These feelings make up warmth in a relationship. In a relationship, passion refers to motivations and other sources of arousal which turn into attraction, romance, and sexual intimacy. Decision and commitment includes components that are short-term and long-term, where decision is the choice for one to love another in the short-term and commitment is the long-term maintenance of that love. Included in this are cognitive elements that are part of decision making regarding the choice to commit to a relationship. While love can be separated into components, Sternberg suggests that it is important to not forget about love as a whole when delving deeper into interpretation of each of the
An excerpt taken from the book “The Road Less Travelled” which is written by Dr. M. Scott Peck is an argumentative type of text. The author is aiming to tell the audience about being a libertine will bring enjoyment rather than being a romantic. The excerpt explained about the bad side of being a romantic. There are two romance rituals which are obligatory romance and optional romance. These are apparent especially in courtly love.
The reader can acknowledge how Singer believes that the primary source of living a meaningful life, is love. Within his novel, the Pursuit of Love, Irving Singer discusses how love is the central definition of what meaning is, as well as further analyzes how love is not a desire to be loved. Nonetheless, Irving Singer would claim that life is not meaningless because humans search for meaning within all aspects of our existence. By solely being alive, individuals find the things that matter to them; therefore, whatever we as individuals believe “matters,” is a prerequisite for our life because it will bring happiness. Irving Singer’s optimistic theories make him an ideal philosopher because he offers an immense amount of insight by discussing how we can add meaning to our lives.
Gottman advocates the equality between spouses in everything. He also recommends keeping balance between everyday attention and big romantic gestures; in his opinion, everyday small but nice things work better than grandiose but rare romantic gestures. In general, the characteristics of the “healthy” marriage are following:
Through his explanations of these we find his personal views heavily influence which form is “correct” and more desirable. Platonic love being the desirable of all love forms. Platonic love is conceived by play to be ascending past desire for the individual to have passion for wisdom and ideal knowledge. This is a close relationship between two individuals in which sexual desire should be nonexistent or at the least suppressed. Through platonic love, male-male relationships were the ideal as men were supposed to be wise and philosophical while women were supposed to be caretakers and, in basics, baby factories.
Leon Rooke shares the quality of love in his short story, “A Bolt of White Cloth”. Rooke shows that love has the ability to produce the greatest happiness in the lives of people, but hardships must follow in order to achieve this love. Love comes in many forms as it is an emotion that can be expressed differently varying from person to person. Rooke uses magical realism by introducing an Eastern stranger that sells white cloth with magical qualities. The price, however, is love.
To achieve true peace and comfort, rather than trying to find love and comfort from others, an individual will search for someone who will give them a sense of belonging. This is seen through the novel, “the Catcher in the Rye” by J. D. Salinger where the persona, Holden, is seen searching for someone or a relationship. For example, the Holden tries to form many relationships including romantically, make friends, and with family members. Thus, to belong with a sense of peace and comfort, Holden attempts to interact with others. An individual who wants to achieve a sense of peace and comfort in the adult world will search for a long lasting romantic relationship.
The caregiver is readily available and responsive to the infant’s needs and emotions. When an infant develop trust in the availability and reliability of this relationship. The internal working models for the infants is likely to be one their anxiety is reduced and they can therefore explore and enjoy their world, safe in the knowledge that they can return to their secure base for help if needed and can emotionally regulate oneself. The child grows up to be confident, less disruptive and aggressive than the other groups, able to form long lasting relationships and have
But, how do you define a universally used term that means so many different things to so many different people? People’s definitions, beliefs, and ideas concerning love can vary significantly. The varying uses and meanings of the word, accompanied by the complex emotions it represents, makes love uniquely difficult to consistently and accurately define with a single definition. Similarly, cultural differences in the concept of love make a universal definition that much more impossible. Modern day, society portrays love as a force that transmits purpose into one’s life and can overcome all obstacles.
Moreover, Hazan and Shaver (1987, 2004) demonstrated that the same infant attachment styles occur in adulthood in relation to one's romantic partner, and that romantic love can be conceptualized as an attachment process (a process of becoming attached). They also found that love is experienced differently according to one's adult attachment style. Securely attached adults find closeness in romantic relationships easy and comfortable and depend on partners without fear of abandonment. Anxious/ambivalent adults often found that partners are hesitant to become as close as they would like them to and have strong desires for merger and union often scaring potential partner away. Avoidant adults are uncomfortable with closeness, trusting partners difficult and are uncomfortable with intimacy.