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Character Analysis: Why We Fall In Love

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We fall in love with someone because of how they make us feel about ourselves. Love is selfish like that. It's why we keep going back to those who once used to make us feel good in our skin, in our bodies and our faces. When someone makes us feel funny, smart, attractive, talented, desirable we innately fall in love with them. This is true of friendship aswell.

Think of the first moments of lust (this applies, but less "flutteringly" to friendship) when the relationship was new and wonderful. You likely felt sexy. You likely felt valuable. Beautiful. Intelligent. Interesting. Funny. [insert good thing here] When once-great relationships turn bad, but the people keep trying to "make it work" and one keeps running back to the other, …show more content…

So, if you're ever wondering why your relationship with your partner isn't where it should be: remember that when people feel good about themselves, they'll likely reciprocate it. Don't run to the gym and get in shape (okay . . . do that, but don't do just that). Don't buy flowers. Make your partner feel beautiful, valuable, virile, strong, sexy, attractive, wanted, important, intelligent, etc. (actions always speak louder than words) Make that person feel like they did when you first fell in …show more content…

He was desperate for friendship to the point where he insisted on paying for everything. It was always Jimmy's treat. It was always Jimmy who paid. I'm not a cheapie but this man would wrangle a bill out of your hand. Jimmy had no friends. People kept away from Jimmy. Jimmy was also a very nice guy. Smart. Deep. But Jimmy never let anybody pay.

Why does that drive people away? Because people need to contribute. What we contribute to our relationships tells us we're essential and that we have worth. If people won't allow you to contribute to the relationship within the range of your ability, then they are essentially (and subconsciously) saying: "You are impotent. You are worthless. You have nothing of value to me. I don't really need you."

Parable of Ricky: My boyfriend has been in school for fucking EVER. Jeezis Christ I just want him to be done. For all of our 7 years, I've paid the bills, he's studied. Praise Vishnu he's nearing the end of the tunnel. Anyhoo, about a year and a half ago, he started getting depressed. Yes, he knew that I wanted him to graduate, but I didn't beat him up over "taking" my

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