David Foster Wallace argues that reality can be mundane. However, if people focus on what others are going through, then they can learn to empathize and understand humanity better. A behavior is a snap shot of how that person is acting in that moment. There are lots of moments where behaviors may not accurately describe someone. If people are constantly operating unconsciously and only ever taking what they see face value then they are not relating or understanding others; even more what they are thinking about other’s is stereotypical and possibly hurtful.
Perception Checking Well today most commonly people have a good communication with others. However some are not because they don 't give themselves changes to communication with people. Perception Checking is a great tool that everyone use to help you understand what they are trying to say before jumping into the conclusions. We need to be friendly and outgoing to others so their feeling won 't left out. Here are some examples that explain more to us about Perception Checking: The first example that explain this would be when you like something but you don’t really mean it.
The reason that you think it is weird is because people tell you, isn’t it? Even though some of them don’t even have a reason not to do. Why do you have to listen to those people? Why you can’t be unique and be yourself? And there are some people that want to tell you that you don’t always have to follow the rules that people created by themselves, too.
This myth that your guaranteed or entitled to success when that’s really not the case. You have to be willing to put in time in order to flourish. Another Similarity that both articles stress, is how important it is to take initiative. "Lay it out and then make a decision." (Check your gut) this is a great point because often time’s people have great ideas and great instinct but because of self-doubt, laziness or fear we don’t take action.
I believe that power is something people will obey because they know if they don’t do it that something bad will happen. Power will make people act differently to others and people can see that. When you act different people can tell that something is going on. I wouldn’t want people know that I got a raise if they have been there longer than me. That is just disrespectful and I wouldn’t want to do that.
It is a good way to remember that not everyone will believe that what you think is right, is right. I believe you should take a look for the different perspectives in every situation. Especially if you do not like a decision someone else made, because you never know what decisions made up someone 's mind. Next time you should take a look at both perspectives before you come up with your decision the outcome may surprise you and remember you might be the protagonist of your story but you are not the protagonist of everyone else
People are afraid to stray from what they have been conditioned to think by society. They believe that they aren’t doing anything wrong, because the patriarchy rewards them for acting a certain way. The problem is that just because something is the norm, doesn’t mean that it’s the only right answer or solution. This paper highlights that in specific ways. Humans feel the need to categorize everything, but gender isn’t something that is black and white.
Which is better: conforming or nonconforming? Many may say that conforming is better than nonconforming but it really doesn't matter, it is up to you who you want to be in life. Following people or wanting to be like who they are is settling with the opinions of others. Although some say conforming is the better option there are some people that believe otherwise. Likewise, conforming is better because you’ll have people look at you differently rather than someone that conforms, being different changes the world because everyone isn’t the same.
No one will ever be able to go through life without being a phony because being phony has been a human instinct. On the other hand, some people say it is possible to grow up without becoming a phony. Instead of lying to not hurt others feelings and hide something from the other person you can just tell the truth. If someone never did anything phony they would have to be completely honest. Even if it hurts or gives pain to the other person they will have to tell the truth.
(p. 49) Norms also vary by location, yet we hold the expectations very high, so much so that we tend to sanction a person if they are not following the norm. A sanction, Henslin stated, is "either expressions of approval given to people for upholding norms, or expressions of disapproval for violation them." (p.49) Although most will not outwardly give a negative sanction, we tend to have great disapproval for their behavior in our thoughts. People are much more inclined to positively sanction a person, even if it is with