Stop comparing yourself with others, feeling less than or more than, stop judging yourself. Recognise that if you don’t love and respect yourself it will be hard for you to think that others could love you either (even if they really do.) The low quality and unhelpful self-beliefs that jealous people foster start a chain reaction that begins to devalue themselves. It makes them compare themselves with others and they come off worse thus further fuelling their fears and doubts about being loveable. There comes a time where you may say enough is enough and look to get some form of therapy or coaching for your low self-esteem and so you can begin to trust yourself (and others) again.
It is always best if you really get to know somebody before you judge them. Things that you might see someone do, might be completely be different than what they actually do on a daily basis. Just like Mr. Oakhurst, that one person that you might be judging, probably has a friendly and caring side that you just won’t give them a chance to show. Ambiguity is in everyone, and people seem to judge on the bad interpretation than the actually bigger and better side that people really have. This story should teach all that reads it a lesson to not take first interpretations serious, and stick around to see the good side that is really
In my opinion, if I want to judge someone i should try and put myself in their shoes. There are two main reasons why I do that, one It gives me perspective, and two it really lets me know if I should be judging that person. Now I know that no one can really control how they judge people, but we can give them a chance to prove themselves, wither in a good way or a bad way. Going along with what i just said, sometimes people don’t deserve to be judged in a harsh way like we do. You never know you might be judging a homosexual who could become a president, or an important member of the upper class society.
But then when they start asking people if they can join their group there's always this talk between the rest of this group “ why does he/she have to be in our group he/she are so dumb they fail on everything” (which I myself don’t say). Then as soon as that discussion is done they say no to the person who is asking them to apart of their group. Which by the way they don’t actually realise how bad they are making the person feel. But what they don't think about is that once they were also dumb and didn’t know anything and used to ask for help from others. So why should they have the right to tell someone how “smart” you are
People are always too quick to judge based on first impressions and fail to give others a chance to show their true selves. This can create an atmosphere in which can tear communities apart and destroy relationships. Judging due to preconceived notions results only in destruction and chaos, and fails to lead to anything positive. In modern society, it is so easy to judge and be judged due to what is seen initially, but ultimately, “You never truly understand a person until you walk a mile in their shoes”
They win when you respond the way they expect you to. Change the rules of the game, girl and they might not like it so much " (194 ). This is a way that we can do alone when we are confronting racism , and there's no one reaching out to help, as a person that is trying to survive just saying " thank you " for what that person did, they would feel like you're an award person or think that what they did benefit you which they doesn't want to. So they would and leave and move on. Also to overcome racism have the mindset that alone, you can get through this and do this might be a struggle now but its help others.
If there is a fall, learn to get back up again and try even harder. Unfortunately, one obstacle most people let stand in their way is when others put negativity in their heads. Negativity makes people second guess themselves. Sometimes those people are acting out of jealousy. Use their jealousy to make you stronger.
That’s because they’ve been influenced to not care, most likely by friends. As much as they can not care about a topic, they can also bring attention to it in a rather different way. Jokes are usually made about topics that shouldn’t be jokes about. Even if it is wrong, no one tries to stop it. No student would want to stand up and give a speech about why that is wrong to say.That’s because no one would want to be seen as a social threat.
“Do not judge my story by the chapter that you walked in on.” Most people judge each other without knowing each other first and that is not always the solution on judging someone. When you first meet someone, you should be open minded about them and not just assume the worst in them because you got a bad first impression of them. In my opinion, the message behind the novel When You Reach Me written by Rebecca Stead, is Don’t judge someone by how they appear or seem to be. Most characters in the story, sees someone as a totally different person than they actually are but once they get to know each other and their background, they totally change the perspective on that person. The first time Miranda met Julia was in art class in second grade.