What I find fulfilling about being submissive is knowing that my Dom is happy and it makes me happy knowing that my Dom is being loved and taken care of. It’s a win – win. Being submissive is nothing to avoid conflicts with my partner/Dom, it is more about being cooperative and understanding. I believe balance is key in everything in life. If there isn’t balance, then it is doom to fail. If you love someone, you will do what’s best for the relationship; however being submissive out of fear is not submitting with joy and desire in a relationship. I learned that a Dom/Sub relationship is built on trust, which is a fundamental foundation.
I am not quite sure when I first knew I was submissive. As I am starting to recall, in the beginning of my current relationship I wasn’t quite sure what was expected. (1st relationship ever) All I knew and wanted was to be with someone that was loyal, make me happy and loved me for who I am. As the years passed by, my partner had to go overseas for a very long. During that time, I learned that trust, communication, and passion were the key to a long distance relationship (Even though we both knew that there was this small chance our relationship wasn’t going to work out). The long distance relationship that I had just a few years back was challenging. Being committed to a relationship with someone that I couldn’t physically reach out and touch was daunting, frustrating, and above all dismal. We had to
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Like I previously state, being submissive is nothing like to avoid conflicts or not having a backbone towards situations. I think it simply means that it can bring more passion, strength and life to a relationship if it’s received by a partner/Dom with love and respect. I am glad that I was able to understand submissive behavior that can be easily judged but I believe that we have to sometimes have learn to control our ego and not get the best of
Imagine, if you will, being stripped of all power within your life. Everything is now in your partner’s control, and you are submissive to them always. Do not speak out of turn, do not pursue dreams, and more than anything, do not disobey. The church, the law, the townsfolk, and your partner all have claim in how you should live. In fact, the only person without a say is yourself.
The gray wolf 's expressive behavior is more complex than that of the coyote and golden jackal, as necessitated by its group living and hunting habits. While less gregarious canids generally possess simple repertoires of visual signals, wolves have more varied signals which subtly inter grade in intensity.[12][13] When neutral, the legs are not stiffened, the tail hangs down loosely, the face is smooth, the lips untensed, and the ears point in no particular direction.[135] Postural communication in wolves consists of a variety of facial expressions, tail positions and piloerection.[120] Aggressive, or self-assertive wolves are characterized by their slow and deliberate movements, high body posture and raised hackles, while submissive ones carry their bodies low, sleeken their fur and lower their ears and tail.[136] When a breeding male encounters a subordinate family member, it may stare at it, standing erect and still with the tails horizontal to its spine.[137] Two forms of submissive behavior are recognized: passive and active. Passive submission usually occurs as a reaction to the approach of a dominant animal, and consists of the submissive wolf lying partly on its back and allowing the dominant wolf to sniff its anogenital area.
They are being forced to respect every other person and their requests. Such as in the film, A Few Good Men, individuals unconsciously perform obedience to higher ranked personnel, although it’s already enforced. Bringing into the light, no one is born obedient. Being obedient is learned. Who must we be obedient to, how can you tell, what makes it okay to obey?
What if you were in a relationship that had been going great, nothing but happiness, your partner gets a little jealous of other people who have some interest in you and they have their own opinion on what they think you should be doing? That’s usually normal and it might be cute and reassuring that they care about you and they just want you to be theirs. But what happens when they want something from you that you don’t feel comfortable with and they have no other way to force you to do something as small as what they want you to wear or to make you go to a new step in your relationship that you don’t agree with and might not be ready for? They might go to the point where the only option to get what they want is to hurt you.
As children are taught to go with what the authority tells them to do, they played along with the rules, but one thing that the children learned fast was that being on bottom most of them felt worthless and that there was no hope, yet being on top made them feel like a king and that they could do anything. A Class Divided shows perfect example of this when the teacher test the kids over their multiplication with flash cards. The children with the “correct” eye color of the day were faster when testing the flash cards, while the children with the “wrong” eye color were slower. Even Fromm’s article states that one’s obedience makes them part of the power, one feels stronger, and one cannot make an error (Fromm 127). A person felt a sense of hopeless that being on the bottom you would just get attacked and that it was best not to speak up but rather do what the authority says so that they would but obeying.
