OK, but what if we could take this fear of failure out of the question and attain the success that we want without unnecessary stress and too much trouble? Well, this is another thing. The famous published author Brian Tracy defined the fear of failure as the “single barrier between us and success” and we always use this “I can’t” phrase to express this kind of fear. I can’t do this, I can’t do that… and we pretty much destroy our own success because we fear so much about not being able to do it, hence failing at life. Which leads me to ask myself: Is it something in the way we understand or define failure that makes us so fearful, so stressed up and in the end unsuccessful?
Fear of failure immobilizes you, restricts you to your comfort zone, prevents you from moving forward in life and restrains your chances of success. Defeat is not easy to swallow. There is no worse feeling than facing failure. Failure leaves you bitter, miserable and depressed. It is then not difficult to understand why most people are afraid of failing.
No great success is ever achieved without failing. We learn a lot from failures. "Be optimistic; don 't even think of failing", they say. But is denying the role of failure, in the making of a person, a good idea? Failure *always* precedes success.
The big problem with having bad self esteem is you can not just get rid of it overnight. It is something that has to be worked on, and it could even get worse. Before I let it get worse my plan is to start believing in myself no matter the outcome. Do the best I possibly can in sports and school and if it still is not enough I will see that It is
Anxious procrastination In the book, Now Habit, the author Neil Fiore explains that procrastination, “a mechanism for coping with the anxiety associated with starting or completing any task or decision.” According to him, procrastinators are usually poor managers of time. They bite more than they can chew in the sense that the schedule more tasks than they can handle within the time allotted. This heightens their anxiety and to cope and they end up procrastinating. Does this describe your case? Working through it: I have always counseled people not to overschedule so as to avoid anxiety procrastination.
Also he tried to fight for the better prison life situation for prisoners. The spirits of not giving up and optimistic were worth all of us to learn and praise since he was arrested again and again. Mr. Mandela seemed to know what was going on and never
Gratiano concludes that when people want something, in this case love, they spend too much time chasing it so when finally they can attain what they have always wanted, interest in the matter disappears. Therefore, Gratiano feels that often love is a waste of time because many relationships eventually run out of steam. Based on his attitude towards the subject of love, I feel that Gratiano could be both a good and a bad husband. He could either use his understanding of relationships to make sure he and his significant other do not make the same mistake as most. Or, his ideas could prevent him from ever engaging in a
The ultimate fear that can hold us back is fear of who we really are. I find that sometimes the most important growth is painful. One of my mentors has a saying for this "… that’s what growth feels like." I’m in a challenging environment and I see people fail all the time. In fact, when people aren’t failing, they aren’t trying hard enough.
In fact, Scout believed her father was boring compared to other fathers, she noticed, “He didn’t do the things out schoolmates’ fathers did” (118). She did not understand the importance of his job specifically; it was not labor, and she could not observe direct effects of his efforts. Scout did not think he had any skills for he took careful consideration and never showed off unless it was desperate. At one point in the novel, Atticus’s sister, Aunt Alexandra, wanted to teach the children about their heritage and their ancestors as if it dictated who they were, but Atticus worked to have the children perceive other people as simply having different ways of living. His observations can be observed through his accommodations for his company, “And yet not look too good, or talk too wise.” Scout noticed how depending on who he was around, he would change ever so slightly to ensure more comfort of them, not to cause them to feel inferior.
Life has a way of weighing us down, we want to live a life full of joy and success but the problems we come across in life, be it financially, academically or socially often leads to hopelessness but I am here to tell you that you can overcome. Everyone has a dream, and your dream is the one that will drive you when you in despair and you feel like you will not make it through the year. Your dream affects the way you talk, think and the way in which you live. George Bernard Shaw (1949, p465) once said, “Dream of things that were never there and ask yourself why not?”. Do not let your present situation limit your capabilities, whatever is on your report card right now does not mean you cannot but it is a motivation for you to press on even more harder.