First two chapters were dedicated to explanation of some sufficient terms, theories and phenomena such as gender and gender identity, impact of gender on language, positive and negative politeness and many theories about expressing it. Aim of third and last chapter is to make a research in order to verify authenticity of aforementioned theories. As a tool to achieve that goal a questionnaire has been used. Its results will be presented and discussed in next parts of this section.
2. Theoretical hypotheses
Hypothesis 1: While somebody is talking about problems, women use language to express empathy, while men prefer to give a piece of advice. (G. Rodman and R. Adler, 2003)
This hypothesis is based on assumptions made by George Rodman and Ronald
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Group of tested people was relatively small. Besides answers in open questions vary what can be seen especially in small-scale studies. These three questions were problematic also for respondents, who claim that they encounter obstacles in looking for five adjectives describing men and women.
However, even with all aforementioned disadvantages, this method gives very accurate reflection of ways that men and women, consciously or not, choose in every day communication.
In examined group of 40 were 20 men and 20 women, all of them are Polish over 20 years of age. All of respondents are basic, secondary or higher education graduates. The questionnaire was send via Internet. Thanks to that respondents felt more anonymously and confident while giving answers. It is also the fastest way to collect results. The questionnaire made possible to use statistic to analyze collected data.
4. Results
The aim of three open questions was to see if men and women think stereotypically about both gender, and if they fit to their own stereotypical picture of their
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The aim of only few options is to find out which of behaviors described in them is more accurate for women and men.
First of ten closed question was: When somebody is telling you about his or her problem, more important is: showing empathy or giving a piece of advice?
55% of respondents said that giving a piece of advice has more values than manifesting compassion.
But what is more important for this research, more than 77% of respondents choosing this answer are men. The 83% of people who marked that showing empathy is more important were women.
According to George Rodman and Ronald B. Adler (2003) men are more eager to find solution of a certain problem and answers given in this question seem to prove that, ipso facto their prove authenticity of the first one of two aforementioned hypotheses.
Second closed question was: when you are telling somebody about your problem, you want him or her to: give you a piece of advice or to show you empathy. Same as in previous question, more than a half (57.5%) of respondents prefers receiving some advice, and 42.5% would rather get some
Of all the 70 scientific studies Tannen could have chosen to talk about, the number of which she releases later in her paper, her choice of these two serves to demonstrate how biased and varied in results the scientific studies on this topic have been in the past. This helps Tannen justify the need for her article on the subject as it gives reason to why the issue on which gender speaks more still has not yet been resolved. Later in her essay, Tannen uses the results of a survey done by Campbell Leaper and Melanie Ayres on the results of 70 studies published in scientific journals several times. Her first use of their results follows her statements on the studies talked about earlier in this paper, noting that they “found that counting words yielded no consistent differences”. She then goes on to say, “Campbell and Ayres note that many studies find women doing more ‘affiliative
Empathy towards others grows relationships, as Reuven
Comprehension: Q4: What characteristics of women's speech do men find frustrating? In the article, "Sex, Lies and Conversation" , by Deborah Tannen , Deborah discuss how men and women have an cross culture disagreement in communication. She explains the systematic difference in ways girls and boys communicate with each other during our upbringing and how those skills may have an negative impact on marriages today. Women's conversational habits such as "stream of noise ( "mhm, uhun and yeah"), finishing each other's sentences and offering to share an similar experience for comfort, is often found frustrating to men when communicating to their spouse.
If I were taking advice from someone, I would listen to the person with the most experience and knowledge on the subject. In Arthur MIller's "The Crucible" Rebecca Nurse seems the most fit to hold that role. Since she is a peacemaker, wise and valued she is very important in the community. Rebecca is wise to child care.
