Unlike in the poem What my lips have kissed, and where, and why by Edna St. Vincent Millay has a depressing tone. By telling us how it has not been easy to find love and when she has found it has not lasted. She also talks about all her past lovers and how they have all left her. As she continues to look for a love she is losing hope and giving up she is always left alone and she is getting older and her looks are fading which is not helping. This makes the reader feel sorry for her and makes her poem have a sorrowful
However, I’ll be explaining the most important lines that express the most love and breaking down the phrases to understand how it is used in the poem. It is difficult to speak to a person you love so much one last time. Before I Close My Eyes: “How I Do Love Thee” “Let me count the ways”. (Browning, 1850, Line 1). The love is so powerful; everyone that is surrounded feels the love.
Today, the idealistic nature of love presented in the poems seems a bit obsessive. However, at the time, society did not look at this as obsessive, but rather as a heroic act. For instance, in “When the Sweet Air Turns Bitter,” the poet states that “nothing fills me with such longing / As the thing I cannot have,” yet still refuses to “tell her my desire” (Medieval 2, pg. 2). Naturally, if the speaker of the poem was completely in love with a woman and tormented by this feeling, but refused to tell her anything, it would traditionally be looked at as obsessive to a certain extent.
Partners get the chance of meeting each other under the supervision of their families. Unlike love marriages, third parties are not involved when starting a relationship. Therefore, some people prefer love marriages for this reason and it grants them the freedom of choosing their spouse, independence and they are not forced by family members. Although, the view of love marriage over arranged sounds convincing at first but, it is not capable of accomplishing a successful marriage, since it is an individual matter, the marriage is not long-lasting and it includes multiple expectations. First, love marriages grant the opportunity for the person to choose their own partner and everyone else is irrelevant.
Whereas in Moore’s poem she tells us that a person would try all kind of things to avoid their marriage as they find that love is an emotional experience and this can be seen in the line “requiring all one’s criminal ingenuity to avoid!”. In the line
.) will not / accept a false Messiah, love the / priest instead of the God” means to say that those who have sex will not accept either the false messiah or the priest before god. This very well fits the idea of contrasting ideals shown by the speaker throughout the poem, as well as the second pair of concepts with double meanings shown in the poem. The final concept in which this poem portrays is one of a great runner. The speaker describes sex without love as a runner alone within the elements.
The main condition of a good marriage, in Gottman’s opinion, is a friendship between husband and wife. It is a really a healthy marriage if the spouses feel admiration and fondness towards each other. Fondness and admiration prevents them from expressing and feeling disgust while arguing. In a good marriage one spouse supports dreams, interests and aspirations of another, but without sacrificing one’s own. Gottman advocates the equality between spouses in everything.
They refuse to recognize the agency of choice wherein someone has chosen not to get married for reasons they best know and wouldn’t like to share with the rest of the world. Bachelorhood or spinsterhood as a way of life doesn’t go down too well with the traditionalists. Marriage is an institution that has existed in most societies around the world for an incredibly long time. It is, traditionally, the union between a man and woman in both a devotional and a legal sense. Marriage offers a firm relationship that is recognised by the state and by whatever religion the coupler wish to follow, as well as furnish a pious environment in which to raise children.
The main character of this poem is basically trying to seduce the girl, who is hesitant about him, to fall in lust with him. He starts off by stating that she is a precious thing that more than anything deserves to be cherished slowly and at the pace she is comfortable with. Directly after, he states the issue with her wanting to wait for the right moment, so to speak, is that time is constantly fleeting and there is not much of it left. Andrew Spacey, a poet and author, states “The argument builds up through the three sections of the poem, starting off with the speaker’s assertion that the lady’s coyness wouldn’t be deemed a moral crime if they had all the world in which to spend time together” (Spacey). Spacey is correct in stating how the speaker feels as though the couple is running out of time to develop lustful feelings.