Topic: Discipline Vs Abuse
Opening/Attention: I will start out by asking you all to close your eyes. Picture a scene, where you’re a small child, maybe about 10 years old. You were playing ball in the house, like mom and dad had told you not to do so many times before. You broke her favourite vase. You knew as soon as the smash happened that you were gonna get it. Now your mom is in front of you, she’s wagging her finger, and takes your ball away and says that you’re now in charge of unloading the dishwasher every night after dinner. Now, wipe that picture from your mind. You’re the same age, laying on the floor doing your homework. Your mom comes in and immediately picks you up off the floor and asks why chores aren’t done, You simply say
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I don’t remember how long they took them away, a week I think; but their thought on the situation was, I had made the holes in the wall, I took it upon myself to do something I knew was a bad decision, I now had to make the choice of what my punishment would be. I grew up loving my VHS tapes, so their view on my
Major Persuasive Speech Outline punishment was to take away something that I loved, for a short period of time. That way it would teach me that if I didn’t want to lose something that I truly enjoyed, I shouldn’t behave badly. Let me tell you I didn’t put holes in the wall ever again.
Spoken Link/Transition: I am a firm believer in discipline and punishment. I believe that children should be taught responsibilities for their actions, and that nothing should just be passed over or turned a blind eye on.
Facts, data, expert opinion:
a) Discipline is proven to strengthen relationships with children and their parents and create an environment that promotes respect of the family dynamic, the house rules and expectations.
(Sarah Smenyak, ‘The Difference between Discipline and Child Abuse’ livestrong.com, May
In Adrian Peterson’s case, I decided that his action did reflect abuse. I began to research more about the details about this case and found that Peterson disciplined his four-year-old child using a tree branch. The hitting with the tree branch did result in multiple bruises and lacerations surrounding the boy’s body. Peterson publicly admitted that he did discipline his son because he pushed his brother while playing video games (Bonesteel, 2016). Abuse is defined as the “knowing, intentional, negligent” harmful punishment given to a child and physical abuse refers to hurting the minor with “objects that leave marks” (Cauffman, 2018).
Punishments and violence in child education remain as something that never left humanity since the beginning of the age. Parents ordinarily conducts punishments, even incorporating violence on it for the right cause. Moreover, in a majority of cultures and history, the common belief incites that punishments must act as the absolute way of disciplining and raising a child right. But in recent times, researchers and scholars who have conducted the study and are claiming that violence and punishment for the children, even the mild ones, are never to be done since it affects the children negatively. Using various elements of nonfictions, ethos, pathos, and logos, in the article “No Spanking, No Time-Out, No Problems” author Khazan attempts to persuade
Jurgis Rudkus, the main character in The Jungle by Upton Sinclair, has a very rough journey when he moves to America from Lithuania. He faces many hardships and they're difficult for anyone to endure. Throughout the novel Jurgis is put through the justice/prison system multiple times, and each time he experienced something new, whether it be the unjust treatment he received, the food he was served, or even the condition of his cell and daily life there. The novel portrayed the justice system as an unfair one. They treat immigrants and the poor unfairly.
In the article “No Spanking, No Time-out, No Problems”, Olga Khazan uses many rhetorical strategies to support and persuade her audience. That traditional punishment methods of parents will not change a child’s/children’s unruly behavior overall, but positive reinforcement will increase the chances of better behavior not only now, but in the future as well. “Positive reinforcement is the presentation of a pleasurable consequence following a behavior” (Craighead). This twist to traditional discipline teaches children to work towards a resolution instead of teaching them to lean toward violence. “For example, the way that parents discipline their children is how children discipline their peers” (Khazan).
The opinion piece ‘Gently Does It’ written by Cheryl Critchley, asserts the dire effect ‘smacking’ young children has on their development and potentially aggressive future. ‘Smacking’ often elicits a vehement debate, with parents saying it is their right and decision whether “to smack or not smack”, with others suggesting it proposes an unclear and burred line regarding domestic abuse. Critchley’s article was posted on the 10th of August 2013 in the Sunday Herald. This choice of platform is concurrent with an older target audience, particularly parents who or may not be partaking in the ‘harmful’ act of ‘chastisement.’ A maternal tone is adopted by Critchley throughout the entirety of her piece, whilst showing growing concern for the probable
The issue Khazan discusses in “No Spanking, No Time-Out, No Problems”, parents need to change their own behavior, before wanting to change their child’s behavior. Khazan confronts the issue of punishment along with behavior using a persuasive writing style to share her thoughts on punishment: “Punishment might make you feel better, but it won’t change the kid’s behavior” (Khazan 25). Khazan presents a child psychologist, Alan Kazdin’s to speak on parenting interventions. Along with parenting intervention, Khazan utilizes her interview with Kazdin, presenting a more of an understanding towards the issue of punishment. Utilizing Kazdin’s parenting interventions, he uses examples to prove that; punishment should not be used to fix negative behavior.
