Failure to Express
From as far back as I can remember, shyness made me scared to speak up for myself. In fifth grade, I distinctly remember being unable or unwilling to speak with my teacher. I had had a skiing accident where I had broken my jaw in the mishap. The accident caused me to have to stay home from school for about six weeks. My teacher sent home work for me, so I diligently finished everything, in hopes of making my teacher proud. Although I knew I had done all the work, she disagreed and gave me a little over half the credit I deserved. I was disappointed in myself for accepting less than what I had earned, I did not want to speak up and respectfully request for my teacher to find the remaining assignments. I wanted my teacher to be proud of my work, even though I did not feel proud enough to get the credits I deserved.
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My timid behavior made me feel unworthy, awkward and silenced to never speak honestly about what bothered me. Day after day, I would watch life go by without considering joining in, because participating would require me to talk for myself. I never deliberately lied to people, I just could not work up enough courage to tell someone when I needed anything like credit I deserved, support I needed through rough times, or correct behavior adjustments I desired. Although I did not know how to reverse my shyness, I desperately wanted to change. I certainly had the intent of trying my hardest to never fail at using my own voice again. Feeling the pain of having no voice made me feel powerless and a little lonely. Feeling so low made me realize my failure cannot get any worse, I could only improve from there. Although I still felt shy, I now had the strength of will power to
For fifteen years, I put my heart, effort, and soul into my band Murky Waters. I made it into a career that supports my wife, my stepdaughter, and my parents. Murky Waters is what saved my family and me from poverty in the ghetto of Warsaw, Poland, and it’s what saved me from giving up on life entirely before I met my wife. I met her only a year after Murky Waters began and she was introduced to me by my best friend and drummer, Tony. Anka was two months pregnant with my stepdaughter, Antonia, at the time we met.
Misdiagnosed November was when the pain started. I was dizzy at church one Wednesday night. I did not think much of it. Though, now, I think I should have. Looking back, I should have mentioned it to someone there or I should gone home early, but I did not.
I had trouble pronouncing certain vowels. I knew that I needed help, but until my mother spoke those words, I never accepted it. My problem was buried inside me, but now it was free for all the world to see. Whenever I tried to speak I could feel my classmates’ eyes on me, judging me. It was so embarrassing that I just withdrew from the other students.
Starting out the year, I may have been soft spoken and shy, now as the years nears its end, I am more apt to speaking and voicing my opinion. Often during class discussions and debates my opinions and answers remained hidden, that was until Invisible Man group discussions came along. These discussions included proposing chapter questions and reviewing the chapters that had been previously read. After being assigned chapter two and being told there was going to be class discussions on each chapter, I knew it was time to come out of my shell. Starting out in the first discussion, I began to lead the talks and present topics.
I have gone through periods of my life when I finally break out of my shell and gain the confidence to be who I am. But, an incident has always come up that put me right back in my lonely and unhappy shell. It is like a rollercoaster: the high points are when I am confident and the low parts are when I am sad. But along the ride, I have found what I value most. I value leadership and I aspire to be a leader, a role model, for my peers and even for people who have no idea who I am.
It was the last inning in our all-star game, and we were losing 10 to 8. Our team had 2 outs and we couldn’t get the third. Our pitcher was doing bad, throwing all balls, while all of us in the field were tired, ready to fall asleep at any moment. There goes another walk. They score again.
My teacher said she couldn’t get enough of my writing. I wanted to be proud of myself, but it left such a bittersweet taste in my mouth. Soon enough, people started coming to me from help on their work. I helped them with anything they needed. Over time, my peers began realizing their mistakes and begun to improve.
Nobody said I had to, It just stemmed from a fear of being teased or excluded just because I was a girl. I was a shy kid from the start, but around the time I started sixth grade I had a fear of sharing what I loved with people In fear of them thinking it was stupid. It took a long time to get rid of this fear. I still have trouble talking about myself and I still get shy, but when I found my own world, filled with my friends, my ideas, my art and my music, I realized I was my own person, and a person who I love. I realized my family can fit in that world too, and they only make me prouder of it.
My entire life I have always tried to be the best me, but as I grew up, I realized that I was stopping myself from reaching my full potential. I was born with the rare disease called Charcot-Marie-Tooth Disease (CMT), a disease that affects the nerves of my hands and legs. I held myself back from many opportunities granted to me because of the shame I felt towards the disease, I felt as if others would look down at me as less. I let my disease take over me and drown out the real me. As I started high school, I forced myself out of the shell that I built and gained a new sense of confidence, and even pride.
I was shy, I was sad, every moment of every day previously. Yes, I was young and did not know how the world functioned. Every day I was too timid to communicate so every day was a spiral downward. Another step into the dissent of self-proclaimed exile. Every day I rationalized that I am ‘the other’ and every day I was told to celebrate your differences, when all I could see was the differences.
Overworked. That’s the closest word that I could use to describe this week. I feel like this journal is going to be about me just bickering, yet there is some stuff you might want to read about. First of all, I have been sleeping three hours this week because of upcoming midterms, quizzes, and assignments due. I am sleep deprived and mentally drained and as my second year in college I have never had my life drained out of my body like a passing shadow.
Because of my new situation of being alone for the first time in my life, I felt lost and looked for support from other people. I saw that moving to a friend’s place would satisfy me needs but it made my situation worse. Being a shy person, it was hard for me to approach and express my disagreements with my roommate, but this experience made me someone different about future situations as those. Nowadays if I need to express myself or need to say anything, I will say it. I still am me, but I am more open to deal with conflicts head on instead of accepting them.
I have no issues and usually no regrets letting someone know, straight up, how I feel. Why hold back? I don’t, unless it’s in a paper. When referring to excessive timidity, “My high school principal was a fool,” is a prime example. I would normally vocalize to someone how I felt about my principal in wording such as that but on paper it would be, “My high school principal never made the right decisions.
As a child, I was extremely meek and reserved. In addition to that, I was what people call a "doormat"; if my friend asked that I do something for him or her, I would perform the task diligently. Maybe my constant overcompliance was due to my benevolence and lack of self-confidence or the fact that I was the youngest in my grade, but I felt the need to please my peers by doing whatever work they bestowed upon me. In hindsight, I acted more like a loyal servant than a friend. One moment from my second grade year that has stayed with me after many years was when I was outside at recess with one of my friends who had decided to bring her books and binders out with her.
when I was recruited into a poetry club called JDL (Just Don’t Lie) by my favorite English teacher. At first, I was skeptical. I loved to write, but I couldn’t see myself actually performing. I remember expressing this to her, but she simply smiled and told me that I could do it. It was her believing in me, and her showing me how powerful my words could be that finally broke the chains of silence that had once been wrapped so tightly around me.