I was also aware that I needed to keep in check, talk to my personal counsellor and the help of my tutor’s feedbacks, I had to make sure it is improving, developing and evolving in a healthy manner without being polluted with past learned behaviours. The only difference now is that I can face these with much ease and allow myself to celebrate my successes and have a healthy criticism of my shortcomings with growing self-acceptance. We had three assignments handed up until now and each assignment made me look my past and my present with little more objectivity and with the help of new things that we have been learning. Using some of the paradigms, theories and systems that have been used in Psychotherapy and Counselling I started to have a better understanding and more objective view of human behaviour in dealing with different issues in our day to day life, particularly what they meant in the course of my life. I found that it is incredible how our mind works and how it tries to find ways to adjust to its environment.
Learning to make a specific plan for my daily tasks and make a to-do list to make my day as productive as possible is something very helpful which was advised to me by the instructor of this lecture Mr. Irfan. What I mean by specific is that it is time-specific and nature-specific. In addition, I have always heard of the term SMART but I did not give it my attention because I thought it would be just like many other useless methods of time management. However, the way this lecture illustrated this term or method is very unique and has helped me in implementing this method in my daily life. For instance, a goal should be time-based, for years I used to set goals or tasks and never put a deadline or timeframe, so I keep procrastinating until I lose track of time and eventually finishing the task in as imperfect way or not finishing it at all.
Everyday people are constantly constructing Gestalts about those they meet and interact with. People are trying to determine the sort of influence that you could potentially have on their life whether it be positive or negative (McCornack, Chap. 3, Constructing Gestalts). According to Amaeze, she has seen me as “dependable, caring, and kind”. Overall, Amaeze says that I’m “always willing to help others.” Reflecting on this, I think I am seen this way because I feel the need to meet others expectations of me.
This came as a bit of a gut punch, as I have worked hard to implement time and task management practices to ensure that I don’t neglect commitments that I’ve made and that I can be relied on to do what I said I was going to do, by the time I said it would be done. You may be thinking as you read this sentence, this is all a bit ironic as I have not consistently demonstrated mastery of time and task management skills while I have been here at SELC. Nevertheless, these things are important to me and I will redouble my efforts to deliver on them. There are likely a few factors that led to this comment—and while its hard to tell for certain where it came from—I’ll assume that it came from the Coast
Significant life events would have to be a major event that has made my life worthwhile. Not only the big events have shown my parents ' interest in my life, but it also shows that they are supportive. For instance, my family is open to hearing about anything and there is little that they are limited to discussing. One thing that has taken a toll on my family about sharing significant or insignificant details about the day is getting closer to know what is going on in our lives with how we are acting and the reasons everyone does certain things in life. One moment where this ritual has taken a major effect on my life was when I was able to share any of my milestones that changed my life.
It might be a good reputation, a responsible, caring person always willing to do the right doing, or it could see us as unreliable. We all have our own values that we have developed throughout the course of our lives. Our family, friends and the experiences we have had all contribute to our sense of who we are and how we view the world. We need to be aware of our own personal values and be prepared to adopt them to our professional value. Values can influence many of the judgments we make as well as have an impact on the support we give.
Moreover, my classmates used to constantly select me as the leader of the group before starting a new assignment. Particularly, one of the skills that I have developed and which I consider is one of the reasons why my teammates felt confident and comfortable having me as a leader is the fluid communication I maintained with them. Secondly, another dexterity I have is the power of motivating others and making them know that we can always 'push harder '. Nonetheless, I try to practice flexibility because I have learned that nothing comes out as planned. Equally important, experience has taught me to adapting to change since the only constant in life is change.
This does not mean we have to walk around looking for things to jump down joe’s throat but it sure means we are the keepers of our brothers and sisters. In that moment I realized that I would have my work cut out and I embraced the challenge that this would become. Helping him understand that I am here and I had a purpose in his ranks was to me my daily motivator. This has not been the only issue I have seen or faced as a Leader and I know it will not be the last issue. But as the backbone of the Army w=if we are not ready to be the change or make the change that is needed to ensure our ranks and this force continues being great then we need to make way, move out of the way and let those that are ready and willing to end the inability to
Moreover to be an effective leader, we need to work along with the team mates and support them whenever they need it. One more thing that I have learnt while working in my previous organization is, to be a successful manager we must be able to effectively communicate our ideas to others. Being able to communicate doesn’t mean being over extrovert, but a good blend of introversion and extroversion must be there. Initially I was a bit reserved person, but after I came to job and realized that this characteristic of mine is effecting my performance, I decided to improve myself so that I can effectively communicate my ideas to others. Although apart from the above
Life Lessons Life always gives us lessons. Life lessons can either be good or bad but we all have learned from past experiences. I can say I learned so many lessons throughout my life but, one important lesson that I had to learn the hard way was to "Never expect anything from anyone to avoid getting disappointed". It took me a while to actually accept this lesson but once I accepted the lesson and applied it has helped me mentally. We always want to believe other people will change because we think it's the best for them and maybe even ourselves.