The relationship between Hero and Claudio are completely different from the relationship between Beatrice and Benedict. Hero and Claudio’s relationship was based off of love at first site, while Beatrice and Benedict’s relationship started out as friends and developed into a loving relationship. Over time people get into the way for better and for worse. Although Claudio and Hero’s relationship is based off of physical attraction, Beatrice and Benedick’s had developed into a heartfelt and genuine relationship. Some people may think that Beatrice and Benedick’s relationship would be more successful than of Claudio and Hero’s due to their maturity, ability to work things out, and powerful attitude towards each other.
Ironically enough, passionate love may be the most effective way of starting a companionate one. A companionate love is what makes it a stable, lasting relationship and trustworthy. As Baumeister and Bushman (2017) explain, “companionate love (sometimes called affectionate love) is a less strongly emotional; it tends to be calmer and more serene” (p. 406). On the contrary, passionate love is a vividly more emotional form of love. “Passionate love (also called romantic love) makes people want to spend as much time as =====================3/8====================== FALLING IN AND OUT OF LOVE 3 possible together, to touch each other and engage in other physical intimacies (often including sex), to think about each other and feel joy merely upon seeing each other, and
Because people need others’ love to know the value of them, they are linked together and hardly separate. From the past to present, there are many theories focusing on love and self. The Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love is one of them. According to A duplex theory of love (Sternberg, 2006), love can be interpret in a triangular structure which including intimacy, passion, and commitment which is named the Triangular theory of love. Intimacy is meaning that the bondedness, attachment and how connect and close is the partners within a relationship.
The different themes of “The Gift of the Magi” and “The Necklace” show a few of the many forms of love. While “The Gift of the Magi” talks about romantic love and the mistakes of those blinded by it, the theme of “The Necklace” delves deeper and talks about a person 's own desire. Yet the stories share a general theme about love and and conclude with the protagonists finding happiness despite their mistakes. The first and more traditional story, “The Gift of the Magi,” centers around classic, romantic love. The story revolves around how love results in foolish mistakes.
While all objects may become legitimate objects of love, we must recognise that each object of our love can only provide us with so much happiness and satisfaction. Saint Augustine further argues that love becomes disordered when one expects more from the object of love than what it is capable of giving. Our love becomes disordered when the manner with which we attach ourselves to the object of our love and our expectations from this loving act exceed what the object of our love can actually provide us. He also cautions that disordered love leads to many, if not all, forms of human pathology. This tendency towards disordered love is common for fans, or people whose objects of love are celebrities, public figures, or people who are generally inaccessible to them.
Greene’s display of this theme is the most noticeable out of the three elements displayed, but to Fowler it was less of a concern in comparison to what Pyle had achieved at the end of the story. Fowler and Phuong both have more realistic, even mundane, understandings of love than Pyle. Fowler believes love is “companionship in old age,” as well as “sexual gratification.” These two ideas were mostly foreign to Pyle as he had little sex experience as well as being absent towards long-term dating. Fowler also believes that love is for “financial security” because of material reasons associated with comfort making life more bearable. Pyle’s ideas about love can be called romantic because they impose ideals onto individuals, rather than starting with the individual and their particular circumstance.
The main thing that differentiate infatuation and love is that infatuation is a short-lived passion for someone while love is a strong emotion formed for someone that lasts the test of time. The reason why the two are so commonly confused is because infatuation is a powerful feeling that can make you think you are in love. There are many reasons for why people mistaken being in love with someone when they are really only infatuated. One of them are because people rush into relationships without getting to know the person on a deep level. There is two sides to each human and when first meeting someone, you will usually get the good side first.
Sternberg (1986) suggests that this meaning or feeling can be a socialised idea through modelling and that it is a genetically transmitted instinct that every human being has inherited. He argues that many people may be in a relationship however, it may not constitute as a romantic attachment according to his Triangular Theory of Love (Sternberg, 1986). As mentioned in the previous paragraph, the ideal romantic relationship has elements of passion, intimacy and commitment, which is collectively identified as consummate love (Sternberg, 1986). Passion describes as the push towards sexual intercourse, physical attraction and romance, which are facilitated by one’s motivational and arousal factor (Sternberg, 1986). Intimacy describes as feelings relating to closeness and tight connections towards the significant other, which are associated with feelings of warmth, safety and comfort (Sternberg, 1986).
Perhaps the most discernible demonstration of individualism in the novel is Cathy and Heathcliff’s love; it is ironic to say that love between two people demonstrates individualism since love automatically suggests that one would put another before themselves. The nature of their love is one where Cathy and Heathcliff are one entity; one cannot do without the other. Their love is not based off of the usual sources such as appearance, lust or even fondness; their love is out of a being a shared being as Cathy says "I am Heathcliff––he's always, always in my mind––not as a pleasure, any more than I am always a pleasure to myself-–but as my own being” (Bronte 44). Their relationship is out of necessity for each other since they are the same person, it is not the type of love where if one had the choice to leave and do without the other person they would not make that choice. When Cathy dies, an astounding level of individualism is demonstrated by Heathcliff when he cries “May she wake in torment!...
People engage in relationships due to a need of sense of belonging, security, friendship and many other beneficial factors. When people become romantically attracted to each other, one needs to understand the elements necessary for such an attraction to take place. In this essay the Attachment theory and the cross-cultural theory will be the perspectives in which one will explain romantic attraction. Romantic attraction is to desire the next person physically and emotionally (Pastorino & Doyle-Portillo, 2012). Love involves the integration of cognitions, emotions and behaviours that play an important role in intimate relationships (Coon & Mitterer, 2012).