Extend your positive thinking form negative thinking
“We don’t have to control our thoughts; we just have to stop letting them control us”
- Dan Millman
Stress is directed result of thoughts and attitudes. When stressed or worried, a person’s thoughts tend to dwell on negativity. A person’s negative thoughts are nearly always exaggerated and distorted. While light travel at the rate of 1, 86,000 miles seconds, thoughts travel virtually instantaneously.
Automatic Negative Thoughts It is so easy and there are so many ways to be wrong, but it is so hard and there are so few ways to be right. Which came first: the chicken or the egg? Which came first: the stress or negative thoughts? Stress is the result of negative thoughts.
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• 40% of the time we worry about things that never happen – anxiety is the result of a tired mind.
• 30% concern old decisions that cannot be changed.
• 12% relate to untrue criticism made by people who feel inferior.
• 10% is related to health that worsens while we worry.
• O8% is legitimate, showing that life does have real problems that may be met head on when we have eliminated senseless worries.
• Directors worry about quality of professional advice and integrity of professional.
An expert was giving an address in meeting on stress management. He raises a glass of water and asks the audience. “How heavy do think this glass of water is?” he told the answer as “it depends on how long you hold it”.
“IF we hold it for a minute, it has no problem and it is acceptable.
If we hold it for an hour we will get ache in our right arm.
If we hold it for a day even we could be admitted in the hospital”
But the weight of the glass water is same. It becomes heavier how long we hold
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If we feel extremely controlled, we see ourselves as happiness, as victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control is that it holds us responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around us. On the other hand, feeling externally controlled keeps us stuck. We don’t believe that we cn really affect the basic shape of our life. The truth of the matter is that we are constantly making decisions, and that every decision affects our lives. The fallacy of internal control leaves us exhausted as we attempt to fill the needs of everyone around us, and feel responsible in doing so(and guilty when we cannot)
12. Erroneous belief of Fairness
We feel resentful because we think we know what fair.Fairness is so conveniently defined, so temptingly self-serving, that we get locked into our own point of view. It is tempting to make assumptions about things would change if only people were fair or really valued us. But the other person hardly ever sees it that way, and we end up causing ourselves a lot of pain and ever-growing resentment.
13. Intention and
For instance, children possessing caring, supervising and disciplinary parents are more likely to develop self-control, whereas children possessing abusive and neglectful parents are less likely to develop self-control and tend to become like their parents (O’Grady 2014, 118). Thus, this theory argues that the foundation of self-control lies on
Many great thinkers make the argument that people have free will or the power to control their own fate. However, in reality, there are numerous larger, societal structures that control every humans’ choices. It becomes a cycle: structures enable or constrain individual agency, and then those persons reinforce the structures with those influenced choices. Therefore, those micro-level decisions seem innate or natural because they act within the macro structure, and those benefitting from these systems will rarely question it. Still, scholars and some media sources try to expose these constricting systems.
For example, we are not able to control our genetics but we are able to control our health on a daily basis. In regrades to reputation, it is our own responsibility to present ourselves in the best way possible. But what other people think about us is out of our hands. People are external factors, everyone comes from different backgrounds and views in life. How I am living
In order to function as an independent human being, individuals need to hold on to their internal selves. External environment influences individuals’ thoughts and behaviors. For example, Gladwell argues “ [i]f a window is broken and left unrepaired, people walking by will conclude that no one cares and no one is in charge. Soon more windows will be broken, and sense of anarchy will spread from the building to the street” (152). If “no one cares” that a window has been broken and no one faces any consequences, people start to assume they are allowed to continue and repeat the action.
Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck displays what happens when vulnerability controls us. So you are on that roller coaster. It jolts and you start cranking up that first hill. Crank rack-Crank. There is a feeling inside you.
Allowing limitations to guide and control one’s life are direct paths to having regrets for not doing what is truly wanted or
Some may argue and say that situations and environments can control the individual. On one hand, this is true; however, most individuals can control themselves in the environment in most cases. This evidence supports my counterargument because an individual can control his or herself when it comes to different changes in the situation or environment. This evidence refutes the argument because an individual is in control of the situations and
It is our responsibility to control how our inner state of mind thinks. No one else can control our internal world but you. That is the beauty of freewill. People tend to make external objects and situations as the most vulnerable things in life, but when the external world does not meet up to what we expected and had in mind they tend to get disappointed and grief. Epictetus said that what others do to us it is considered external, and we only have control over our response and how we let it affect
According to Wallace, after a long and tedious day, we become stressed and let our emotions get the best of us. We are wired to think we are the center of the universe. Because of this way of thinking, we blame others for our frustration and stress. In other words, our brain unconsciously switches to our “natural default setting” (Wallace, 199). In order to be able to overcome this way of thinking, it is important to be able to have the “choice of what to think about” (Wallace 199).
This theory illustrates that we have some sense of ownership or power over what takes place in our surroundings. Four essential concepts when discussing control theory such as; Privacy, Personal Space, Territoriality, and Crowding. The mentioned concepts demonstrate that individuals experience different emotions and sense of power
What difference might it make to you to alter negative thoughts? What percentage of your thoughts are largely unproductive or holding you back in some way? What feelings and bodily sensations do these thoughts evoke in you?
In a time when society demands more than you can deliver, anxiety is a common problem plaguing the human race. Human beings constantly worry about ev-er-ry-thing! We worry about the minutest details. We even tend to worry about why it’s so quite in the house when everybody is out! And why wouldn’t we?
This survival brain (called the lizard brain by some psychologists) controls us far more than we think. And if we don’t keep it in check, we always do things that sabotage our own plans with a relationship, or even work, family, our bodies and our health. A good and quick example of how this lizard brain takes hold of us more than we think is people who are trying to lose weight. They might do a little bit of exercise or go on some crazy diet, but then somehow justify to themselves – “ok just one more doughnut”.
When I think positively, I can achieve greater things, however, having a negative mind-set would handicap me in many ways, obstructing me from achieving my goals. By internalizing this presupposition, I have learnt to always think positively and believe that I can accomplish my goals in
An example this article uses is the amount of time by which a plane is missed. One expects to feel more regret when they miss a plane by a minute than when they miss it by 10 minutes. This is because self blame is expected to come into play. If they miss the plane by a narrow margin they feel like they could have done something better to have made it to the plane on time. If they miss the plane by a wide margin, they assume that it was the cause of something or someone else.