This perspective is one that seems to be the biggest problem for most people when it comes to the idea of a same-sex couple adopting a child. Even though this may be an important idea to many people, there are multiple studies that have been done that prove that just because there is not both a mother and father present does not mean that the child will necessarily suffer. Lastly there are simply some people who do not really have a valid reason for standing against same-sex adoption, other than the fact that it is something they are just not used to. For these people if they would step out of the box for a second and look at how beneficial it would be for the children in foster care if same-sex couples had a better chance at adopting or even fostering, then maybe they would realize how positive the impact would
The relationship between parents and a child is a very fundamental part of life, yet not every children gets the chance to be able to have a relationship with their parents. Up to this day, there are 107,918 foster children waiting to be adopted, based on the information given by the website Adoption Network. Each of the 107,918 continue to ache to be taken into a loving household. Even if being adopting into a single parent household children are just as likely to receive love and careness. In the website Lifelong Adoptions, Yissell, a single parent, recalls her own experience with adoption.
Someone once said, “Adopting one child won’t change the world, but for that child, the world will change.” Open adoption is an adoption which includes some type of contact and sharing of identifiable information between the adoptive family and the birth parents (American Adoptions, Inc.-What is open Adoption). About 60 to 70% of current adoptions are open adoptions (“Adoption Statistics”). Open adoption is a process that will include both positive and negative effects for the adoptive family, birth parents, and adopted child; adoption is the chosen way of “having” children for many different parents for many different reasons. In open adoption, the relationship between the adoptive family and the biological parents allows for more contact and involvement by the biological parents. Commonly, information such as first and last names, addresses, phone numbers, and personal email addresses are shared.
Everyone has an opinion and different beliefs on almost every topic, in which one of the most controversial topics is adoption. In adoption, people believe that race matters due to their ethical or cultural beliefs; however race does not matter because every child needs a loving home. Additionally, studies of multiracial families show that kids are more aware of their culture, as well as they are more like the community around them, then their ethnic background. There are many adoption agencies, and others with the beliefs that kids need to be with parents of the same ethnicity because it would provide the child with more cultural awareness, as well as it would prevent children from the danger and backlash they might get from others. In
Rules and following them are the most important things to an authoritarian parent. In this style parents raise their child to follow every instruction they give them and to obey every rule imposed. Failure to obey and follow these results in punishments. Authoritarian parents fail to explain the reasoning behind rules and when kids ask questions instead of explaining and actually answering the question they normally respond with “because i say so”, meaning they are not responsive to their children, even though they have high demands for them. Kids raised with this parenting style normally fear their parents and consequently are dishonest with them when they do something wrong.
Adoption has been around for as long as we can remember, but only recently has there been issues about gay couples adopting children. There are many orphans in the world, but not enough families or parents to take them in. There aren’t that many families who can and will adopt children, whether it’s because they can’t support them, they have children of their own, or they just don’t want children. The end result is still an overabundance of orphaned children in need of a loving family. There is a solution to this problem.
They have an idea of the things that work; but this child will be completely different. Therapist Meri Wallace says, "The middle child often feels left out and a sense of, Well, I'm not the oldest. I'm not the youngest. Who am I?"(Parents). This may cause them to seek attention with peers and reject parents.
A last misconception is how people believe that a woman cannot be single if they have children. This is stated because civilization thinks a child need both a mother and a father to grow up well. Yes, maybe a child will have a great life with both parents, but even if the child only has one parent, they can still have an amazing life. A majority of people think that if a child only has a mother they may not grow up equally balanced and may turn into a bad kid. For example, if a male does not have a father to discipline him, he may turn into a kid that fights at school, because he does not have that discipline that he would get from a father.
Inquiries and interviews reveal the shattered family view that open adoption adoptees face every day. Adoptees often “fight feelings of being unloved and unwanted, even though [they are] constantly told how much they [are] loved” (Siegel, “One Adoptee from an ‘Open Adoption’ Tells Her Story”). This often occurs because their biological family relinquished rights to the child and gave them to another family, only to infrequently and erratically surface in the child’s life, confusing their feelings of being loved and wanted. Family structure, according to one young adoptee, is “unstructured and ambiguous. It includes legal ties that lack genetic ties and genetic ties that lack legal ties, both of which have emotional ties” (“What Growing Up In An Open Adoption Has Taught Me As An Adoptee”).
Children are precious beings that parent's are suppose to love and cherish. When new parent's look at their child they point out all of the features on the child. Commenting on where the child got what feature from what parent. Now imagine the child doesn't look anything like the parents at all. The first thing people think of is adoption.