Selfish Love In Mary Shelley's Frankenstein

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Love by its very nature is selfish. I remember having a conversation with my husband not too long ago where we were discussing our goals and what we wanted to do in life. He responded with, “I just wanted to find someone who would love me.” It was there at that point that I thought that love can make us very selfish creatures. Not only selfish, love sometimes has the effect that bring the worst out of people. Maybe this isn’t really anyone’s fault, love is also a wonderful feeling, a force of nature. Back to what my husband said, I thought to myself ‘well here I’m, now what?’ He had no other plans in life than just to find someone who would just love him. Now that may sound sweet to some but in what way did he prepare himself for a partner?…show more content…
To love someone else, one has to have a love affair with the self first, one has to be selfish for a time before one can love another properly. After all, it is unfair to place all of our hopes, dreams, and expectation on a single flawed creature and become enraged when they fail to meet the impossible standards. If this type of love was a mountain than every potential partner would have climb it unprepared and yet anticipate all the hazards ahead in order to reach our satisfaction. Perhaps, we fail in love because we don’t fully understand the complexities of this raging emotion. We take it for granted the gifts that love gives to us, expecting that she will always have more to give. Once again love can make us such selfish creatures. To understand love is to understand it as a chemical reaction, not in a way two clumsy teenagers make a half attempt to awkwardly connect during class but in non-verbal synaptic connections. Through the subconscious passion that inflame the scents, that is translated by the thalamus, and causes us to rush into love like fools. People fall in love in sages, within seconds it is decide if someone is deserving of our affection. The stages of love – lust, attraction and attachment all driven by hormones and chemicals, all on display in an ancient mating
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