Watching The Trouble with Evan was very difficult. There were so many things this family could have done to make things better, but every time they tried they just kept falling into their own ways. Insecure disorganized attachment was quite apparent between him and both of his parents. His parents had the tendency to verbally abuse him quite a bit, yelling things that most people would never imagine yelling at their child. Other times it seemed the mother would be frightened of Evan and his behavior.
Is the fact that she sheltered her kids; to the extent where it had a negative effect. Her devotion and drive to keep her kids from becoming like their father may have been coming from a sincere place; however it only caused harm to their relationship. This can be shown when Jenny Lynn finds one of her offspring reading a book and decides to take matters into her own hands: (Pg.40) " my sisters one by one discovered my father's bedroom...my mother's reaction was always abrupt, bordering on the angry...and once I saw her slap my youngest sister so hard." Despite the fact that she disliked books and sees it as a waste of time. If she were to change her point of view or look at it from another angle, she might have seen books as a door to opportunities and other possibilities.
I realized that the only way I could achieve the results I desired was to work harder, so I focused more energy into my schoolwork and it paid off. I continued to play the flute all through high school, and participating in marching band had an equally important impact on my life. Through marching band, I learned the importance of time management. Rehearsals every day after school, Friday night football games, and Saturday competitions that lasted all day greatly cut the amount of free time I had. In fact, the majority of my free time seemed to disappear, until I started working on my time management skills.
He always felt like his mother doesn’t love him so he just wanted to be loved by his mother. (Gary Ridgway – The Green River Killer. (2011, May 2).) Ridgway even suffered from dyslexia which caused him to be a poor student and he need it to repeat grades in order to pass. (Montaldo, C.
After the death of her grandmother, her mother went into a deep depression, so Annabel tried to avoid hurting her mother’s feeling as much as she could. Annabel told many white lies. Whenever anyone asked her how she was, she would respond “I’m fine”, even if she wasn’t. Annabel never spoke up about what actually happened between her and Will, which made everyone assume an idea that was not true. When Emily was raped by Will, she immediately reported him to the authorities.
Victor becomes heavy hearted and he worries non-stop until he becomes physically ill. Evidence of this is when he first created the “monster” and Henry came to visit, he feel ill due to paranoia and what I interpreted as depression. Elizabeth carries on until she can’t anymore. She tries to keep everyone happy until she herself breaks. Evidence of this starts in chapter three when her aunt dies and she carries on with her duties (to show her dedication) then in chapter seven when William died she breaks and gives up on trying to fix others showing she is very fragile.
Wilson, probably wasn’t meant to become deviant but seeing his brother and dad act in those ways influenced him. When they interviewed Wilsons, sister she said everyone compared Wilson and his brother and that made me think he of him being a secondary deviant. As far as Peagler, goes she did go through a rehabilitation process that included being an activist to other women, helping other people get their GED, and counseling. I don’t think she was a true deviant, and I think she should have released immediately. Violence, played a major role in Peagler life because she missed seeing her kids grow up, her family was stressed out over the situation, and because she was a victim of domestic violence she lost her life, mentally and later physically.
She had an alcoholic father who became abusive occasionally towards her and her mother. Both her parents worked long hours to upkeep the family farm, therefore Sally was often left in the care of her next door neighbor. Her neighbor’s teenage son sexually abused Sally for years and years later when Sally told her mother about it, her mother told her to keep quiet for fear of what it may do to the Applebee reputation. Due to all these risk factors, Sally’s Adverse Childhood Experiences score was 6 (extremely high) and she had a resiliency score of 4 (extremely low). This means that Sally has a greater risk of developing health conditions later in life, such as alcoholism, chronic depression, heart disease, etc.
It was so hard because the kid was so angry and so hurt that he started acting out. The kid would talk down to him tell him he wasn’t his father and that was something he couldn’t deal with. So my friend stopped picking him up, and stop spending time with him. He still sees him from time to time but it won’t ever be the same. That lady never imagine that lie would have ever come out.
The Raintree family is unstable and does not have the capabilities to support and keep it lively. “‘… we moved from one rundown house to another… And of course, we were always on welfare’” (2). Instead of their parents using the welfare-cheque for providing the needs of the family, they would lie and tell their children that they are to use it for medicine to cure their tuberculosis, even though it only goes to their alcohol addiction. Their parents would always drink alcohol until it comes to a point that they are disregarding and neglecting their children. “Cheryl and I always woke up before our parents, so I would tend to Cheryl’s needs” (3).
I did not want to talk to her because of how much I resented her. She played a mind game with me. She would always say, “I 'm going to get help. I 'm going to get my act together.” I believed her the first few times. Then, she would become more sneaky, and try to hide it from my whole family, while she continued to drink.
But anyway, I never messed with any other guys girlfriend after that. I learned my lesson. Then in the 8th grade, I started falling for Carrie Clearwater. I finally got talking to her when she started talking to my best friend Shawn Brown. He’s a good guy, but he can be a real player.
Seeing all of the pictures of my friends in their uniforms made me jealous and upset about my decision. I wanted my friends to think that I was not afraid to quit. My dad tried to talk me out of quitting, but I did it anyways. Lengel also tried to talk Sammy out of quitting by telling him he did not know what he was doing. “You don’t know what you’re saying”
That was my diagnosis. The doctor rattled off some medical jargon, but all I heard was, “…not go to school tomorrow.” The day was not all that great though as my mom made me lay down the whole time. She also wasn’t too thrilled with my suggestion of sledding. In the end I recovered, but my dad was still disappointed in me. I have learned that our elders with experience are our greatest source of information.
As the day passed my fevers started, they were bad. The best thing that had happened was that they finally brought my Scarlett in the room with me to let her stay with me. My sickness started when my incision opened back up, they took me to the ER. Tests were getting done, they were taking me all over the place all I could do was cry. My family was going through a tough time, all they wanted were answers.