A year ago, he had eyes only for her, and his heart was devoted to making her world a dream come true. Today the title read “Man stabbed his girlfriend 75 times after she broke up with him”. What caused twenty-six-year-old Stimpson to commit such monstrous act which fatally ended his girlfriend’s life? The truth is that it could have been prevented, the signs were all there. Relationships are built upon bonds that produce a more adventurous life and worth living. We establish numerous connections and relationships on the daily with people we encounter. The connection is built according to how comfortable and trusting the environment feels. Romantic relationships are not only desired, but a necessity for survival to meet physical, mental and …show more content…
Deception also known as lying is causing someone to believe something that is not true. Lying doesn’t always inaugurate a sinister side in a relationship, the reality is all human beings lie for different reasons. Often to protect others or to conceal information about themselves. It is common for people to lie about their personalities, employment status, prior relationships and more when they’re in a new relationship. To an extent, this is acceptable but as the relationship develops the truth always comes out and could potentially jeopardize everything. Despite the fact that lying is at times convenient it is also unethical. When someone has to go to the degree constantly hiding and holding secrets against their partner the relationship is bound to fall apart. It starts small with what they would consider “white lies” and ranges to bigger and bolder lies. An example of a white lie is a girlfriend telling her boyfriend she likes his new haircut when in fact she hates it. This lie would be considered harmless but in fact, opens the door to dishonesty which only gets bigger as time passes. Meaning once a lie is told it becomes easier to keeping lying to cover up the fabrication. Deception then leads to loss of trust and destruction in a relationship. Therefore, reading between small lies and looking out for signs of secrecy is vital to tell where a relationship is
Dictionary. Com defines lying, as a false statement made with a deliberate intent to deceive; and intentional untruth; a falsehood. I believe lying is only acceptable to protect and care for others. Certain lies are okay, if they are used correctly.
Throughout life, we sometimes don't take the time to think about what comes out of our mouth. We feel the need to tell a falsehood to make ourselves look better or feel better. After all, we don't want to accept the harsh truth of reality that is lives are not perfect. Sometimes we even forget why we're even lying at all. However, we are not alone as human begins it's in our nature to lie.
Stephanie Ericsson justifies the habits of lying in “The Ways We Lie” using firsthand experiences and solid metaphors. Essentially, Take into consideration before you lie, because it could be at someone else's
Deception can be used as a noble shield to protect someone from a hideous truth that can be to their undoing, or it can be a means of intentionally destroying someone; destroying their happiness, their trust, and their peace with the vile vice that is deception. How can the motive for the deception be determined? A straightforward answer is rarely available, and it must be something that the reader decides for him or herself. By examining specific evidence, a conclusion can be drawn about one’s character. Jane Eyre is the subject here.
Stephanie Ericsson begins her explorative essay, “The Ways We Lie,” with a personal anecdote of all the lies she fabricated in one day. She told her bank that a deposit was in the mail when it was not, told a client that the traffic had been bad when she was late for other reasons, told her partner that her day was fine when it was really exhausting, and told her friend she was too busy for lunch when she just was not hungry, all in the course of a day. She shifts from talking about herself to talking about everyone, claiming that all people lie, exaggerate, minimize, keep secrets, and tell other lies. But, like herself, most still consider themselves honest people. She describes a week in which she tried to never tell a lie; it was debilitating, she claims.
If humans carelessly continue to find love with people that they barely know, it could actually end up in a terrible relationship. Kristen Roupenian, author of the short story “Cat Person” shows this statement to prove itself true using various literary elements. The story she published in the New Yorker, shows the relationship that exists between a twenty-year-old woman named Margot and a thirty-four-years-old man known as Robert. A relationship always needs to contain a lot of trust and some communication between each other. She proves it by showing the character’s thoughts, by telling the story using the third person limited ()and also by making it appealing to our senses.
Sex, Lies and Conversation There are many differences between a man and woman, communication is just one difference. Deborah Tannen, a University of California graduate, got her PhD in linguistics at Georgetown University; there she studied the communication between men and women. Tannen has published over one hundred articles and wrote over twenty books, including You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation (1990), which spent almost four years on the New York Times best seller list and was translated into twenty-nine languages. The article Sex, Lies and Conversation appeared in the Washington Post in 1990 and gives insight to how opposite sexes communicate with each other. From an early age we are programed to play and be friends with the same gender as our own.
Deception is a powerful tool in seeking a certain motive; therefore,
Also, it can make a person win over another person. One reason, is lying can lead people in the wrong direction because it can make another person confused what to do. Someone is telling a friend directions to the park, but the person is just going back to your home to relax, while his friend is tries to figure where he is. He makes an excuse by telling him you are busy. Then, his friend gets betrayed so the friendship is ruined by him.
Deception comes in many forms and can be seen in all kind of ways but mainly when someone purposely causes someone to believe something that isn 't true to gain a personal advantage. Many authors use this tactic in their plays books and other literary work like in the play Hamlet by William Shakespeare, the author uses the technique of deception to mislead Claudius, Gertrude, himself, Ophelia and his friends Rosencrantz and Guildenstern to spare their feelings and to carry out a crime. Hamlet uses deception throughout the novel, but one way is to distract everyone from his true intention which is to gather information against Claudius to prove he killed his father. Shakespeare contributes all this back into his work by making each character in the play enact on some form of deceit to uncover the obscure truth.
Telling the truth is considered a desirable trait in the twenty first century, while in older times, telling a lie was unimaginable. The reason for trust issues today is caused by the excessive lying committed. Lying is the catalyst to horrible occurrences, even though society acts as if lying is
Some lie so much that they even start to believe it. It is understandable that lying to someone can spare someone’s feelings but telling the truth does help as well. On the other hand, the truth can do more damage than a lie can. People pick and choose if they should bite the truth because it is all about causing as less pain as possible. Some things are just better left
In “The Way We Lie”, author Stephanie Ericsson gives her readers a list of ten lie we sometime use it for a purpose and sometime we did not realize we did it. She starts out her story with four lie she used in the same morning as she is starting out her day. She explains these lie are intentionally use to minimize the complications and make the day goes much smoother. However, she questions whether these lie can actually make an impact on the person who carry out and the person who receive the lie.
On the one hand, I think lying is not always the answer; I personally avoid telling a lie because if you are going to lie you have to be carefully thinking about the consequences that those bring. I know that big lies can be a problem. For example, hiding your relationship with someone saying that you are single when you are not. That would bring so many consequences for yourself and for others too. That is why it is better to not tell big lies because that would affect you and other people negatively.
14. Pamela Meyer: “How to spot a liar” Pamela Meyer is an American author, certified fraud examiner, and entrepreneur. Described by Reader's Digest as "the nation's best known expert on lying," Meyer is the author of the 2010 book Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception.