At the end of it all I had dealt with a broken rib, taking care of siblings, and a new school. From that move I learned to accept and adapt to change. I learned that life is going to be messy and different. I changed for the better after the move and I wouldn’t be who I am if I
Moreover, Baby encounters rejection and stigma from authority figures and classmates, further contributing to her low self-esteem. For example, after a school teacher informed Xavier’s parents that, Baby is a troubled child from a broken home- Baby is unwelcome at his house. Lauren was Baby friend; however after witnessing Baby’s home life she humiliated and excluded Baby. Furthermore, they were many instances where the social workers and teachers could have intervened and make a positive difference in Baby’s life. However, they all fail to do so; Baby lamented "they are afraid of my sadness" (O'Neill, 2006, p.128).
Ray Bradbury’s “The Veldt” teaches readers that people are scared of change. In the short story, the parents feel like they have no use as a result of the Happylife Home taking care of the children by itself without the need for their parents. The parents dislike the change of not having to care for their own children, which causes them to feel useless. Although, some disagree and say that the main theme of the story is abandonment. The children were abandoned by their parents and nursery.
I didn’t feel anything different, I just felt angrier. One day as I sat down and talked with one of my aunts, she told me, “Some things happen for a reason.” I told myself that I wasn’t going to allow the absence of my father prevent me from getting father in life. Many always thought that I was just this angry little girl, but they never sat down and asked me why I felt so angry inside. Not having that male role model in a child’s life can lead them down the road to destruction. The strength that I have gained was to take the pain and use it as a lesson in life.
Malcolm and his siblings often received threats of removal from their family if their behavior did not improve, which did nothing but enraged him further to rebel. As times grew harder for Malcolm’s family emotionally, mentally, and most of all financially, the rebellious nature that shaped their home drew the attention of the government. The life insurance money was running out quickly and the foster homes attempted to bring the children into their care, instead of their mothers. Malcolm made it clear that he was not the only child putting stress on his mother considering ‘‘[a]ll of us were mischievous at some time or another, I more so than any of the rest. Philbert and I kept a battle going, and this was just one of a dozen things that kept building up the pressure on my mother” (Malcolm X 21).
As a result of attachment issues foster children tend to feel uneasy in the home they are placed in. According to Dashaun Jackson who was raised in a foster home, “I found that foster care did not build families. It didn’t give me the opportunity to be a child. It forced me to mature a lot faster than my peers. It made me live life thinking that “today is the day that I’ll be leaving,” so don’t get comfortable and definitely don’t get attached to anyone.” The results of being in a foster home has made many other foster children experience similar feelings to being in a foster home.
I saw a lot of people without their house causing them diseases. I changed my thinking that the world wasn’t that great. People were suffering and always fighting to get their house. I saw a lot of their sad face. I thought to myself even these people who weren’t educated still fight for their life.
I struggled to remember that mental illness was not a cookie cutter illness and that additional help was needed to find functionality again. I felt out of control and that was a clear breakdown in the way my family would function as now two parties were not doing their part. I was able to seek the help and accept it readily as it became available. My husband however, had a different reaction. Having lost his brother when he was a teenager he thought and felt the family needed to privately "fix this".
I endured constant bullying from my husband and felt like a failure. I lived with a stigma of being associated as just a failed marriage instead of a person and some people supported me, others didn’t understand. I realized I couldn’t worry about what others thought of me as they aren’t living my life. It took months for me to stop overanalyzing everything someone said to me and to gain self-confidence. The hardest matter was to abolish disgusting images out of my head that I didn’t want to think about, which he put in there.
Throughout the duration of the PADR course, I have learned a great deal about myself. I feel that personal growth and introspective analysis thereof is perhaps the most valuable ability one can learn, and while I was not introduced to these things in this course, I honed these skills every day. For the past 2 years, I have been struggling with the loss of my father. I felt so horrible for my mother that I could not focus on my studies. I felt selfish for feeling sorry for myself, and that made me feel even worse.