As the result, children may loss their self-esteem which is a critical development in their emotional aspect. According to some studies, when parents separate, children especially five to ten years old results to be one of the most unlucky persons by the fact that they lose the chance of having a happy family. People cannot blame a child who has no respect, low self-esteem, having a bad attitude, and dealing the world unjustly because we do not know their background. These children might have an ignorance of being a rightful people. They maybe not nourished by their parents well.
(Doughty.S., 2012) Even though the word divorce is common nowadays, it is still considered as a social disgrace which leads to family breakdown and the children continues to face irreparable damages and suffering throughout their lives. At the present time, even second
When children are forced out over and over again it makes them feel unwanted or that they did something wrong. Patricia George writes, “Shuttling children off to a strangers home for a period of days or weeks, only to be potentially shuttled off to another home… simply underscores the frightening and traumatic experience of seeing ones family fall apart” (George and Walker). Not only do children have to deal with the constant moving around, they also have to deal with complications such as sibling separation. Sometimes a family isn't always looking to foster or adopt more than one child at at time so social workers tear brothers and sisters apart. In some cases, siblings will never see each other for years or even ever
States that “It is important to bear in mind that children often experience a mix of seemingly contradictory feelings, including sadness, anger, fear, guilt and confusion.” Parents should understand the child’s situation because it’s very difficult for them to accept and adjust and the parents should explain to the child the situation to avoid the child on blaming his/her self on the separation of his/her parents. Blaming themselves can lead them more to feel that life is worthless, when children can feel these emotions, especially in an early stage in the near future they tend to become more worthless. In the long run they might not be able to feel the importance of life when this happens their characteristics might be hard to handle since they were not parented well since they were young. Less opportunity is to come their way since they might as well lost love and proper communication since they become anti-social because of the separation they
Some do belong to a broken home, and we all know that to belong on a broken home is really hard. A child who does not feel loved and cared has a miserable life. Having a broken family can affect the life of a child who belong it, and also it is really hard to them to have this kind of problem. Some do commit suicide because they think this is the only solution for their problem, they don 't know where they will run and who will help them in times trouble. They feel they 're alone because their parents have less attention on them.
However, they all fail to do so; Baby lamented "they are afraid of my sadness" (O'Neill, 2006, p.128). Nevertheless, Baby was correct in her assumption society feared her sadness, with teachers and social workers perpetuating the notion that she is a troubled kid, it was difficult to keep friends. This could have acted as a buffer from her home life. (Johnson, A.G. ,2008, pg8) stated that " The resulting patterns of inequality and oppression not only ruin people's lives, but also create division and resentment fed by injustice and suffering that eat away at the core of life in communities, workplaces, schools, and other social situations." Throughout the book progression of social exclusion affected Baby’s life; every step Baby makes in the right direction is thwarted by rejection.
These children often end up with psychological and behavioural problems. In the extreme, it becomes neglect, which is a form of child abuse (Sailor, 2004). Children with few rules who are ignored or living with hostility are noncompliant and aggressive. Eventually, they will have low self-esteem because they felt they are being abandoned by their parents and the
A person experiences different phases of life, happiness, sadness and many more. Many relations are made and many are broken in the life of a person. Among all, the most difficult phase of a married couple’s life is divorce. There can be many reasons behind this decision, for the married couple but as adults, they might get over the tough period emotionally, but children become victims of many psychological disease. They possess a sensitive mind and can easily get in a state of shock while seeing their parents split forever.
Parenting styles is one factor that declines after divorce. ‘Both parents may be lonely or take on more financial responsibilities resulting in less effective parenting’ (Conger et al, 2000). ‘Due to the less effective parenting such as ineffective discipline, lack of empathy and nurturance may result in the child becoming less socially competent in conflict resolution’ (Conger et al, 2000). The relationship of the parents and children are not the only impacts. The child is more likely to associate with antisocial peers, become sexually active earlier in life and possibly have mental health problems.
Initially my children suffered from homesickness and stress related to the removal from their birth home. The shock of this huge change in their lives resulted in various stress driven behaviors. All three of these children had frequent uncontrollable tantrums. The oldest boy was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder, and other stress-related problems. These problems were caused by abuse and neglect that occurred while he was with his birth family.