Why do people have a problem with gay marriage? It is not all people who have a problem with gay marriage, but there are those who believe that gay marriage is an abomination and goes against God. Others however, believe that people are just people, and it does not matter if you are gay or not. Charles Colson believes that gay marriage is the end of the tradition of marriage; especially if gay couples are able to adopt children. Katha Pollitt however, believes that it does not matter if a couple is gay, straight, or elderly; as long as they are happy together and love one another.
Rather, it is merely something which someone else’s religion dislikes. At the end, marriage is not defined by religion; but instead interpreted by the government. Even if the “holy book tells you to wed all the girls in apartment 3G” you are still are not allowed to do so. Regarding the controversial issue of same sex marriage. It seems that Pollit is trying to justify same sex marriage by comparing it to a legal substandard marriage (A man can marry a woman no matter how ill acquainted).
Engaging in sexual intercourse without one’s consent is considered rape regardless of marital status. Can a legally married man, be guilty of raping his wife? Contemporary rape law needs much revision! Non-consensual sex is a global occurrence that is said to be widely prevalent, yet not all cases are reported and those which are reported are not taken seriously by law enforces. “Non-consensual sex (NCS) refers to sexual relations in which there is a lack of full and free choice in decisions by any of the partners to engage in such sexual relations” (Gharoro, 2011, p. 190).
Obviously, the intent of polygamy is not to go against universal values, such as sexual activities with minors or adultery, but there are groups of people who take the original idea of polygamous marriages and relationships and twist it into a sinister act. Polygamy, in its pure form, is a moral and valid type of marriage. The few who do abuse this type of marriage for odd and disturbing sexual habits would most likely continue to commit these acts whether or not they were polygamous.
Sexuality rights is often overlooked in history especially in the 20th century as not many historians talked about the inequality for gays and lesbians therefore it is hard to say this form of inequality shaped the United States. Gay liberation can be linked to feminism as in the 1960s homosexuals also stood up for their own rights in the fight against inequality. Throughout the 20th century gay and lesbians were described as “sinful or mentally disordered”, as it was illegal in most states, seen as irregular and against the traditional American values of heterosexual marriages. McCarthyism pronounced gays to be a source of “national weakness” a focal point that caused controversy around gays and lesbians. Carl Wittman declared a Gay Manifesto stating how San Francisco is a “refugee camp for homosexuals” a place where people had fled from “blackmailing cops, from families who disowned or “tolerated” us”, it shows the inequality as gay people were treated horribly but of fear of abuse has to pretend “everything was OK”.
It tells us, just because same-sex marriage is legal, that does not mean that the fight’s over. It talks about how LGBT+ people are not getting treated equally. They face discrimination for who they are, have a higher risk of commiting/attempting suicide then the average person, and they’re not receiving the resources that they need. It also shows how there’s little, to no representation or acceptance in the media. The article states how LGBT+ students are more likely to have physical and mental health problems.
People on this side of the argument believe that the idea that people are not born gay is as outdated as other recently disparaged beliefs, such as being left-handed. “ So, as willfully ignorant Americans blather on about the unnatural choice of being left-handed - I mean homosexual…” (Eichenwald). They argue that if homosexuality were a choice, then animals without higher thought would not have the rate of homosexual tendencies that they do, as “hundreds of species engage in homosexual behavior...for example, about 8 percent of rams exhibit sexual preference for males…” (Eichenwald). There are also several studies that have looked into the possibility of people being born gay and many of them have conclusive evidence that people are, in fact born with tendencies toward a certain sexual orientation. “Sex hormones in prenatal life play a role.
In Stephen Mays article “ What About Gender Roles In Same Sex Relationships” he talks about how the traditional gender roles of a relationship do apply in a small way to same sex couples but he also says “Imposing gender roles on on gay couples is even more ridiculous than doing so with straight couples”. The whole purpose of a gay relationship is that there is no “woman” and in a lesbian relationship there is no “man”. People are so accustomed to the traditional relationship of a man and a woman that they try to push those gender roles onto single gender relationships. When a man shows personality traits that we would normally associate with a woman, that does not make him the woman in the gay relationship because he is biologically a man.
One of the paradox’s in the short story “Say Yes” is when the husband states that a person of color and someone who is white should not get married since they come from different backgrounds. He claims that it would be impossible for them to truly get to know each other because of their differences. This is considered a paradox because at a first glance it might see plausible since different races do have different cultures and backgrounds. However, it is not true that people from different ethnicities should not get married just because of their different backgrounds since it is possible that they can get to know each other. People in general have different views and backgrounds, no matter their race.
The civil rights movement and the right for the LGBT to marry one another are similar but also extremely different. Often we try to relate one event to another to try to heighten the importance of the current topic of debate. Doing this can often devalue the importance of a past event making it harder for the newer generations to relate to it and understand it. The reason why they are similar is because it is a group of people seeking equality that the majority of society already has. They are also similar because the group they hold ties to had no previous rights.
Meanwhile the government are not protecting the LGBT community because it’s considered “wrong” this causes violence towards homosexual. For example, the cons about Gay Rights is that “Married LGBT couples can access the same assistance as heterosexual couples and are afforded the same amount of protection under the law”(Duigon 4). The government does not show equalness towards the LGBT community as they do to the “straight” people. It’s disappointing that protection is reduced because he or she is attracted to their same gender or more, but how government ignores that fact that they are struggling as well at the other and yet nothing has changed for them. To go into more detail, Mississippi has created a law to where doctors can refuse to provide medical care to he or she that are homosexual, as well as therapist do not have to counsel them either.
The main reason for Democrats defending the legalization of gay marriage is because they don’t bring in a religious aspect or bias. Religion has been the backbone of numerous anti-gay marriage views as many hate, conservative, and homophobic groups have used this excuse to attempt to deny gay people the right to marry the person they love. However, Democrats follow the separation of church and state; therefore, they have chosen to defend gay people and their right to get married as there is practically no justifiable or medical reason that proves that being gay is not right or gay people cannot raise children as properly. Democrats also understand that there are certain rights and benefits that gay people were denied before the legalization of gay marriage. The rights and benefits include tax breaks, custody of both parents in adopting, and being able to visit one’s spouse while one is in the hospital.
“Same-sex couples don’t have the legal rights traditional couples do... That’s what discrimination is”(Liu, paragraph 3). America is supposed to be the”getaway country”. Which means that everyone has equal rights no matter how unique. So if gay marriage is illegal, then same-sex couples
An RFRA would allow people to target gay people because of their sexual orientation. Gay marriage is one of the most controversial topics today in politics, so when it was legalized, people were naturally angered because of the two sides to the issue. Because gay marriage is now legalized, people want to find a way that they can find loopholes in gay marriage, so it cannot be completely legal. They do this by using RFRAs which allow people to take actions depending on their religious beliefs. The major issue that RFRAs pertain to is gay marriage, but as President Obama said, “we now live in America where our marriages are equal as well.”