Balancing Your Military Career and Family Life during Long Deployment
Military duties especially away from the usual environment can put a heavy strain on the family of a soldier. This is more common to the young and first time service members in mission areas, who have not been away from their families for longer period of time. There is always fear of unknown to both deployed soldier and the family being left behind. Therefore a strategy should be in place to check the foreseen stress and strain to both the soldiers and their families. The newly married soldiers in long deployment mission and multiple deployments have had their own experiences with uncertain outlook on the future, separation, divorce become common among such soldiers; this
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Marriage in the military can be tough especially to the young newly married soldiers who are in the bonding phase with their spouses. The polarity between work and family life can make it easy for the uniformed personnel to lose sight of what really matters. The military gives us tangible feedback on our performance; we get awards, promotions, evaluation reports and recognition. On the contrary, family life is much different; we don’t get “father/mother of the year” trophies, marriage evaluation reports, or challenge coins from our in-laws. As a result, sometimes climbing the professional pyramid seems more appealing than nurturing the homesteads.
Personally I feel a soldier in a mission area or prolonged deployment strangles with the tension between uniform and family multiple times throughout the deployment period. However soldiers should always take and agree with their couples upon some family principles that can guide their every decision they make in their military career. Some of the practical principles that may help family stability of a soldier in the mission area
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Time and time again I have heard leaders say,”you’re only going to be in the location for a short period of time, so make it count!” work hard always but every professional sprint is followed by another splint. Have seen many soldiers either burn themselves and their families out because they continue to climb professional mountain after a mountain without taking a break. Military is a marathon if you run for too long you won’t make the finish line. Pace yourself, to avoid family and personal life suffering while in the career. Follow-on assignments that don’t allow soldiers the mental white space for reflection and family time after particularly grueling tours of duty should be discouraged or
The long 47 day siege has finally come to an end. The town of Vicksburg, Mississippi and the Confederate troops have made the decision to surrender to the Union army. It is another very disappointing loss for the Confederate troops. It lasted from May 18 - July 4, 1863. There are a total estimate of 37,402 casualties.
I am writing this to explain the circumstances that resulted in the recent moves, and the frequency of those moves, of me and my family. Furthermore, I will demonstrate that those moves are abnormal to the Army and should not be used as a basis for determining future moves. In 2004, the Army instituted the Force Stabilization Initiative in order to increase readiness and stability for the fighting force, and predictability for their families. This initiative outlined stability for first term Soldiers at approximately six years and second or third term Soldiers at approximately three years.
When faced with war soldiers change, for better or for worse. Modern culture celebrates the glory of patriotic sacrifice. However, this celebration often leaves out the gritty details and trauma of violence behind war and the way it affects people. Homer’s The Odyssey and William Wyler’s The Best Years of Our Lives clearly discuss these details. Both debate the long-awaited return of warriors that went off to fight a war and the way the experience changes the protagonists.
All parents have heard at one time or another “Mommy, (Daddy) please don’t go!” For parents to walk out of the door when they hear this plea from their child is extremely difficult. Children feel more secure when both of their parents are at home. When one of the parents is absent, the children feel a sense of loss and less protected. Why does the American government feel that it has the right to demand that one of the parents leave his/her home to provide protection for American citizens when a child is left at home with limited protection?
• Research the web for information on familism. Does familism promote psychological well-being? Do men or women benefit
It is evident that marriage is full of ups and downs, but the way couples manage these fluctuations in their relationship determines the strength of their connection. Both partners in a committed relationship must feel the same way and work equally as hard to push through potential obstacles. Being devoted to the relationship can ensure that the marriage will be able to survive the hardships and maintain a healthy, successful marriage. The emotional hardships and positives that a married couple endures on a daily basis are presented throughout the entirety of the poem, “Marriage”, by Gregory Corso. Corso’s poem explores the pressures and factors that influence marriage and sheds light on Updike’s short story about a couple facing divorce.
I don’t really enjoy picking fights, or committing any acts of violence. Truthfully, if I got into any type of conflict, my lanky body would probably give up on me halfway. That’s what my wife told me after I said I was going to be joining the US armed forces. “Mark, are you an idiot? You can’t even walk without limping, how will you serve our country?!”
In many cases, they tend to isolate because they try to protect their family from the images and stories of their deployment experience. However, these protective factors are something that can be strengthened during the therapeutic relationship. In the case of SSGT White, his protect factors and opportunities for growth are as follows: 1. Positive social support; 2.
Once you put on that Adjutant General shield, you are immediately depended on. This dependence spans outside of just the Soldiers that you see and associate with on a regular basis. Soldiers rely on us, to not only make sure their records are updated accurately and on time, spouses look to us to make sure that pay is submitted correctly and timely, children look forward to the events we help coordinate, parents look to us to make sure we are giving their Soldiers the best information about the benefits they enlisted for. One thing that has always been taught to me is that, we have three tasks that will make or break us: efficiency, effectiveness, and meeting the needs of Soldiers. If we cannot submit documents in a timely matter, we have failed.
Yale University Press, 2006. Web. 9 Mar. 2016. Beginning with the essential historical and social context of divorce, the authors go on to provide some interesting trends and facts about marriages and divorce rates. This book also contains statistics on the distribution of separation by the duration of marriage in the United States.
Divorce is categorized as the greatest threat to marriage since this occurrence is likely to destroy the quality as well as steadiness of families and children globally. Even though the divorce number has rapidly increased in the United States and globally, it is worth noting that the number of married couples and children that are growing up in complete families is also on the rise than when compared to the period of divorce revolution. Cohabitation is one of the underrated marriage threat in the modern society. This is because most individuals live together not just because they are a part of each other but mainly because they are focused on reducing their life struggles as well as raising their children (Evans,
Challenges Impacting Military Families The following information is meant to be a general overview of the challenges impacting military families, and as is true concerning the individual service member, it is also held true for military families: each is unique. It is of the utmost importance to keep this fact in mind over any generalizations made. The challenges and stressors impacting military families are numerous yet this research endeavor is limited.
Do you have any family in the military? Maybe a mom, dad, cousin, family member. Maybe you know someone that has a military based family? Every year more than 180,000 people enlist in the armed forces. Being deployed isn’t just hard on military personnel but also their surroundings including their loved ones and more.
Career Paper Earl Nightingale once said, “People with goals, succeed because they know where they 're going. ”1Therefore, without goals a person will lose and not be successful. This paper will discuss career goals, professional aspirations, short term and long term goals and the salary obtained at a given time. I have always wanted to work in the Air Force, whether an officer or enlisted. I was in ROTC; however, I was medically disqualified and could not continue in the program.