Narrative Essay About Friendship

When I first met my (at the time) best friend Chris, we didn’t really initiate anything right away. We were in the same engineering class our second period sophomore year, so we only knew each other as vague classmates. The first stage, initiation, or the start of showing interest in each other, didn’t spark until a year later when we saw each other more in the halls and had an English class together. When we made eye contact we jokingly mocked, “What are you doing here?” since we ran into each other a lot. It also helped that I had given him a nickname “Chrispy”, because it allowed for our second step, experimenting to flow more easily. Experimenting, which is small talk, for us wasn’t all that bad, it was generally guided conversations based

This was when I knew we had hit the stagnating stage in our relationship, since we no longer had close feelings towards each other anymore and were becoming bored of one another. It became a routine of checking in and asking, “Why won’t you talk to me. What’s wrong.” With only vague replies of “Nothing.” His depressing nature and solidarity from closing completely off from me became too much, I started to avoid him. Avoidance is the penultimate stage before termination occurs, it’s when a relationships stagnation becomes so unpleasant that it is necessary to leave the situation. I stopped sitting next to him in class, we stopped texting each other, and avoided eye contact during track practice. It must have become too much for him as well because he quit track and sent me a text message thanking me for the friendship we had and said if I chose to be friends again we can. Although it was confusing since I had made several attempts to bring back the friendship within the relational maintenance stages before I had grown bitter towards him, it seemed as though this was the end of our friendship, the official termination of our relationship. It was sad to lose him as a friend, but I couldn’t bring back the energy I had once