Because of family values, there is a huge emphasis on marriage within the Hmong community. Similarly, males make all the decisions and carry on the family names within the clan identity. The duties that are expected of males extend beyond western cultures with what might be considered at the center of a typical family upbringing. Because of this, the roles by birth and the family obligations are an integral part of the Hmong traditional community. Her and Louise Buley-Meissner (2012) discussed how traditionally Hmong men would get to eat first with the women eating last on the men’s left over during special traditional ceremonies.
When Han moved to this school, however, he was keen to notice all of Om’s flaws, and was the first one to challenge his rule. Om taught them to stand up for themselves, to endure things when they get hard, and taught them to defend what they think is right. Almost daily, Om would “borrow” something from one of his classmates. Every day at lunchtime, Om would go around asking the students to give him money, or even parts of their own lunches. Saying no to Om wasn’t an option.
Since parents tend to have limited English language skills, the communication between school and parent is limited. (Huffcut 34). Hmong parents who do not speak English insist that their children communicate in their native language and keep up Hmong traditions (Vang, F. 4). First generation Hmong American college students do not perform as well as other students because of language barrier too. Students whose parents are illiterate in English or their primary language are more likely to be underachievers in school (Vang, C. 10).
My mother, comparatively, did much better than my father in school. One of the reason’s she was a better student was because she had a lot of support from her friends. The friends that she hung out with were also family friends because my mother’s and their families enjoyed spending time together and were socially similarly structured. Her and her family lived in the same city since my mother was born, so she grew up with the same friends and attended the same school for years. My father lived in many cities growing up because my grandfather worked in the Indian air forces, so he did not have many of the same friends growing up and went many different school.
Becoming a father was a big step in my life. It turned my life around an also made things more eye opening. Something bad could of happened to me or I could have screwed up my record. But as I got older and wiser I can understand now. That I’m a father an Za’Nyah is getting older I’m reserving fathers day gifts ,Christmas gifs, an so on...it makes me feel worm inside.
Wang Lung, her husband, once said, “O’lan is the good earth.” After reading “The Good Earth,” one could start to understand why Wang Lung said this while she dying. O’lan may have been reserved and kept to herself most of the time, but she was always obedient and loyal to Wang Lung. Not to mention, anything Wang Lung asked of her, she would always do it without complaining and asking questions. With this in mind, she was very selfless as well because she always put other needs before her own. Not only was O’lan selfless, obedient, and loyal but she worked hard.
Once a family’s reputation is affected, it affects how they interact with their families. This makes it difficult to leave an abusive environment because the culture is not accepting of anything different from what they consider is normal. Hmong are not familiar with the progressive concepts of divorce. In the Hmong culture, it’s always the woman’s fault. Since men hold superior positions in the household, it holds a strong meaning, suggesting that they have a say in what is best for the household.
When discussing the influence of Confucianism in the Han empire it is clear to say that other than the concept of education, relationship also played role in the contribution of order in society. One of the most well known systems in grouping this idea were the Five Relationships or in what used to be called wu-lun. These include relationships between father and son, elder brother and younger brother, husband and wife, emperor and subject, and friend and friend. The most essential relationship during the Han dynasty would be the association between emperor and subject, in which, it is the job of a subject to serve the emperor but, it is also the job of the emperor to care for the subject. According to Taylor, “ The Five Relations are
He also helped in the demise of a powerful family in the village, ending their reign as the people who lead the area. Therefore, destroying conformity and the normality of the village. This applies to the present day as people at a young age, feel the need to better themselves, but do it in the wrong way by rebelling against their culture or society they grew up with. Just like Wang Lung’s two eldest son’s. With the many things money, confidence, and standards can affect, it’s easy to see why throughout history, people who change themselves out of greed, often lose themselves in the process.
My mom being the oldest in the family made her learned how to be responsible by taking care of her siblings when she came to Guam. She expected her daughters to do house chores other than outside chores because she thinks it is only for males. It is a tradition in the culture for females to help their mother such as cooking. If you are a male, you are suppose to help your father when it comes to fixing cars. Any father would want his son to be a brave, confident, and knows what to do when it comes to bad situations in