Process Essay: How To Get A First Date

If you have ever been on a first date and it never progressed to a second, then you might have been wondering what went wrong. Was it your clothes, your hair, or did you say something to offend him? The answer is probably not quite so simple and it could be that you were expecting too much, or trying too hard. The purpose of a first date is just to see how well you get on and not to find out if he is husband material, so relax, take it easy and follow these tips on how to get a first date to lead to more.

1. Be attentive
Looking like you actually want to be there would be a good move! Look interested in what he has to say and don’t be distracted by what else might be going on. Don’t sit playing with your phone, or watching people pass by outside.

Avoid the awkward topics of conversation
One way to guarantee that you don’t get a second date would be to get into an argument with him over an important issue. Even if you feel really strongly about an issue, express your opinions if you need to, but don’t get into a fight about it. Avoid the potentially controversial topics if you can and keep the conversation light. You can have the heavy debates another time.

7. Don’t lie to impress
There might be some things that you don’t want to talk about on a first date, but don’t tell lies just to impress him. If you pretend to like something that you don’t, or pretend to be someone that you are not, the chances are that he will see through the lies anyway. Even if he doesn’t, you will have to come clean later on if you do start to date him regularly.

8. Don’t tell him everything about you on a first date
Don’t give him your full life story on a first date. For one thing, you don’t know him well enough to tell him all your private secrets, and for another, you are going to want to have something to talk about in your second date. If you leave him with some unanswered questions, then he will want to ask you out again to find out more about you.

9. Don’t let the date go on for too