While I was growing up, both my mother’s and father’s parenting style was a combination of permissive and authoritative. I believe them being a mix of both influenced me in both positive and negative ways because no type is perfect. Although I am not a parent yet, I hope I am the same way my parents were with me. Based on what I know, I would explain to new parents that being too strict on your children can do more harm than good and it is a good idea to let your child express themselves. To begin, while I was growing up, my parents were a combination of permissive and authoritative with me and my three older siblings.
But once they move to Welch, we see a more neglectful and destructive parenting style. Both Rex and Rosemary start to ignore the kids, asking them to fend for themselves and each other. This leads to both Lori and Jeannette having to help and almost manage the other two children. But in the long run, this may not have been a bad idea because it strengthened both of their independence. More and more we see this, as the Walls parents put the children in bad situations, they struggle, but eventually fix the situation and learn valuable lessons.
As mentioned previously, a significant number of parents emphasize the use of punishment to ensure total obedience and submission of the child. Most overprotective parents discipline their child through physical punishment and only a few acknowledge the use of explaining and reasoning with the child. The following is a statement of a father and his experience and opinion in punishments: After punishment [such as spanking], we believe we should always end up reconciled, with a hug and a kiss, and the situation is over. No matter what the situation is or what the punishment is, we always love them afterward. As a matter of fact we show more love toward them after we have punished them.
The author avoids using words like I think, I believe, and maybe. A good example of his assertiveness is on page 13 “Additionally, increased visitation will help the reunification process between mother and child. During the stressful and seemingly never-ending process of regaining custody of one’s child, visitation can help motivate the incarcerated mother and encourage her not to give up in battle.” Bogans is absolutely sure that child visitation has a positive impact on mothers. Also, by Bogans using jargon (which are words or phrases used in a particular group) throughout the essay helps readers believe the author is very knowledgeable.
Becoming a role model means helping and showing guidance and support towards the child. Coming into a new home the child might have trust issues, might be shy, a little rude, scared. Depending on what has happened to the child in the past everyone has a different background story but don’t pressure the child to open up he/she will adapt differently towards other. People can’t one day wake up and think “ I want to become a foster/adoptive parent today”. To become a legal guardian of someone take commitment.
Authoritarian parents are cold and rejecting towards their child and make their child follow certain principle with force and not reasons. Becoming over-protective they tend to take all decisions for their child. They often over-burden the child with high expectations thereby leading to the formation of negative aspect of the child’s personality (like depression, indecisiveness, anti socialism, etc.) when they grow. Permissive parents are warm and agreeable who hardly restricts the freedom of their children.
Everyone knows the aphorism “Mama knows best,” but even a parent can be misguided. A parent’s behavior notably influences their children. In the short story “The Lie” by Kurt Vonnegut, the author scrutinizes the behavior of parents. A parents’ mission is to give their children opportunities to progress and develop, to show them that they need to amend mistakes, and to place them on the righteous path.
In different instances, this would come up in conversations and the reactions were for the majority “that’s awful” or “poor thing” or “I can’t understand how anyone could do such a thing” and I never fully understood why. My mother was raised with an abusive father and a compromising mother (who too was dealing with the abuse), so I have seen how a negative experience can have a positive impact/result (message) on a person/child. I have now grown a curiosity to understand the different limits of child abuse and believe what my parents did benefitted me and any other children who received this discipline. With that in mind, I am going to define, and explore different aspects of child abuse with some modern examples. Some people believe that physical punishments can be degrading and negatively affect the mental health of the child compared to those who think it teaches discipline and how to respect others without any significant damage to the child 's psyche.
People on the outside of the family need to be mindful of these emotional challenges because they heavily affect the way family members nurture the child and discuss the child with others. When a family member exhibits these negative emotions they need to be shown that it is ok to feel these emotions. c) Needs of the Parents, Siblings and Extended Family According to Carol Gestwicki the needs of the family are intimately related to their cultural background, educational background, religion and profession. It can also be related to the age of the family members and that of the child with the exceptionality, family size and structure.
Typically when there are males in the family they look up to their father figures for guidance and wish to be like them whereas, the females look up their mom more and are taught since their young to be a lady. This balance of qualities creates a structure that meets the norms and values of a family. It had been previously seen that when there is deviation from the norms there is a disorganization. This threatens the survival of the family system. Creating a disruptive and chaotic living environment not only for the parents but to those in the family as well.
But as a teacher myself of my own preschool classroom, I do believe that there is such thing as sheltering a child too much from the risk they take. I do believe it could hinder them developmentally and it could have a negative effect on their confidence if it isn’t handled properly. Instead of telling my students they can’t jump off of the table, I ask them what would happen if they did jump off the table. They usually reply by saying they would get hurt, then they take it upon themselves to get off the table and do something else. So living the life of a mother of children in a child care facility, and being the teacher of children in a child care facility, I see and understand the views of both worlds.
When I babysit, they watch how I act and talk so I want to set the best example. Due to the children constantly watching me, I know what words and actions are wrong to use in any situation. The children have taught me how to be a better person, along with me teaching them how to grow up to be an outstanding individual. Although I have several skills due to my experience with children already, I hope to improve them. There can always be improvement with any skill, even if I think I have
Parents believe their children are angels and therefore deserve credit even though they do nothing to earn it. This ideology results in children being raised to believe that they are able to cheat and get away with it. These children continue to be babied by their parents, which allows them to rely on them to deal with the challenges they face. Thus when they are challenged they either give up or take the easy way out, such as lying and cheating. Pelton resigned solely because her students complained to their parents, who then decided to defend their students who were already in the wrong.