He has been conditioned to feel entitlement over every woman he wants, which inevitably leads to him permanently losing Lola. According to machismo, in order for Oscar to dominate and control women sexually, he must be forceful and persistent. This is not of Oscar’s nature as he focuses on the depth of female, ethereal sexuality. Yunior is obsessed with the feeling of sex and objectifies women. Unlike Yunior, Trujillo, and almost every other male in this book, Oscar would never be forceful with a woman.
Love is built on honesty, trust, time, loyalty, etc., and the characters have not exhibited any of that behavior, they truly expressed the opposite actions towards each other. Brett cheat on Mike, losing loyalty and trust; Brett and Mike do not know each other enough to be together, they need time to get used to each other; Honesty was used often, but too much honestly can hurt someone, Brett stated the facts to Jake about their relationship. These examples clearly show that the characters in the story are not at all in love, but more confused and unsure of what they should
Throughout the story, the Narrator exhibits a lack of self-awareness and insight with the people around him. Not only does this affect how he acts, but also others around him. His personality causes him to have no friends, only his wife, in which he misunderstands a countless number of times. For example, he feels jealous when his wife talks about her preceding husband, the military officer in the flashbacks. The Narrator thought, “Her officer—why should he have a name?” (Carver, 2) Evidently, the imbecilic Narrator was feeling jealous through his thoughts and actions.
Sayoko was really that weak to voice out her feelings. Sayoko 's way of touching her mole with the use of her left hand shows that she is guarding and protecting herself from her abusive husband. Sayoko 's husband is an image of a common problem about marriage failure today. Sayoko was beat and kick by her husband but she did fight, her weakness made her abuse more by her husband. Base on what I had interpret in the story, there was a lack of acceptance and lack of love happened in the marriage of Sayoko and her husband.
However, the novel strongly suggests that not everyone can afford Kate 's moderately progressive attitude; androgyny is not presented as a solution, but a privilege and still a goal to work towards. Janet 's false understanding of androgyny is punished with isolation from both the men she aspired to be respected by and the women she scorned. “Janet Mandelbaum […] is so consistently flayed throughout the novel – by her sexist colleagues and by Amanda Cross herself – that one can only assume she deserves it“ (Auerbach 266). Janet 's fate seems especially cruel in light of the parallels to Kate. Both pursued the same career, both must have faced the same obstacles – they even fell in love with the same man.
Saroj has become a victim of the male tyranny. Saroj’s quest for communication and sharing naturally leads her towards Vishal, whom she finds more understanding and considerate. Vishal who is the husband of Leela wants to build a true relationship with her. But he felt a great deal of unhappiness because she had always lived a life of pretence and hypocrisy with Vishal. She realized the torture of living together intimately yet remained strangers to each other.
We can see the narrator’s weakness throughout the story. It is especially apparent in her narration where she uses phrases like, ‘John says’ which “heads a litany of "benevolent" prescriptions that keep the narrator infantilized, immobilized, and bored literally out of her mind” (Lasner 418). The significance of positions in society greatly influences the woman in this story. She withholds challenging anything her husband says, regardless of how miserable she feels rendering her weak. He makes her stay in a room that she does not like, refuses to let her visit relations, and prevents her from doing the thing she loves the most, which is writing.
INFLUENCE OF SPOUSAL COMMUNICATION ON MARITAL STABILITY IN NAYANTARA SAHGAL’S MAJOR NOVELS Sahgal has shown her male characters mostly a narrow-minded, ruthless, careless husband’s who make their sensitive wives experience acute sense of loneliness, emptiness and boredom in life. However, exceptionally though, her male characters equally suffer in a wrong marriage, due to isolation or lack of communication. They may not undergo the same kind of agony because man is not dependent in the same way as his wife is on him, but a wrong marriage gives him a lot of torture too. A similar discord can be seen in the married life of Usman and Nadira in A SITUATION IN NEW DELHI (1977). Usman, a vice-chancellor, is over-burdened with the troubles of unrest and violence in the University campus.
This very same reason leads him in failing to establish a long-term romantic relationship and settle down with one single woman in the novel. To cope with his dissatisfaction, Jake takes out his anger on Robert. Knowing that Robert has feelings for Brett, he sabotages their relationship and gives him faulty advice, meanwhile pushing Brett to be with other guys. Like many of the other main characters of the novel, Hemingway uses Jake to illustrate the adverse effect of war on an individual and help his audience visualize the plight of the Lost Generation. Robert Cohn, an American writer also living in Paris, whose character like Jake illustrates the lack of love found in the Lost Generation.
Purush and Stree went on arguing about trivial matters. It was evident through their conversations that the man takes the self-important role in the relationship. It is him who tries to dominate the wife by aggressively putting across his points thus compelling her to go into a mode of submission. He dismisses everything she says by labelling them as childish and immature and points out several times in the play how she needs to have mental growth and develop a more practical approach towards life. But in reality it was the husband who failed to understand his wife and the wound she has been safeguarding in her heart for years, which has affected their relationship too.