Single Parents Research Paper

FAMILY WITH UNATTACHED YOUNG ADULTS:

At this stage you have almost young men and women who can now move away from home, seeking their own places to stay in and now have the freedom to probably do some of those things they were not allowed to do when they were still in their parent’s house-hold, Matthew 19:16-24. This is their greatest opportunity to make either drastic positive choices or on the extreme continuum drastic negative choices, Psalm 25:7. They are now free like a bird which was caged for years and now loose to fly off. Some will be continuously informed by the wisdom of their parents whilst others will abscond and neglect everything they were taught from childhood saying, ‘dzavira mutswanda’- nobody is seeing or hearing what

It becomes even a greater responsibility to single parent if for some reasons known to the couple they end up separating or divorcing. The fact remains the same that the children need not be caught up in this cross fire or vicious cycle, but co-parenting should be enhanced. God is not pleased with separation and divorce, but if it happens the children’s needs should be given top priority. As a couple you need to make drastic positive choices on how to raise your children at those tender age/ages in a God fearing manner. There are things you need to learn to part away with for the proper parental guidance of your children even though they used to be of interest to you. One single parent alluded to the fact that she would never bring a boyfriend home in respect to her children no matter what as she didn’t want her children to be exposed to child sexual abuse probably from the same man dating her. Her other reason was the fact that she deliberately withheld her pleasure for the sake of her children, so that she would be able to correct, rebuke and instruct without them pointing fingers at her to say, ‘clean-up or seep your mess first before telling us what to do. Even young children observe processes and are very inquisitive about people who come into their house-holds. In a way this particular woman made a drastic positive choice of creating positive boundaries to enhance effective parenting skills. Parenting calls for commitment as whatever you used to do before the children’s arrival will be now minimal as you would need to divide the attention equally to your spouse and the children. I have seen many parents place more emphasis on their children’s stimulation through educational toys, going to the best