Physical Punishment
Do you think that people might think twice about spanking and physically punishing their children if it leads to your child resenting you, not being able to trust you, or even hurt the way that they function socially and mentally for the rest of their lives? Every day parents are spanking and physically punishing their children, not knowing how it will affect their kids down the road. Some parents may wonder why their child acts out aggressively at school, why they don’t do as well academically as other students, or maybe why they don’t feel comfortable or are scared to come to you when they have made a mistake? The children who are spanked and physically punished may have psychological damage and not function well academically or socially, the relationships between parent and child are compromised by causing lack of trust and
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In this paper, I will argue and show parents how spanking and physically disciplining our children can have negative and detrimental consequences because it causes psychological damage, a lack of trust between child and parent, and when it is not done in the right mind set it can lead to more serious matters such as child abuse. “In 2012, a national survey showed more than half of women and three-quarters of men in the United States believe a child sometimes needs a "good hard spanking."” Some may argue that spanking helps the child realize that their behavior is wrong and needs to be fixed, when parents discipline physically it might be a quick fix to stop the behavior, but as time goes on it does not only harm them physically but mentally and socially. While I agree that when a child’s behavior is wrong, we need to help them fix it, but I disagree that it should be done by physical punishment. Studies show that when kids are spanked or physically punished they tend to act out in the same way and choose to be aggressive like their parents. “A
Punishments and violence in child education remain as something that never left humanity since the beginning of the age. Parents ordinarily conducts punishments, even incorporating violence on it for the right cause. Moreover, in a majority of cultures and history, the common belief incites that punishments must act as the absolute way of disciplining and raising a child right. But in recent times, researchers and scholars who have conducted the study and are claiming that violence and punishment for the children, even the mild ones, are never to be done since it affects the children negatively. Using various elements of nonfictions, ethos, pathos, and logos, in the article “No Spanking, No Time-Out, No Problems” author Khazan attempts to persuade
Ulterior Motives : an analysis of Olga Khazan’s “No Spanking, No Time-out, No Problem” Any parent can relate to having at least a few, if not a plethora of, instances they can recall their children exhibiting some form of problematic behavior. If there is a perfect parent out there who, on a long shot, has not experienced disobedient behavior from their children then feel free to object or perhaps approve of Khazan’s article suggesting that positive reinforcement promotes the ability to be more successful in achieving desired behavior in children rather than punishment. Most parents might feel as if they have tried everything to alleviate problematic behavior from their children’s lives, Khazan explores capitalizing on certain parents willingness
In the article “No Spanking, No Time-out, No Problems”, Olga Khazan uses many rhetorical strategies to support and persuade her audience. That traditional punishment methods of parents will not change a child’s/children’s unruly behavior overall, but positive reinforcement will increase the chances of better behavior not only now, but in the future as well. “Positive reinforcement is the presentation of a pleasurable consequence following a behavior” (Craighead). This twist to traditional discipline teaches children to work towards a resolution instead of teaching them to lean toward violence. “For example, the way that parents discipline their children is how children discipline their peers” (Khazan).
I think that, in order to raise a well-disciplined child, I will have to use physical discipline. People who say spanking obviously don't know how to deal with children. I do not believe that to raise a well-discipline child you need to use physical discipline. I thing that one of the most basic ways we can raise your children is simply by being a good role model for them.
The issue Khazan discusses in “No Spanking, No Time-Out, No Problems”, parents need to change their own behavior, before wanting to change their child’s behavior. Khazan confronts the issue of punishment along with behavior using a persuasive writing style to share her thoughts on punishment: “Punishment might make you feel better, but it won’t change the kid’s behavior” (Khazan 25). Khazan presents a child psychologist, Alan Kazdin’s to speak on parenting interventions. Along with parenting intervention, Khazan utilizes her interview with Kazdin, presenting a more of an understanding towards the issue of punishment. Utilizing Kazdin’s parenting interventions, he uses examples to prove that; punishment should not be used to fix negative behavior.
If families do not have some form of discipline inside of their household things would begin to get out of control and become chaotic. So some parents choose to use spankings as a form of discipline. I think that spanking is necessary in raising children. In my household spanking was enforced for my siblings and I when we were younger, it was to teach us what’s right from wrong. Spanking is a disciplinary action where children can learn from it.
