CHAPTER FIVE ADJUSTMENT IN MARRIAGE Marriage brings together two people from different backgrounds and upbringing to live together permanently till death separates them. This poses certain challenges for both the couple and their parents. People are influenced by the way they are brought up and the environment in which they grew up and usually that influence is brought into marriage. Unless couples are willing to make some adjustments, living together becomes a painful experience. Each stage of the marriage relationship from the beginning to the end requires adjustment by couples if they are to continue to enjoy it. ADJUSTMENT REQUIRES LEAVING, CLEAVING AND BECOMING ONE FLESH Marriage is an intimate relationship requiring commitment, thus, from inception it was founded on the principle of leaving, cleaving and becoming one flesh (Genesis 2:24-25). A man must leave father, mother and any other relationship that affects his commitment to the relationship to cleave to his wife for them to become one. Besides people, there are other things coming between couples or hinder their commitment to the relationship like husband and wife living apart on account of work or school. Sometimes, they may work and live together but they are so engrossed in their official work that their relationship suffers. For couples who are unable to live together because of work or school, they must device a means of building intimacy regardless of the distance between them. Their relationship must remain a priority to both of them when they are apart and when they have the opportunity to be together. We have met situations where the couples are living apart and yet when the one that is away comes for weekends, instead of staying with …show more content…
Differences in food and the manner of relating with in-laws especially greetings among others are important. I learnt to squat for my in-laws and my wife learnt to accept
There are two major types of marriages in the world, arranged and love marriages. An arranged marriage is when a partner for one of the individuals is chosen by their family, and no love is usually involved. A love marriage on the other hand is when two individuals choose to marry each other because of the love they share for each other. A successful marriage is when both individuals can love, care, trust, and are happy with each other even through the ups and downs. Even though arranged marriages have their pros such as lower suicide and teen pregnancy rates, love marriages are more successful than arranged marriages because the individuals actually love each other from the start, there is the freedom of choosing their own spouse, and there
In her essay, Hope Edelman specializes the focus on creating emotion, and using first hand experiences from her marriage to capture the attention of the intended audience, making them question the way their own marriage is being executed. This idea of sympathy being the path to go about capturing an audience in some form of communication, is still predominant in society. The writer is attempting to convey to that if possible, try to find similarities between Edelman’s marriage and their own. If successful, the marriage can make the changes Edelman feels are essential to being healthy. Hope Edelman’s perspective on the way marriage is meant to be, challenges traditional values of society; however, after reading this piece the audience may begin to prefer her idea of marriage.
Many of us have heard the shocking statistic that, apparently, half of all marriages end in divorce. This scares many people considering marriage for their life paths, so how can they avoid the trials that may lead to divorce? Although there is no divorce in Julia Alvarez's book, In the Time of the Butterflies, it does get close at times throughout the storyline. There are trials and tribulation in the marriages represented in the book. Patria and her husband have the most successful and happy marriage in the book, mainly because of their spirituality. "
About Dr. John Gottman’s Article “What Makes Marriage Work” 1. Why do you think Gottman wrote an article on marriage? In my opinion, Gottman considers a marriage being the basis, on which our society is built. However, there are not many people understand what is the basis of the marriage.
It is evident that marriage is full of ups and downs, but the way couples manage these fluctuations in their relationship determines the strength of their connection. Both partners in a committed relationship must feel the same way and work equally as hard to push through potential obstacles. Being devoted to the relationship can ensure that the marriage will be able to survive the hardships and maintain a healthy, successful marriage. The emotional hardships and positives that a married couple endures on a daily basis are presented throughout the entirety of the poem, “Marriage”, by Gregory Corso. Corso’s poem explores the pressures and factors that influence marriage and sheds light on Updike’s short story about a couple facing divorce.
The lack of love in the society does not allow people to be happy. Getting married is often considered one of the best and happiest days of a person’s life. This great moment will never happen for the people who live in this society because they are not allowed to love someone. Once Equality and Liberty leave society, they find a house that makes them happiest they have ever been and they say “we shall never leave this house nor let it be taken from us” (91). They plan on living in the house for the rest of their life and starting a family.
The Varied Perspectives of Marriage Introduction What couple do you think of when you hear the word marriage? What does marriage mean to you? What makes a couple ready for marriage? The majority of people’s perception of marriage is influenced by their mother and father’s relationship, as well as by the marriages of the relatives they grew up with. Marriage is the legal bonding of two individuals dedicated to loving each other through sickness and health.
Marriage is how a family starts and grows, but in these two dystopian societies, marriage has been altered by their government. In
Life is full of challenges and learning experiences, everything we go through makes us stronger and better people. In the novel, Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston, Janie fumbles through three complex marriages that provide protection, stability, and love and happiness. After trial and error she realizes that she must think about herself by applying what she has learned from her relationships and cherishing her values. she is involved with three men who were all but perfect. The similarities and differences in Janie’s three spouses Mr. Killicks, Jody, and Tea Cake suggest that relationships present challenges which you can learn to overcome the complexities of marriage ultimately improving the quality of your
American and Afghan Wedding Customs Marriage is a vital part of human life. It is important because it ties a man and a woman not only physically, but also spiritually and emotionally. Marriage is the beginning of a family, and a long commitment in human life. Marriage has been traditionally understood in every human society. Typically, there are many religions, different ideas and thoughts in different part of the world regarding the wedding customs.
Another Side of Marriage An unloved marriage can be one of the most intricate and dreadful parts of an individual’s identity. It influences many aspects of an individual. freedom, independence, individuality as well as emotional growth and moral orientation. A person’s interaction and connection with a unloved marriage is the foundation of their character, of the kind of people they will grow to be, and the values they will uphold in their daily lives.
Marriage helps individuals in staying together at all times despite the difficulties faced in life (Evans, 2014). A home is never one if a family in it is not happy and therefore, the satisfaction of marriage mainly lies in its stability and ability to create
Marriage and love is another theme that is highlighted within the story. Marriage is a new bond with love which builds up between a couple. But in the story, love and marriage are complicated and disparate attitudes on love and marriage are crystallized. Mr. Kapasi finds no comfort in his marriage. The environment also reflects the inner disputes on marriage between the characters.
According to this theory, nature of love is changing fundamentally and it can create either opportunities for democracy or chaos in life (Beck & Beck- Gernsheim, 1995). Love, family and personal freedom are three key elements in this theory. This theory states that the guidelines, rules and traditions which used to rule personal relationships have changed. “Individuals are now confronted with an endless series of choices as part of constructing, adjusting, improving or dissolving the unions they form with others” (Giddens, 2006). For instance, marriage nowadays depends on the willingness of the couples rather than for economic purposes or the urge to form family.
The first key part studies the cultural influences on marriage, starting with our societies plethora of options. The overabundance of everyday choices leads people to constantly assess their decisions and