For most of my life, I felt like a stranger to everyone around me, including my family. It shouldn’t have been shocking; I was adopted. I cannot pinpoint the exact moment I knew that, because in a way I always knew. I am an Asian-American from South Korea, and I was brought into this country on August 4th, 1999. My adoptive parents refer to this day as my “Gotcha Day.”
I first found out I was pregnant two months after turning eighteen. Looking at that positive pregnancy test, I was terrified. I had countless emotions running through my head at the same time. The first question was, am I going to be able to do this? Of course, abortion was never an option. From that moment on, I decided I needed to find the courage inside me to step up and become a parent at such a young age.
As a child I was very fortunate to have a family like my own; my parents were truly happy and wholly in love. I was incredibly close with my siblings and still am today despite our little fights. Along with being close to my siblings my father and I had a great relationship; most people who knew me would have considered me a “daddy’s girl”. Growing up my father was remarkably proud of my grades and who I was becoming as a person. Oftentimes he would brag about me to anyone who listened. Like most children I dreamed how happy he would be to see me go to college, start a career and have a family of my own. All of that changed on September 9th, 2011 when I found out my dad had been diagnosed with Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis also known as ALS or Lou Gehrig’s disease.
What makes a good father? It is someone who is a leader, someone who always wants what is best for you. Especially when times get rough. Over time parenting has changed and grown in many different ways. Authors tackle the ideal parent and different parenting actions and views. Harper Lee in, To Kill A Mockingbird shows many different types of parents. As a single father, character Atticus Finch stands out the most. He shows he is a good parent as he provides important life lessons to his children and others. He shows fairness to others and his kids especially. Lastly he shows that you should always stand up for others no matter what.
I would like to take a moment to talk about the two most important and influential people in my life my parents Sabrina and Darren Hardnick. As I sat them down to talk to them about their past and their future I actually learned a lot more about them. It’s true when they say “you learn something new everyday”.
Coming-of-age is difficult for both teens and parents. The parents often have trouble parenting when the teenager is disrespectful and confused. Teenagers do not realize that their parents have been in the same shoes as them and know what is best for them.. Coming-of-age involves recognizing different perspectives.
“For me, the most important thing that I have to accomplish is to be a good father. That’s the most difficult challenge of my life.” What makes a fine father? What is required in order to become wise at parenting? The ideal parent looks after his or her children. They promote good morals and values to their children. They help them lead and shape their future. The novel, To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee, shows us how a compassionate father acts and influences his children. Atticus Finch is a person of high respect and high values. He cares for his children, wants them to stand up for what is right, and teaches them crucial ethics.
Evelia Ramos was born in Jalisco, Mexico. She was born in September 11, 1980. When she was older, her and my dad decided to get married. Then they decided to move to Oakland California. When they came to California they were expected to get a better life they would have in Mexico. When they came to California my dad started working in Service West, installing furniture in buildings. In 2002 she had me. While i was growing up she had another baby, my little sister. She was born in 2013. One thing that i really love about my mom is how brave she is. One time she told me a story of how she was walking down the street next to Fremont High School, there were 3 women and they tried to do something with my moms hoodie and my mom turned around and
I’m able to resonate with a plethora of things, yet the thing I consider my identity is I’m an adopted, Haitian immigrant.
Pro-life is defined as being opposed to legalized abortion. Pro-choice is to believe that individuals have unlimited autonomy with respect to their own reproductive systems as long as they do not breach the autonomy of others. A pro-choice affirms that celibacy and abstinence, contraception use, emergency contraception use, abortion when it is done in the first two trimesters of pregnancy and childbirth must remain legal. (Christian,2011) When we think of abortion, the first thing that we think of is killing of an unborn innocent child. I am against abortion, but I guess everybody has the right do to whatever they want and whatever they feel is best for them. When I hear of girls that had abortion and they act like they did nothing wrong it makes me
“Rogan’s Shoes?” I said in shock. I was driving to my parents house in Wauwatosa from Flagstaff, Arizona with my family. I have three girls. My oldest girls are Beverly and Trinity. They are both two years old. I also have a two month old, Liberty. I have been married for two years to my husband, Hudson. I am an occupational therapist, but have taken off for a few months to take care of my girls. “What is Rogan’s Shoes?” asked Hudson. “It’s a shoe store that has been around for ages.” I still couldn’t believe it. Rogan’s Shoes? I remember when…
When representatives from 13 unruly colonies met just down the road from here, some wanted to stick with the King. Some wanted to stick it to the king, and go their own way. The revolution hung in the balance. Then somehow they began listening to each other … compromising … finding
I got married at 26 years old. I had three kids, two girls and one boy. My kids are now 24, 27, and 30 years old. Their names are Carlie, Nicole, and Jackson. My husband worked for a building company named Caterpillar. I live in Chicago, Illinois, but this is not where it all started.
In a usual family, there are set roles. A father, mother, and children. Stereotypically, each role is supposed to have a set job- the father is in charge of the family, making the rules, the mother cooks and helps the children, and the children play. This stereotype is slowly changing throughout the years, and some could argue that it is different for their family. One thing that should be true in all families, is that the parents are good role models for their children, leading them in the right direction in life. In the short story, “Powder” by Tobias Wolff, the roles of father and son are flipped. The father in the story doesn’t act as a typical father figure, but instead the son meets all of the requirements that a fatherly figure should have. Throughout the story, the father and son spend a lot time together, making up for all of their lost time together. Through bonding and talking with his father, the son realizes who he is compared to his father and his actions.
Becoming a father in my life was the best thing that has ever happened to me. Living for someone else and not just yourself is a special feeling. Knowing that it is your sole duties in life are now to love, provide, teach, mentor, discipline and love some more. I always hear people say “ Im don 't think I 'm ready to be a parent.” and to be honest I do not think anyone is ready to be a parent. I can still remember like it was yesterday the day my son was born. The feelings leading up to the day he was born were the most nerve racking days of my life.