The issue Khazan discusses in “No Spanking, No Time-Out, No Problems”, parents need to change their own behavior, before wanting to change their child’s behavior. Khazan confronts the issue of punishment along with behavior using a persuasive writing style to share her thoughts on punishment: “Punishment might make you feel better, but it won’t change the kid’s behavior” (Khazan 25). Khazan presents a child psychologist, Alan Kazdin’s to speak on parenting interventions. Along with parenting intervention, Khazan utilizes her interview with Kazdin, presenting a more of an understanding towards the issue of punishment. Utilizing Kazdin’s parenting interventions, he uses examples to prove that; punishment should not be used to fix negative behavior.
Do you think beating children is the way to solve behavioral problems? Would you let a stranger do it? Physical punishment isn’t the right way to solve a child’s behavioral issues. In Olga Khazan’s essay “No Spanking, No Time Out, No Problem” Olga Khazan uses emotion to persuade the parents into manipulating their child’s mind into being positive instead of their usual behavior that consists of negative thoughts.
This study was conducted on April 25, 2016 by experts at The University of Texas at Austin and the University of Michigan. Elizabeth Gershoff and co-author Andrew Grogan-Kaylor. Their study focuses on what most Americans would see as spanking and not a potentially abusive behavior. During their study they found that spanking your children can cause them to defy their parents more frequently and can also cause a lifelong mental health issue. It showed as the frequency of spanking increases, the likelihood of anti-social behavior, mental health issues, and aggression also increases.
Would you say that spanking is appropriate? Many people say yes, because it has been used as a means of punishment for so long; however, more and more people are beginning to realize that corporal punishment may lead to even more problems in the future. Many factors can contribute to your opinion on spanking, such as your ethnic group and religion. For example, African Americans and people who translate the bible literally are more likely to use spanking as a means of punishment (206). There are many good arguments for both sides; however, it is clear that spanking is not necessary and can be avoided completely More people in the United States are beginning to realize how ineffective and dangerous spanking is.
Spanking can be effective when a child is not listening to a parent. If a child isn’t following proper rules and disregarding their parents’ statement, then a spanking can enforce a form of respect that the child has to follow (Jasmine, 2015). It can be an awakening to reality as the child could now think of how their actions are deviant. Parents that don’t resolve to spanking as the first and only method of discipline is essential for both the parents and the child. I believe a parent should always try to enforce rules by talking and showing examples of how deviant actions are frowned upon.
Many people think that the reason for this is easily described as “if you hold the reins too tight, the horse will buck.” Over punishing a child can be a bad thing, it will make the child want to retaliate more so than if one were to cut a little slack. However, under punishing a child can be bad as well, not teaching a child right from wrong can majorly increase the odds of the child doing the wrong thing. Reasons that parents give for spanking their children are to make children listen better, and to encourage better behavior, especially to put a stop to children's aggressive behaviors. Research shows, however, that spanking, or indeed any form of physical punishment, tends to have the opposite effect.
I. Introduction A. P. J. O 'Rourke once said “Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them” (O’Rourke, Pg.10). Parents always want their children to be better than what they used to be when they were at their age; that is why they care about every detail in their children’s life especially when it comes to behavior, obeying them and listening to their words. B. Background Information: i. People came to realize that physical punishment is a rough, atrocious, unacceptable mean of punishment that should be banned for its appalling, horrifying effects. ii. Facts about physical punishment (sources used) 1.
As mentioned previously, a significant number of parents emphasize the use of punishment to ensure total obedience and submission of the child. Most overprotective parents discipline their child through physical punishment and only a few acknowledge the use of explaining and reasoning with the child. The following is a statement of a father and his experience and opinion in punishments: After punishment [such as spanking], we believe we should always end up reconciled, with a hug and a kiss, and the situation is over. No matter what the situation is or what the punishment is, we always love them afterward. As a matter of fact we show more love toward them after we have punished them.
Growing up my parents ran a daycare in(at) our house so I was always surrounded by children (the good and the bad). My parents were the type who had no problem enforcing physical punishments such as spanking, the flick of the hand, a pop on the mouth, etc. All these punishments are within the definition of acceptable punishment as stated by Oklahoma law (qtd. ---). They practiced this on me, my siblings, and the daycare kids (with parental consent).