Narcissistic Personality An anonymously-written famous quote goes, “In order to love others, we must first love ourselves.” For some people, loving themselves may have been taken to another level. There are individuals who can be described as “full of themselves” or have excessively loved themselves and may seem to have forgotten the “love others” part of the quote. These people are what others may tag as narcissists. But, there is more to narcissism than merely being full of one’s self.
Havelock Ellis (1898, as cited in Campbell & Foster, 2007) coined the term “narcissus-like” after the Greek myth of Narcissus, who rejected the efforts shown by a nymph named Echo and had eventually led him to fall in love with himself. He came up with the
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But, based on the claim of psychoanalytic theorists, we may infer that it may start to emerge during childhood because it results from rejecting or overindulgent reactions in childhood (Freud, 1914; Kohut, 1977 and Kernberg 1975). It tends to decline as individuals get older (Foster, Twenge & Campbell, 2003). With regards to who is more narcissistic between male and female, studies have found that there are more narcissistic men than women (Philipson, 1985; Foster, Twenge & Campbell, 2003). But, contrary to this, a study was done with celebrities and was found that narcissism is higher in females than in males (Young & Pinsky, 2006). Narcissism is widely emerging as it has been linked to changes in society. Social norms have become lenient and value for individual freedom has increased which resulted in cultural changes such as an increase in the number of single parents and more opportunities for women and racial minorities (Fukuyama, 1999; Myers, 2000; Seligman, 1990 as cited in Twenge & Foster, 2010). In turn, these larger culture-level changes also affect individuals. In a study, it was found that Americans have embraced more individualistic traits over the past few decades (Twenge & Campbell, 2009). Social media and various technologies were claimed to make people become more self-absorbed and narcissistic which may hinder participating in their communities and having rich …show more content…
Campbell & Foster (2007) introduced the extended agency model. They have viewed narcissism as having three basic ingredients: a positive self, a relative lack of interest in warm and caring interpersonal relationships, and reliance upon self-regulatory strategies. The positive self is the perfect and inflated view of the narcissist. Lack of interest in warm relationships is related to the communal traits. Self-regulatory strategies are those used for regulating the self in order to make themselves look and feel positive, special, successful, and important. Their tactics include efforts to be noticed, look good, surpass others, and defend the self against perceived threats. There are three basic assumptions the extended agency model uses. First, narcissistic qualities, related skills and self-regulation strategies operate like a system. Second, the system elicits positive feelings or “narcissistic esteem.” Third, there is no one ultimate goal of narcissism. There are certainly goal directed behaviors, but narcissists do not have one primary goal. The narcissistic system includes (a) the fundamental qualities of narcissistic personality (e.g., approach orientation, agentic concerns), (b) narcissists’ interpersonal skills (e.g., social confidence, charm), (c) narcissists’ intrapsychic self-regulation strategies (e.g., fantasies of power, self-serving bias), and (d) narcissists’ interpersonal strategies (e.g., self-promotion,
My Problematic Fave: Grey’s Anatomy Characters in media can only be as great as they are written to be. Consumers often strive for equal representation without knowing what representation of all groups truly entails. To correct this, writers and producers will give enough representation of certain groups to satisfy this taste for equality then deny the characters the ability to fully express their talents and capabilities throughout the show. In Grey’s Anatomy, Christina Yang represents what is it to be a major female influence, but she is contained by her character faults.
The exclusively human quality of narcissism programs us to believe that we are superior above all creatures, however, it is completely unwarranted as our transcendence exists only in our brain. We are no different than the savage beasts that lurk in the wild. Driven by raw instinct, our role in nature is the same as any other animal’s: fighting for the survival of our species. Even if it means murder.
The human mind is a complex phenomenon that we do not even know the full capacity at which it is utilized. However, one aspect we do know is that everyone has an ego as we all must deal with reality, yet each person has a varying degree of ego based on their superego, which adds morals and beliefs to rationalizing. The superego in everyone has the potential to disrupt the ego negatively, which results from someone becoming solely concerned about themselves and no one else thus leading to a narcissistic attitude. The episode “The Monsters Are Due On Maple Street” in The Twilight Zone and A Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur’s Court by Mark Twain both feature an array of self-centered characters who are trying to move forward within their community.
