Me living with my grandparents all my life changed me. My mom always bought things for me and came to visit. Her visiting was the worst tho because she never stayed for long. How I felt in school with everyone talking about how great they mom was, I had nothing to say because I didn't know her. My grandparents were my care takers, so when my mom came back home from the navy, it took me time to get to know her personally.
Rapidly i open the door, i was not expecting to hear the bad news that my grandma had passed away. It was one of the saddest news i ever heard, i felt like my heart has just broke into a lot of pieces, my hands where shaking really bad, i couldnt even talk right. My grandma was a huge part of life, and hearing that bad news of her did not made me happy at all. Everytime I would go to mexico I would see her, as soon as i would get there she would be waiting for me with food prepare and my favorite pineapple
People say that there is nothing quite like a mother’s love for her child. A child puts all their trust in their mother from an early age, from that very moment they look into her eyes. That is how it was for me, in my eyes you could do no wrong. You were kind and caring towards me. You made sure I was taken care of clothed, fed, and healthy.
Their houses were just a ten minute drive from each other so I was never far away from either of them. Every Saturday night, we would have dinner together and there was no hostility. My parents were always present together to celebrate my birthdays, special festivals like Eid and important moments of my life like volleyball final matches, graduations and the list goes on. Even though, they were divorced, I had a functional life. It seemed like my parents had figured out how to be divorced and still make sure I was not scarred by it.
Everybody can imagine how terrible it must be to lose a father and they will be supportive and friendly. No one told me about the internal battle I would face about how I feel. I want to be okay, but I simply cannot and that is confusing. I knew it it was going to very difficult process, I still trying to deal with these feelings. As I got older, I clearly understand our relation was perfect.
She had taken care of me since I lost my parents to a fire accident that claimed their lives; I was only 8 years then, now I am nineteen. My grandmother used to be a happy woman; she never bothered about how life mistreated her. She made up her mind to live the remaining of her days happy no matter what. My grandmother was also not an ordinary woman; she had knowledge of traditional medicine. This made people in our village love her, and with all their sicknesses they came to my grandmother to heal them.
The person I am today is all due to these three wonderful people who I am more than happy to call my Mom, Brother, and Grandma. In the future I wish to become a terrific mother like my own and like the mother who raised my mother. Although, being an adult and a mother is hard work, it’ll all pay off in the long run. My children will be the things that i will soon look at and think, did I do my best? As for being a wife, I do hope that I can be everything that my Fiance does wish for as for me to be.
But I was lucky by the fact my former mother-in-law suffered a lot with her mother-in-law and didn't want to live this again with me. She treated me like daughter ... but not so much. There were times that she said to her daughter (my former sister-in-law), "I do this thing for you because you are my daughter, I'd never do for a daughter-in-law." There were times when the whole family was watching television after dinner, and I as a daughter-in-law, was supposed to clear the table