Imagery in Catcher in the Rye In the novel by J.D. Salingher, The Catcher in the Rye, there are many examples of imagery. Imagery adds to the effect the reader feels while reading the novel: “Imagery is descriptive language to produce mental images. Using imagery is one of the best tools an author can use to engage readers in stories.” (enotes) Holden’s impressions about Stradlater’s walk, the prostitute he hires, and the stage show at Radio City create powerful imagery. While Stradlater goes out on a date with Jane, Holden waits for Stradlater at the dorm.
Spanking can be effective when a child is not listening to a parent. If a child isn’t following proper rules and disregarding their parents’ statement, then a spanking can enforce a form of respect that the child has to follow (Jasmine, 2015). It can be an awakening to reality as the child could now think of how their actions are deviant. Parents that don’t resolve to spanking as the first and only method of discipline is essential for both the parents and the child. I believe a parent should always try to enforce rules by talking and showing examples of how deviant actions are frowned upon.
I was sitting in my dreadful History class and got a text message from my mother, "Call me as soon as you can.” This sent me into immediate panic. Was she hurt? Did she find out about ____?
For many, spanking a kid is deemed to be one of the best ways to raise a kid. Since the previous generations, also known as the older generations were raised this mode, many accredit that applying the almost exact same method on their kids can lead these youngsters to learn and grow straight, therefore expecting that a spanked kid will aftermath in a prospective society with future gracefully informed and well educated adults. However, corporal punishments aren’t indeed the appropriate way neither the best solution to deal with the misbehavior of a little bairn. Spanking a kid, whether it’s with bare hands or a flat object, may lead some kids to actually rebel against their family.
Many people think that the reason for this is easily described as “if you hold the reins too tight, the horse will buck.” Over punishing a child can be a bad thing, it will make the child want to retaliate more so than if one were to cut a little slack. However, under punishing a child can be bad as well, not teaching a child right from wrong can majorly increase the odds of the child doing the wrong thing. Reasons that parents give for spanking their children are to make children listen better, and to encourage better behavior, especially to put a stop to children's aggressive behaviors. Research shows, however, that spanking, or indeed any form of physical punishment, tends to have the opposite effect.
"Child Abuse and Neglect" says that Physical abuse can include "striking a child with the hand, fist, or foot or with an object, burning, shaking, pushing, or throwing a child; pinching or biting the child, pulling a child by the hair or cutting off a child’s air." However, physical abuse is considered to be a use of punishment in wrecked as well as normal families such as the use of physical force with the intent of inflicting bodily pain, but not injury, for the purpose of correction or control or discipline. Yet, there is a thin line between physical punishment and abuse which many parents seem to lack notice of. "Child Abuse and Neglect" explains that the level of force used by an angry or frustrated parent can easily get out of hand and lead to injury. Emotional or verbal abuse is one of the worst forms of mistreatment due to its invisibility.
I. Introduction A. P. J. O 'Rourke once said “Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them” (O’Rourke, Pg.10). Parents always want their children to be better than what they used to be when they were at their age; that is why they care about every detail in their children’s life especially when it comes to behavior, obeying them and listening to their words. B. Background Information: i. People came to realize that physical punishment is a rough, atrocious, unacceptable mean of punishment that should be banned for its appalling, horrifying effects. ii. Facts about physical punishment (sources used) 1.
Child abuse is, thus, the outcome of having cultured or experienced dysfunctional childcare practices, or not having learned these practices. For instance, someone may have violent behavior because he or she has learned it from other aggressive role models, thus they will rely on such ways to discipline their own children as punishment. Though this is theory takes into accounts the importance of the development of an adult, it could not explain why although boys and girls are likely to be abused, still men are mostly represented among the offenders. It could not suffer any abuse become abuser (CORBY, 1993; 2000; BROUGHAM, 1997; BROWNE, 1995; DEACON AND GOCKE,
In different instances, this would come up in conversations and the reactions were for the majority “that’s awful” or “poor thing” or “I can’t understand how anyone could do such a thing” and I never fully understood why. My mother was raised with an abusive father and a compromising mother (who too was dealing with the abuse), so I have seen how a negative experience can have a positive impact/result (message) on a person/child. I have now grown a curiosity to understand the different limits of child abuse and believe what my parents did benefitted me and any other children who received this discipline. With that in mind, I am going to define, and explore different aspects of child abuse with some modern examples. Some people believe that physical punishments can be degrading and negatively affect the mental health of the child compared to those who think it teaches discipline and how to respect others without any significant damage to the child 's psyche.