(Grafeman et al. 92). Those who have narcissistic tendencies tend to appear as though they are warm, charismatic, or even charming, as part of their initial relationships, but lack the empathy to sustain any type of relationship past a given point. For people with higher levels of narcissism, there is a strong desire to maintain a positive concept of self, and will often engage in ego-boosting activities to prove their worth. According to Grafeman et al. , it is “this constant pursuit of proving one’s competency to the self and others that is thought to frequently contribute to relational problems” (92).
The exclusively human quality of narcissism programs us to believe that we are superior above all creatures; however, it is completely unwarranted as our transcendence exists only in our brain. We are no different than the savage beasts that lurk in the wild. Driven by raw instinct, our role in nature is the same as any other animal’s: fighting for the survival of our species. Even if it means murder. Even if it means renouncing our humanity.
If an athlete becomes so great at what they do, they can become arrogant. Although the football players did not have Narcissistic personality disorder, they did have a need for attention and sense of self-importance and superior to others (Bernstein, 488). This can lead to thinking they are the exception, and that nothing will bring them down (getting caught or punished). In her book “Good Self, Bad self”, Judy Smith suggests that ambitious people who are in a predicament will show signs of narcissistic tendencies more than the average person (Smith, 145). Marion Jones and the football players were ambitious athletes, however their self-importance took over.
“The psychology literature on the phenomenon of narcissism links narcissism to other behaviors and attitudes, some of which are dysfunctional; these involve entitlement and academic entitlement, Machiavellianism and exploitation, and dishonesty, including academic dishonesty” (Menon & Sharland, 2011). Veronica’s character is one that everyone loves to hate but loves to watch because she does not back down to anyone. She makes it known to anyone that stands in her way that their actions to oppose her will not be
Twenge has written other books like, The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement. Where she diagnoses the problem, what is narcissism, identify its causes, what kind of parents make narcissistic children? How do sites like Myspace and Facebook shape personality, document its symptoms, overconfidence leading to economic troubles, plastic surgery on the increase, people hiring fake paparazzi to look famous, and, finally, propose some treatments. The other book she wrote was about all of her research on generations, called Generation Me: Why Today’s Young Americans Are More Confident, Assertive, Entitled — and More Miserable than Ever Before.
If we could go back in time would you? What if we did not have to, we could change our lives and world around us to be however we want. Many people think that life in the eighteenth century was much harder than today; others, however, believe that the quick pace of work and home life, the lack of an appreciation of beauty, and a general laziness of the populace has made life in the 2000s much worse than in the 1880s. In the 1880s people spent more time at home with their families.
Human action and intentions are key components in making a person who they are. In his article “The Power of Context: Bernie Goetz and the Rise and Fall of New York City Crime”, Malcolm Gladwell proves that “behavior is a function of social context” (156). Gladwell describes this as the Power of Context, this power is then involved in influencing every person’s life. The Power of Context especially shaped the GenMe generation as described by Jean Twenge in her article “An Army of One: Me”. Narcissism was created from the obsession with self-esteem, creating an epidemic of self obsession.
They are frequently more intrigued by controlling others than in knowing and teaching themselves. Absence of compassion and outrageous freedom make it troublesome for narcissists to coach and be tutored. As a rule, narcissistic pioneers set very little store by tutoring. They from time to time coach others, and when they do they normally need their protégés to be pale impressions of themselves. Leaders shouldn’t be narcissistic so they can so they can work on themselves and be more productive.
Some people may consider self-love to be a synonym of narcissism. However, the concept of narcissism encompasses much more. A narcissistic person has an inflated sense of their self-worth and pride. To the surprise of many, narcissists have difficulty finding true self-love and are hollow and unsatisfied deep inside. A notorious example of this type of person would be Disney's Gaston from the 1991 film Beauty and the Beast.
The myth of Narcissus also influenced poets, such as Keats and Housman, who featured versions of Narcissus in their works (“The Myth of
Gods like Hera and youths for example, Narcissus and others can be narcissistic. For example Hera thinks she is the most and only beautiful goddess out of all the other goddess. She was being narcissistic because she didn 't think about any other goddess except her. A youth that is narcissistic is Narcissus. He was too narcissistic because he thought he was too good for any women.
The spread of narcissism in the United States is becoming an unruly problem. Narcissistic traits in individuals include entitlement and the overall belief that one’s self is better than they are in actuality. Authors Jean M. Twenge and W. Keith Campbell address these issues in The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement. Some key contributors to the growing amount of narcissism in western culture are parenting, attention seeking on social media, and antisocial behavior (especially online).