The author’s point of view is to prove that young women are using linguistic features to build a relationship. In the text, the author uses an informative tone. He describes the text in a related language that grabs the attention of teens, specifically young women. The text made the young women groups feel more differently than the male gender
To begin with, the sense of empathy for the man is formed by including his point-of-view and a description of his character. One of the first examples of these techniques is when
When you are being empathic, you are focusing on the other person from their own perspective, not your perspective. This enables you to be more compassionate. Empathy helps you focus on the ways you are similar to others instead of fixating on differences. This makes it easier to form more positive judgments and let go of the negative ones” (Bradly). Learning to feel empathy will help others form different connections with others, it also can provide more opportunity to obtain an open
ELA 10 Allein Bautista I am writing this essay about a book called “To Kill A Mockingbird”. In this essay, I am going to describe the times when Atticus, Jem, or Scout, walked in someone else 's shoes. Standing in someone else’s shoes is one of the things Atticus, said to Scout, meaning you never really understand a person until you consider things from his or her point of view and until you climb into its skin and walk around in it. Furthermore what role the advice plays in sympathy and compassion and how it would change their view of the situation or someone.
Sex, Lies and Conversation There are many differences between a man and woman, communication is just one difference. Deborah Tannen, a University of California graduate, got her PhD in linguistics at Georgetown University; there she studied the communication between men and women. Tannen has published over one hundred articles and wrote over twenty books, including You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation (1990), which spent almost four years on the New York Times best seller list and was translated into twenty-nine languages. The article Sex, Lies and Conversation appeared in the Washington Post in 1990 and gives insight to how opposite sexes communicate with each other. From an early age we are programed to play and be friends with the same gender as our own.
Communication can be either verbal or nonverbal. Nonverbal communication is more immediate, but more ambiguous than verbal communication. Men and women differ significantly in their propensity to use nonverbal communication, their skill in interpreting it and their means of signaling their meaning. Accordingly, understanding gender differences in nonverbal communication is important when dealing with the opposite sex. One of the reasons that men and women differ in their use of nonverbal communication is that their reasons for communicating are often different, according to John Gray, author of the best-seller "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
Males typically communicate using “report talk” while females communicate using “rapport talk.” Report talk is any conversation held in a public setting that is usually performed through the display of knowledge, humor, and denigration. This form of talk has a narrow classification for what is considered to be “valid talk” and is principally used for conveying information. In contrast, rapport talk has a broader definition of what is considered valid talk and is primarily used for establishing and maintaining connections in a more private setting. As a male, I lean mostly use report talk in my everyday conversations.
Morghan Renfrow Instructor C. Shackelford English 1113, Section 101 1 September 2016 Analysts of “How Male and Female Students Use Language Differently” An essay written by Deborah Tannen called “How male and females students use language differently”, is describing how they talk and interact with others. The writer presents different studies on how language changes based on a certain person. The essay states that men are more aggressive and talkative, while women are calm and modest about talking about the views they share.
The fact that gender-differentiated socialization exists in society cannot be disputed. Equally, to find that differences do emerge with regard to speaking styles between men and women is not surprising. However, by failing to associate gender arrangements to the power arrangements that they promote and enforce is naïve in an intellectual way. Considering the highly integrated lives of the American men and women, to assign full-fledged cultural status to patterns that emerge out of socialization is of doubtful validity. Besides, Tannen moves from the initial premise that boys and girls grow up in two distinct cultures, which is a disputed fact, to the questionable claim that problems with communication between adult males and females are equivalent to other types of cross-cultural miscommunication.
The Genderlect Theory: Explaining Communication Between Men and Women Communication is an essential part of everyday life. People encounter some form of communication with others on a daily basis, whether it is face-to-face, electronically, etc. However, communication is not universal in that everyone interacts with each other through these several methods. Thus, numerous studies about communication from different viewpoints have been conducted.
In the essay, “Women Talk Too Much” Janet Holmes argues that while popular notion and worldwide proverbs would suggest that women talk more than men, her evidence leads to an opposite conclusion. However, her ultimate conclusion is that the question cannot be answered with a definitive answer, but instead with “it depends.” In the essay, “Sex Differences” Ronald Macaulay claims that the notion that there are considerable differences in the manner and frequency with which men and women talk is nonsense and that one way that this idea has been perpetuated is through works from more sexist ages. Macaulay states that the difference between men’ and women’s speech patterns is so minuscule that it should not be considered worthy enough evidence