Permissive parenting style is when parents tend to be lenient and may only step in when there is a serious problem. There may be few consequences for misbehavior because parents have an attitude of "kids will be kids. " Permissive parenting is potentially a harmful style of parenting simply because permissive parents take on more of a friend role than a parent role. Few rules are set for the children of permissive parents, and the rules are inconsistent when they do exist. This lack of structure causes children to grow up with little self-discipline and self-control.
In Erich Fromm’s “Disobedience As A Psychological And Moral Problem,” Fromm argues that most people don’t always obey their bosses, spouses, etc. He portrays that people that cannot obey, is a rebel and they feel that if they act out their anger, resentment on other people is the right thing to do; rather than obey and use the power of reason. In chronological order, he lists different examples like Adam & Eve and Prometheus; and how they handled the consequences after they disobeyed. After reading this article, I agree and disagree with the article, from personal experience with disobeying and obeying my bosses. People I have come across in my life state they feel that obeying a superior or spouse means that you are being a slave to what
We have been trained to be obedient to authority. This quality is deep-rooted in us all from the manner in which we were brought up. It is natural for people to obey orders from those whom they recognized as their authority. This is the natural response to legitimate authority and can be learnt in a variety of situations. In a summary written in the article “The Perils of Obedience” (Milgram 1974), states: “The legal aspects of obedience are of enormous import, but they say very little about how most people behave in concrete situations.”
Constructive obedience is the voluntary decision based on views of justice. Destructive obedience is decisions that lead to harm on others or a negative outcome, for an example a soldier taking orders that would harm others. “The relationship and obedience roles, they give us an example of children, depending on the authority the child will decide weather to disobey or obey. The authors discover that Disobedience and obedience go hand and hand, and “although they’re not totally opposite they do compliment each other.”
Anything is a double-edged sword and so does obedience. Obedience has many functions. Submissiveness to a authentic leader is indispensable to win a war, and also, it provides stability for a country. From another point of view, it will lead to chaos and confusions in an institution without obedience. On the contrary, submission also has some limitations.
Spanking can be effective when a child is not listening to a parent. If a child isn’t following proper rules and disregarding their parents’ statement, then a spanking can enforce a form of respect that the child has to follow (Jasmine, 2015). It can be an awakening to reality as the child could now think of how their actions are deviant. Parents that don’t resolve to spanking as the first and only method of discipline is essential for both the parents and the child. I believe a parent should always try to enforce rules by talking and showing examples of how deviant actions are frowned upon.
Permissive parenting makes the child friendly but at the same time it makes them stubborn too where areas, uninvolved parenting spoils the child and makes them more mature that their peers. Try to be friendlier with the child but at the same time be firm with them. Try to understand them but don’t let them take advantage of this understanding
Civility and Incivility Communication Behavior analyze Defensive and Nondefense Behavior In the workplace, workers communicate with each other’s in different way because of their characteristics and personal problem in life affect behavior in communication. The most common communication I will be comparing and contrast between civility and incivility. Also, this affect the message comes from defensive and nondefense communication. It affects in working environment, the feeling or emotions by proving a real life examples behavior approach in scenarios.
Persuasive essay Parents should be permissive Instantly, several parents are struggling to find a way to raise their children effectively. Permissive parenting is one of their choices. Being permissive is treating children with plenty of love, caring and nurturing but not much authorities, rules or punishments. They might make their children lack of self-control or aggressive, but alongside with these disadvantages, there are also numerous benefits. Permissive parenting helps children to be successful, have the courage to achieve their dreams and gives parents greater understanding of their children.
What is love? Everybody has his/her own understanding and definition of love. In order to better understand all the complexity of such a phenomenon, it is worth analyzing specific scenarios. Therefore, this paper concentrates on one of such scenarios, which, in fact, is one from my personal experience. I had been in a long-distance relationship that had lasted a little over a year.