Tannen states that men are more likely to address, fix, and move on from a problem, whereas women are more likely to be sympathetic and helpful on an emotional level. Tannen believes men and women have misunderstandings because of their different approaches to conversation, making misunderstandings misinterpretations, rather than “right or wrong” scenarios. Tannen uses rhetorical phrases to explore the intricacies of conversation more in depth. Tannen also uses the phrases, “how” and “why,” to probe further into scenarios of conversations (Tannen). Tannen’s usage of stories create the tone of “Can’t We Talk?”, by making Tannen’s tone informative yet uncomplicated.
The text Behind the Veil centralized around the cravings honor and respect. Often today, the value of a person’s reputation is disregarded or not looked at as a craving, but many people desire the approval and respect of others. In the text, women discuss the symbolism behind veils and seclusion, discussing all the purposes it brings for not only women, but also men. According to the text, "It expresses men's status, power, wealth, and manliness. It also helps preserve men's image of virility and masculinity, but men do not admit this; on the contrary they claim that one of the purposes of the veil is to guard women's honor” (Fernea 2).
Sex, Lies, and Conversation continues Deborah Tannen discussion on the communication between men and women; to be specific, it was written because of the response to a chapter in her book “That’s Not What I Meant!” As stated in the background, “She realized the chapter might raise some controversy.” She did not want her work to be used to: “Malign men or to put women at a disadvantage.” While addressing a women’s group, a night where men were invited to join, there was one man that caught her attention; he was very talkative and his wife was silent. When it was brought to his attention he tried to express that his wife was the talker in the family; there was laughter in the room, and he got embarrassed. The point to the story was that men speak more in public and women more at home. Deborah found that
In a literary article,The Role of Women in Othello: A Feminist Reading states that,” Society weighs heavily on the shoulders of women; they feel that they must support the men and defer to them, even if the actions of the men are questionable” (Literary Articles). Although Emilia does not ever say these powerful words out loud, she is still willing to not follow her husbands commands despite his strong character. Emilia proves again that she has powerful thoughts when she stated that,”Let husbands know, Their wives have sense like them; they see and smell, And have their palates both for sweet and sour As husbands have’ (Othello IV.3.92-5) Emilia contends that women are physically the same to men,they both get distraught and have issues that trouble each other, they should treat each other similarly. Women can still analyze literature about the inequality and rights for women through many of the injustices that are modern today.
One of these perspectives is analyzing communication through gender. In the book, You Just Don’t Understand, Deborah Tannen (1990) popularized the term “genderlect” to describe the way in which men and women communicate with each other. She suggested that men and women have different styles of conversing, forming two distinct dialects. In a review of Tannen’s book, DeFrancisco (1992) attributed the differing communication styles of men and women to the respective cultures in which they grow up. Because of such gender differences, misunderstanding between men and women creates a gap in the communication process.
Everyone can see all the flaws in his methods instead of analyzing his point of view. If the story was told from his perspective the readers of the book would be more sympathetic to his emotions and what he 's going through. Although we cannot pinpoint what his exact thoughts it 's clear that he only wants what 's the best for his wife. Adding this dimension to the story will make a totally different story. When reading the book, the audience quickly forget to analysis many things.
The writer proved the point with relatable dialogs and an anecdote to let readers visualize a plausible situation. The author also connected this argument with argument #2 to demonstrate her point made before. Argument #4: “Women's conversational habits are as frustrating to men as men’s are to women” (Tanner 19). Tanner gave examples of speeches of women’s talking habits to compare to the silence men give each other. She included a book Fighting for Life by Walter Ong to point out the opposition between two different genders method in conversing.
While mostly throughout the article Kilbourne bashes men, she also admits to some limitations and expresses good will. Kilbourne shows good character by also trying to appeal to the opposition. “Wouldn’t it be wonderful if, realizing the importance of relationships in all of our lives, we could seek to learn relational skills from women and to help men develop these strengths in themselves?” (461). Kilbourne established good credibility when she does this. She is taking a stance for women, but at the same time she is encouraging men to do the same and try to put themselves into a woman’s
Men should see women as their equals and of capable abilities instead of sexual beings that serve them. However, because of the way media portrays women it has become increasingly more difficult for men to not sexualize women and demean them, and although the media does play a huge role in the demoralizing depiction of women, women are also contributing to the way man view them by overly sexualizing themselves. The only way men will fully be able to give women the proper respect they deserve is if women stop covering their full potential to demand more in society. Women must demand to be treated with more respect and not to be seen as sexual objects, but also, as equals with
She let Bradley do things to her because her perception of herself and what it means to be liked by a boy. In the reading, Jennifer said, “I wanted him to like me, I thought it would make him like me more if I let him” (Orenstein 1994: 117). An example of Identity threat in Fear of Falling: Sluts reading was when the girls did not want to identify as a slut, so they did certain things to not be labeled as a slut. The adolescent females now had to separate themselves. It was the sluts versus the good