He tries to teach him to be tough because that’s how he knew to grow up. He’s Always talking about facing the devil, symbolizing his dad. Since troy doesn’t know how to love properly, or be loyal, he isn’t loyal to rose. He’s selfish in thinking that he deserves more than rose does. He looks for happiness in another female because he thinks he’s fulfilling his duty of being a man because he provided materials to his family.
Okonkwo wanted Nwoye to take over his house when he was older. As stated in the book, “ He wanted Nwoye to grow into a young tough man capable of ruling his father’s household when he was dead and gone to join the ancestors” ( Achebe, 52). He wanted Nwoye to be the son he always wanted, he never took into account what Nwoye wanted. In the end, Okonkwo didn’t accept that Nwoye wanted a different path in life, and was too stubborn to realize. In Things Fall Apart, Chinua Achebe portrays Okonkwo as a tragic hero who major flaws that leads to his downfall is not wanting to be anything like his father, stubborn, and narrow
When Okonkwo was young, he declared that his father was not able to feed adequately of his family and he was ashamed by his father’s strength. He expressed his embarrassment against his father and also discovered that villagers of Umuofia had similar dislikes against his father. The hatred feelings against his father by the villagers encouraged him to follow his principles and strategies to self-stand. His independence was more or less admired and kept respected by the community and gave him feelings of security and reverence of his gaze further elevates his self-respect, and became more distance from his father. He was overwhelmed of the security and respect shown by the community.
Okonkwo grew up resenting his father for not being stronger and more masculine. Okonkwo is constantly fearing that he will end up a failure like his father. This fear has caused him to abandon the emotions that make him seem weak like pain, sadness, love and acceptance. He
In Afghanistan where fathers are the heads of the family, this lack of approval devastates Amir. In a patriarchal family, the father is the one who shows the son the ropes of the family business or is the one who supports and encourages the son, since the son would one day become the head of the family. Instead, Hassan, who Amir considers inferior because of Hassan’s Hazara status, receives most of the praise and affection from Baba. The praise and affection given to another who is not the acknowledged son of Baba is heartbreaking. On the other hand, Lourie, the poet of “Forgiving Our Fathers,” internally debates about forgiving his own father.
Abner Snopes would abuse his son and one particular moment Sarty realize that he did not want to live in fear with his father rules. In this context it is believable that Sarty wants to do the right things from now on,"If I had said they wanted only truth, justice, he would have hit me again." But now he said nothing. He was not crying. He just stood there”(Faulkner, 3).
With everything going on in David life he felt sorry the most with what was with his father and what he had to deal with when he was a young boy, Although there relationship isn 't so close Wes and his fathers was worst. "I suddenly felt sorry for my father- not as he stood before me at the moment, but as a boy"(David,115). Wes didn’t have a close relationship with his father and that lead to Wes not knowing how to get close to his son. If Wes didn’t know how a relationship was supposed to be with a father and a son how would he be able to provide that for his son. Wes does love and care for his son but they both don’t have a close connection with one another.
So, Okonkwo beat Nwoye hoping it would be enough for him to change back to his first religion. Although Okonkwo beat him, Nwoye did not convert back to his religion. Okonkwo was wrong for beating his son just because of his choice of religion. Okonkwo is very prone to following the opinion of others in his
He was a caring man down in his heart but “his whole life was dominated by the fear, the fear of failure and of weakness” (Achebe 13), and his mission to become one of the greatest men of his clan. Okonkwo was devoted to masculinity, he put it above anything else preventing anyone from questioning his masculinity. When he felt a slight sign of weakness it reminded him of his fathers failure to being a true man not providing for his family or ruling women and his children, therefore “he was not really a man” (Achebe 53).There were many traits to being a masculine man but to Okonkwo the main one was ruling his wife and children, if any of them had disobeyed him he would beat them without hesitation or regret. Although Okonkwo is influenced by masculinity it is because the Ibo culture believes in men dominating women which leads their society to fall
During the book, Okonkwo hates his father who acts very feminine according to the Igbo definition. Okonkwo’s actions are primarily based on his fear of becoming like his father so he rejects all characteristics that his father had. Throughout the story, we learn about how things fall apart for Okonkwo. The story starts off with Okonkwo living a normal life, beating his wives and farming, but then Ikemefuna joins the family as a tribute from another village to avoid war. Okonkwo starts to grow fond of Ikemefuna as he also has a positive influence on Nwoye, his son, because Nwoye starts to act more masculine.