibilities of everyday life, raising children, and bringing in income, tend to replace fun and joy with stress and fatigue. When one or both partners go outside of the relationship to try and find what’s been lost along the way, rather than trying to rekindle the flame that burned so brightly for them in the past, infidelity will likely be the result. (Seiden,
Essay #3 Dr. Gottman Research/ “Masters and “Disasters” John Gottman is the therapist. He is an influential researcher on marriage stability. In Dr. Gottman’s research, he attempts to improve relationship without identifying negative behaviors. Dr. Gottman is the author of New York Times bestseller “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.” The seven principles are 5:1 Ratio, “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” 3 Ingredients of Friendship, Positive Sentiment Override, Soft Start-up, moving from Gridlock to Dialogue and Accepting Influence without resentment.
It is evident that marriage is full of ups and downs, but the way couples manage these fluctuations in their relationship determines the strength of their connection. Both partners in a committed relationship must feel the same way and work equally as hard to push through potential obstacles. Being devoted to the relationship can ensure that the marriage will be able to survive the hardships and maintain a healthy, successful marriage. The emotional hardships and positives that a married couple endures on a daily basis are presented throughout the entirety of the poem, “Marriage”, by Gregory Corso. Corso’s poem explores the pressures and factors that influence marriage and sheds light on Updike’s short story about a couple facing divorce.
Eric Bartels analyzes the difficulties of modern-day marriage in his article, “My Problem with Her Anger,” by examining his own marital experiences. By optimistic confrontation and resolution of his family’s problems, Bartels believes that not only will he save his marriage, but he will also be rewarded for his sacrifices (63). The author claims he realized the separation between men and women during his late night chores (57). To illuminate this separation, Bartels acknowledges that his wife contributes more to childcare than he does, but asserts that he tries to reduce as much of this pressure as he can through cooking, cleaning, and shopping (58). Despite the author’s attempts, he contends that his endeavors to decrease his wife’s stress
Today in the 21st century there are many guys who cheat on their wife and some who have an affair. Some men later on regret it and others don’t. Some cheat because they’re lacking some kind of need from their spouse and they go outside of their marriage to find comfort. Others just cheat because they can’t resist
Life is full of challenges and learning experiences, everything we go through makes us stronger and better people. In the novel, Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston, Janie fumbles through three complex marriages that provide protection, stability, and love and happiness. After trial and error she realizes that she must think about herself by applying what she has learned from her relationships and cherishing her values. she is involved with three men who were all but perfect. The similarities and differences in Janie’s three spouses Mr. Killicks, Jody, and Tea Cake suggest that relationships present challenges which you can learn to overcome the complexities of marriage ultimately improving the quality of your
Another Side of Marriage An unloved marriage can be one of the most intricate and dreadful parts of an individual’s identity. It influences many aspects of an individual. freedom, independence, individuality as well as emotional growth and moral orientation. A person’s interaction and connection with a unloved marriage is the foundation of their character, of the kind of people they will grow to be, and the values they will uphold in their daily lives.
Today 41 percent of new marriages end in divorce. The pattern repeats it’s self continuously; infatuation, marriage and soon after divorce. Some say the divorce rate is declining, which is true, but, while divorce rates are lower, so is the number of people getting married. An increasing number of couples are choosing to only live together and renouncing to marriage altogether; and those that do marry are wedding later. These days the average bride is about 26 years old and the average groom is about 29.
The article examined the effects of parental divorce on adults’ romantic relationships by conducting a random sample with 464 coupled partners. The authors additionally describe the relationship characteristics most adult
Cheating is not something to be proud of, here are 10 reasons why cheating is wrong. Cheating in American high schools is widespread. A recent ABCNews poll of 12- to 17-year-olds provided these statistics: •70% of teens say at least some kids in their school cheat on tests. •60% have friends who have cheated.
Divorce is categorized as the greatest threat to marriage since this occurrence is likely to destroy the quality as well as steadiness of families and children globally. Even though the divorce number has rapidly increased in the United States and globally, it is worth noting that the number of married couples and children that are growing up in complete families is also on the rise than when compared to the period of divorce revolution. Cohabitation is one of the underrated marriage threat in the modern society. This is because most individuals live together not just because they are a part of each other but mainly because they are focused on reducing their life struggles as well as raising their children (Evans,
Marriage Infidelity in “The Lady with the Pet Dog” When two people decide to get married, they’re basically taking an oath that they will be faithful to one another for the rest of their life, but that’s not the case in Anton Chekhov’s short story “The Lady with the Pet Dog”. We witness two characters named Gurov and Anna that are being unfaithful to their spouses with one another. Since social media is becoming more popular, people are finding it easier to cheat in their relationship because of it. Being disloyal to your partner can come with a lot of risks.
However, these transformations have also brought freedoms and tensions as there are also high divorce rates underneath high marriage rates. The contradiction of interests among love, family and freedom has affected the perspective of relationships nowadays and hence people need to recognise their priority of personal
Is there really a need to be married anymore? Does marriage actually benefit your relationship, or is it an outdated institution that we’ll be better off without? In this speech, I’ll convince you that marriage is a thing of the past, and that society’s views on marriage have changed enough in the past decade that marriage really isn’t necessary anymore. One of the main purposes of marriage is to maintain a permanent relationship, but nowadays marriage doesn’t lead to a permanent relationship due to the increase of divorce rates.
Outline General Statement : Happiness is not the absence of problems as life would not be that perfect without problems; they are our guidelines so have the ability to expect them and deal with them. Problem statement : One of the social problems that we are facing nowadays is Divorce .
The article’s purpose is to pinpoint specific cultural traits that cause problems in modern relationships. It dives into the history of marriage to illustrate that our modern views on marriage and love are new and specific to the twentieth century. Cultural shifts in our individualistic tendencies are responsible for some of the problems marriages face today. The article poses the underlying idea that perhaps society’s individualistic nature is too self-centered to the point that we push out other’s needs, feelings, and happiness. 4.