Once a baby is born and a woman enters motherhood, her maternal instincts come naturally, either right away or over time. The one major problem with that is because becoming a mother comes with some unrealistic expectations to be a perfect one as well. Mothers, especially new ones, are pressured so much in their lives, because they have a child to take responsibility for. All of these presumptions may add to the stress that a new mother is already dealing with from learning how to take care of her baby. Family members and even community members put these mothers to shame by telling them how to do something the “correct” way.
Being a moral scold about the fecklessness of a single mom, one who cannot adequately provide for the needs of a child, doesn’t do anything to solve the problem. (Not to mention my mantra: she didn’t do it all by herself.) We are sailing into the unexplored territory of couple-hood. Notwithstanding the lessons taught by Frank Sinatra in the once popular ode to “Love and Marriage,” it turns out he was wrong: you can have one (love) without the other (marriage). And you can don’t have to be married to have a baby either (no matter what you learned in mid-school.)
For example, the single mother in the family has to become the caregiver of her child and the role of father as the mother need to go to work in order to earn money for the living cost. Besides, Leman (2005) stated that in Malaysia, single parenting issue is also on the rise, it was reported that single working mothers are producing delinquent children. Can you imagine how the single parent take care of his or her children if his or her have more than one child and on the other side, his or her need to work during the day? This will definitely be one of the issues that faced by the single parents. This issue indirectly bring negative outcomes among the children such as poor academic achievement of the children, children will having low self-esteem, emotional problems and children faced problems when maintaining the social relationships with others children.
The Downside of Single Parenting “A single parent could feel like a mouse racing on a wheel, where she/he is continually running, trying to maintain a proper household and raise healthy children.” This is a statement from Victoria Thompson. I do believe in this statement because for me single parents, unlike the married couple, are having a hard time in dividing their time with their work and taking good care of their kids. So, single parenting faces more disadvantages like the experience of economic hardship, negative judgment of the community and the psychological effects on rearing children that make the family and relation cycle really complicated. Single parenting is about having a child without living with a partner or spouse. In historical events, the major reason of becoming a single parent is because of the death of a partner, but nowadays, the main reason of being single parents is either divorce or unplanned pregnancy.
She seems to be a traditional caring mother, who is very patient about her son. She cooks breakfast to him, and is very talkative. Even though she knows her son is lying directly in her face, she waits for him to be truthful, before she has to confront him, as it seems like she is giving him a chance to be open minded. As likely as any other mothers she is curious about her son, and gets suspicious when she sees her son hiding things from her. She is like any other mother in the world, who wants to talk with her child about school and work that she also does.
I have seen the damaging effects in many divorced couples who cannot co-parent due to the hate they have for one another. Sadly, as “Popular Mechanics” portrays, the children are the ones who pay the price. Sometimes as parents we can be selfish; we should strive to act like the true mother in Solomon’s story by considering our child’s welfare in everything we do, including our marriage and even in our
An unexpected teenage pregnancy can negatively affect the mother for many reasons. A teenage mother must be prepared “to financially support and raise her child” as having to pay for a baby is expensive. A new baby is expensive and minimum wage jobs will not be enough to pay for a baby unless there are other financial means of support. In An Invisible Thread, Maurice’s mother had to go to dangerous jobs to financially support herself which negatively affected her health. Many mothers find it hard to graduate high school with a new baby, much less finish college which will later lead to financial issues(Campbell 10).
Like anyone the mother could only take on the responsibility of herself and her child yet she allows her child to go about by himself; this is proven when the article states, “by allowing him to cross the street and go to the park alone.” The mother was not aware but there was criminal activity recorded in the area where she allowing her son to be alone. In other words someone could have kidnapped, raped, molested, abducted and or abused her son. Regardless of the possible outcomes and the criminal in particular, his mom would be held responsible. Another example presented in this article was unclear judgement similar to the mother assuming her son would be
If they do not receive treatment, they will starve and dead. 3.1.4 Faced Challenges Single parents also faced challenges in providing children education, cares, and loves especially for a single parent who carrying more than one child as the children may think that they are not getting enough of loves from their parents. For instance, if a single parent family, has two child, one of the child may have to use the old school uniform from his or her siblings. The child may feel unfair and misunderstanding that their parent is partiality or the parent is dislike of him or her. 3.1.5 Facing Prejudice and
Too often children living in single parent households have to contend with negative stereotypes and hurtful remarks made by insensitive adults. Regardless of whether the single parent family exists as result of divorce or death of the other parent, or the parent choosing not to marry, the child is clearly not responsible for the circumstances. In this essay, the following points will be discussed and analysed i.e. father absenteeism, norms and values and abuse of children as reasons which contribute to matrifocal families and how they can contribute to the social ills in the Caribbean society. Parental Absence is usually the main cause of any effect on children.